We waited until the engagement before we indulged!(easier for me than him!)I was "entitled" to being on the pill,being an engaged lady! Plus I definitely didn't want to risk a pregnancy! Also as an added "no no"I was brought up with the" nice girls didn't ".I was 21 at the time and" it"happened when we were on holiday.We were staying with his aunt and uncle.Separate rooms for DH(then)and I but when they left for work,himself visited and we did the deed.I was an "innocent" virgin.He,d had a teenage girlfriend before me whom he lost his to. She DIDN'T need a ring or the pill .I was told,much later no other method was used either.I insisted on "back up".I must have been thorough!!Can't say it was earthshattering but it was nice to be" close ".Anyone else have good or bad memories of their" first time "?