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I.m not that old. !!!

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Murraymint Wed 17-Jan-24 11:05:02

Belated new year's greetings. I have been poorly since the start of the year, ending with a few days in hospital. The nursing staff could not have been nicer. The fact most of them were young enough to be my granddaughter s / sons, is neither here nor there. My shock came when reading my discharge letter. Apparently, I. was under the care of geriatric doctors !! I'm only 66 yo, and nowhere near geriatric. Gave my hubby and family a good laugh though.....

Knitandnatter Wed 17-Jan-24 11:08:55

Sorry Murraymint, you became Geriatric when you turned 65yrs of age.

But I do sympathise, in my head and heart I am only 40ish but my body is fast approaching 70........smile

Witzend Wed 17-Jan-24 11:14:00

I was described in my notes as an ‘elderly’ primigravida when having my first baby at 28!

I don’t recall the G word being used in any of the hospital appt. letters I received for follow up appts. (having been in hospital for 3 weeks last March) but any copies of letters between doctors certainly mentioned my age (74 then).

An undoubted fact, but it’s not exactly uplifting to see it in cold hard print!

Elusivebutterfly Wed 17-Jan-24 11:16:55

Most hospitals only admit people under geriatric care when they are over 75, or at least 70.
I imagine with the current issues in the NHS, people are admitted wherever possible, even if not the most appropriate place. When I was waiting for a hysterectomy I was told that the gynae ward was always full of elderly people during winter so no surgery would happen until spring.

Elusivebutterfly Wed 17-Jan-24 11:19:21

I had a pre-assessment by phone recently and was asked if I could walk and move normally, presumably because I am over 70. On the other hand, the online form I had to complete asked if I could carry heavy furniture or play football or ski. I said no to those!

Purplepixie Wed 17-Jan-24 11:22:59

I hate that term. I feel 50 years old but actually over 70.

Spuddy Wed 17-Jan-24 11:23:20

HA HA HA!

A few years ago I had trouble with my left leg/foot and had to spend all night in a cubicle in A&E before they transferred me to a ward. But before they ''warded'' me they had to send me to another section for a few hours until a ward patient was released.

They sent me temporarily to Gynecology even though I was 54 at the time and the nurse joked ''you're a bit old for having a baby!''

Chardy Wed 17-Jan-24 11:32:10

Knitandnatter

Sorry Murraymint, you became Geriatric when you turned 65yrs of age.

But I do sympathise, in my head and heart I am only 40ish but my body is fast approaching 70........smile

So we're geriatric before we retire! Great

2507C0 Wed 17-Jan-24 11:38:13

We need a new term for golden people.

Gwyllt Wed 17-Jan-24 11:42:21

Sounds like a new thread

watermeadow Thu 18-Jan-24 13:50:43

Yesterday I was waiting to cross a busy road after an hour’s walk with my dog when a woman walked past then came back to ask if I needed help to cross.
I’m a fit and healthy 79 but her kind offer made me feel geriatric.

Bella23 Thu 18-Jan-24 14:07:21

From the knees down I'm 20 , up old enough to have a bus pass but not for the hairdresser to give me the elderly discount. The barber does DH and he actually looks younger than me as he still has black hair not much of it but it's black.

dalrymple23 Thu 18-Jan-24 14:20:39

It is deeply depressing when the press refers to someone in an article as being "elderly" when he or she is only in their early sixties. As for the use of the word "geriatric" ...................... it is awful and even more depressing. One might be flipping ancient and the body is falling apart at the seams but the brain has not yet caught up - well mine hasn't anyway! Maybe we should start an action group to change the terminology, just as other activists have done!!

Cabbie21 Thu 18-Jan-24 14:53:11

I was really pleased when I read a consultant’s letter to my GP described me as a “ very pleasant lady”, with no mention of the word ‘ elderly’, though of course my date of birth was somewhere in the letter.
This was following a fracture. When I was asked by the clinician ‘“Would you say you are active?”, I replied,” Yes, but it’s all relative”, meaning I lead a normal sort of life without restrictions, as long as it is at my own pace. I don’t go to the gym or do anything other than short walks and housework to keep physically active, but am very active mentally and in the community.
She ticked the box for Active. Surprised but pleased.
Not everyone downgrades us.

HousePlantQueen Thu 18-Jan-24 15:01:05

I find the answer to any suggestion that I may be 'elderly' is either a frosty stare, something akin to Maggie Smith in Downton Abbey, or a flippant 'whatever' as said by those far, far younger than I am.

Marydoll Thu 18-Jan-24 15:05:13

After my first heart attack at 64, I was classed as a geriatric patient. I wasn't too pleased initially. However, it's only a category and as long as I get the care I require, I don't care!

crazyH Thu 18-Jan-24 15:14:01

When I went to my GP with knee pain, I told him it was preventing me from going on my daily walks. He says “ Well, surely you’re not planning to climb Mount Everest, are you? “ And told me to buy anti-inflammatories - there is a joke there somewhere, but I couldn’t find it at the time.

silverlining48 Thu 18-Jan-24 15:16:29

When I was working being elderly began at 60.
At the time when I was young, I thought 60 was quite elderly, now I wish I was 60.

Gin Thu 18-Jan-24 15:32:45

I am old but do not feel it and generally ignore the fact. However, I have been known to play the ‘poor old lady ‘ when
it gives me preferential treatment!

LucyAnna Thu 18-Jan-24 15:34:57

Cabbie21

I was really pleased when I read a consultant’s letter to my GP described me as a “ very pleasant lady”, with no mention of the word ‘ elderly’, though of course my date of birth was somewhere in the letter.
This was following a fracture. When I was asked by the clinician ‘“Would you say you are active?”, I replied,” Yes, but it’s all relative”, meaning I lead a normal sort of life without restrictions, as long as it is at my own pace. I don’t go to the gym or do anything other than short walks and housework to keep physically active, but am very active mentally and in the community.
She ticked the box for Active. Surprised but pleased.
Not everyone downgrades us.

I had a consultants letter to my GP a couple of years ago describing me as a “very pleasant lady” - I wondered if it was medical staff code for…..?

mae13 Thu 18-Jan-24 15:40:03

Very often the word "elderly" is automatically coupled with "vulnerable", as if you're so doddery you can't even make a cup of coffee. "Vulnerable" conjures up a monochrome image of someone 70+ stuck in a recliner chair all day alternating between dozing and dribbling!
I loathe the damn word.

welbeck Thu 18-Jan-24 15:43:34

i don't like to disillusion anyone, but...
i don't think, this v pleasant lady, is used of anyone under 60.
everyone at work is aware that everything may be read by the subject eventually, and codes are used.

silverlining48 Thu 18-Jan-24 16:42:46

I used to referred to as this charming lady etc in doctors letters, wondered if it was code for ‘not an axe murderer‘.

silverlining48 Thu 18-Jan-24 16:46:01

This hasn’t happened for a while now. Now I am mrs S the patient, my charm is no longer mentioned.

cornergran Thu 18-Jan-24 20:18:06

Letter from cardiologist about Mr C included ‘this pleasant gentleman and his supportive wife’. Suspect it was code for interfering!