When the OP never responds😬.

infoman

But,if a poster does not come back,
will YOUR world be altered in any way?
If a poster does not come,so be it.
It does not worry me in the slightest.

Yes

Obviously minutely, but yes.
Rudeness in my opinion. [though there may be genuine reasons in some cases].
And I agree about waiting at least a day.

People mention politeness. I agree.
Maybe others are getting used to others not being polite. I am not in that position yet. And I dont want to be either.

MY world is good, thanks.

There's a thread running on GN where I counted 15 questions from posters on page 1. (Me sitting in a boring airport). Now three days later, and on page 4, that figure must be approaching 50 or more. Still no answers, which leaves people to suggest the OP is having a laugh or can't be bothered.

But,if a poster does not come back,
will YOUR world be altered in any way?
If a poster does not come,so be it.
It does not worry me in the slightest.

MissInterpreted

It's the ones who put up a post and attempt to dictate what kind of response they should get. Sorry, but that's not how internet forums work. Then they get all 'offended' when the thread takes a different turn or they get replies which don't suit them.

I think I agree here.
Why put up an opening post when you already know the answer you want to hear?

Aveline

Thanks Bella23. Now I'm feeling left out

I've just found it again I had pushed it into archives. It was supposed to be a Gransnet Newsletter dated 31.12 2023.
I've never had one before or since. Please don't feel left out I'm beginning to think it is a scam and someone has my proper e-mail address with my name. If no one else has received it, it is quite worrying. I think I'll put it on ask a gran. What do you think?

I do think it is polite to check back and acknowledge any replies, but understand that some people only go on-line at certain times of day. So I wouldn't write them off until at least 24 hours after an original post.

I'm a newbie and I have started a few threads and I think it is manners to acknowledge the replies. I have noticed on some threads there are a few not very nice comments but that's life I suppose

It's the ones who put up a post and attempt to dictate what kind of response they should get. Sorry, but that's not how internet forums work. Then they get all 'offended' when the thread takes a different turn or they get replies which don't suit them.

Interesting/informative though they may be, I cannot be bothered to read long diatribes unless the topic REALLY interests me and even then I often give up.

Aveline

Thanks Bella23. Now I'm feeling left out

Me too!

Thanks Bella23. Now I'm feeling left out

Aveline

What is the Gransnet round up?

It was a post I got from Gransnet team, a week gone Saturday. They talked about the posts they had laughed at like mine and the other person I remember being mentioned was Kitty I think for being rational. I just wondered why it had not been mentioned.
Not that I am blowing my own trumpet by dropping my Knickers but quite a few people were named and I can't remember getting one last year. Now I have gone off-piste from the original post.

I can understand why OP does not come back when someone de-contextualises one word or phrase they take offence to and trolls it, rather than replying to the actual argument being made. This is poor posting practice and all too common on forums such as this. Still, you dont need intelligence to post on a forum, just an internet connection.

What is the Gransnet round up?

At this time of year many are away from home and sometimes there is no internet, especially in remote areas. That’s where I live anyway. All sorts of reasons people may not return, illness, family crises etc. I agree about the long winded weird posts,though - I often think it is bored kids looking for a laugh which is a shame when they are actually genuine.

I think you are right Greenfinch. I have my doubts about the long-winded ones as well.
Do people do it for a laugh? Is it a release to put it in writing or do some people not like the answers they are being given, if they were me I would defend my case. I also wonder if some company or magazine/newspaper is paying them to get elderly ladies as they think of us, ideas.

I find it annoying too. At least the OP could say thanks for the responses.

It’s like people who give an email address or join a WhatsApp group but never bother to look at them. Especially the ones who then say “ oh I didn’t know about that”

I think it is the polite thing to do to come back and acknowledge any comments from OP.
I don’t start many threads at all, but when I have done, I do try to respond to the replies.
I agree, recently there have been some very long posts from new posters who don’t come back, either to their thread or to join in any others. I have to say, they are the ones I am most dubious about.

I also am wary of long-winded posts from posters whose names are not familiar to me especially if they do not return and I wonder if people are paid to invent a complicated family dilemma. I apologise if I am doing anyone an injustice.

I always try to come back when I have posted. My last was just before Christmas and I said my day before knickers had fallen out of my cords leg in the Supermarket.
I got lots of other people telling their tales then came back and told how my knicker elastic had snapped in Chatsworth house and my aunt calmly put them in her handbag.
I got a mention in the Gransnet Round up of 2023 as did the others who told their tales and people like Kitty Lester who has other skills. No one has ever referred to that. Did only the people who were mentioned in it get the Newsletter?
It is only manners if you post to come back and keep the dialogue going, sum it up or at least say thank you.
If we are not careful it is turning into Moansnet not what it was when I joined a few years ago. We are not displaying the good manners we are always complaining about in younger people.

Some “new” posters post long involved initial threads and don’t come back to acknowledge any replies, and are subsequently never heard of again.
I don’t take these threads seriously. It wastes the time of Gransnetters who are genuinely trying to help.

We are obviously in a minority!
I had expected a more robust response.

* still

Drives me crazy!
I sometimes deliberately start having a dialogue with myself that takes the thread off topic, (in a lighthearted way), but srill the OP doesn't come back!
I don't think they're genuine.

If an opening post is by a name I dont recognise[I still dont recognise all regular names], I hesitate a bit to reply. As I also find it annoying if someone runs away after bothering to start a thread, and then doesnt come back again.