People who refuse to slow down in life

I’m another working full time long hours full on when I was sixty. Just stopped horse riding (arthritic knees) but doing yoga and Pilates. Retired at 62 reluctantly when RA flared badly. Back two days a week the following year when good meds and less stress had me accepting a part time role for 18 months

Blimey , only 60 . From your posts I was assuming she was 80.
I’m also intrigued as to what she does to have sky high bp. Is she working , caring for elderly relatives or GC? Does she do a lot for the local community or is it sports related ? .
At 60 she’s used to a busy lifestyle and doesn’t want to sit watching daytime tv. I know I wouldn’t . I’m 64 and have very busy life and rarely sit down until the evenings. However I’m fit and healthy and don’t take any medications.
Ultimately it’s her choice how to live her life .
I’m wondering if you’re a bit jealous of her active lifestyle.

When the thread has finished, I may ask for it to be taken down.
I have written more than I was meaning to.
Difficult to reply without saying too much, or too little.

At the moment, very few people in rl know how precarious things are for her.

She is no longer able to work due to her previous big health problem.
Again caused by high bp from what I can remember.

As a few people are saying, she is the social butterfly/moth type.

I expect your friend knows ‘how precarious things are for her’. Let her make her own decisions in that knowledge.

Despite multiple comorbidities, including RA, heart failure, deteriorating COPD and extremely high BP, my clinicians approve the fact that I try to keep going. It is a matter of pacing yourself, which took me a very long time to achieve.
Much better for my mental health.

The pace that suits one person won't fit with another's necessarily.
The pace I can manage is almost at a standstill because I physically cannot manage more.

👏👏👏 Marydoll.

The trick is to know when to stop. Some days I can manage to do stuff, some days I can do nothing.
It has taken me a long time to stiop feeling guilty and see myself as lazy.

My GC call me NLB ….I will leave you to guess 😂

I was working full-time in central London until I was 62. Yes, I know that is a "youngster" for some, but it was also taking 3 hours a day to travel there and back each day for the last 16 years of my working life, even though I am only 25 miles from the City because of the appalling, slow and unreliable train and tube service.

I've been retired for nearly 5 years now and, in relative terms, have slowed down a lot. Some days I am full of energy and garden, shop, sew, clean and cook all day. I have full days of childcare or after school childcare at least twice a week. Other days I do nothing much except sew and browse the internet (including Gransnet!) I can live with that, it's my time now and I don't feel at all guilty having worked since I was 16.

My mum was a whirlwind until she was in her late 80s when she became very ill. She was always up early and "doing" until she went to bed. No-one gave her a medal!

Each to their own...

Nice to hear you are getting more active and enjoying things although I expect you need to push yourself.
I have been quiet as usual.
Had UTI this week better now.
Sorry about 16th. It’s a treat for me and tickets were bought so couldn’t change things. I expect all of you will enjoy chatting together.
All for now, take care. Jill x

I was fine until I had a knee injury back in September and now I just cant get the same level of energy or enthusiasm. I'm hoping some of it will return when the weather gets warmer. My knee still plays up a bit on occasion and that just makes me feel older. I'll be 72 in April.

Marydoll - I share RA and various other autoimmune conditions, as well as AF, copd (mild) plus ordinary age related stuff , awaiting hernia surgery and currently a broken shoulder. So lots to get me down but I’m cracking on. 75 next month

I actually died (or passed on) in 1999, but I dug myself back up and kept going....

Iam64

Marydoll - I share RA and various other autoimmune conditions, as well as AF, copd (mild) plus ordinary age related stuff , awaiting hernia surgery and currently a broken shoulder. So lots to get me down but I’m cracking on. 75 next month

Iam64, With a bang and not a whimper, to misquote TS Elliot!

I hope you feel better soon! 💐

Ouch Iam64.
Shoulders are supposed to be horribly painful when they're injured.

Best wishes from me too.

Thanks you two. One positive is that having managed RA and inevitable flares, I’m using the life lessons and following the advice from my doctor and physio. I’m wearing the sling, only remove to shower and do the exercises. Yes, shoulders are very painful - I’m so limited as well. Blessed though with family and friends. Daughter picking me up to do a Big Shop for my week - thank goodness for decent ready meals. My inability to chop vegetables Means a much less interesting or healthy diet. But yes, onwards and upwards, tho I certainly can’t move my arm upwards

My DH doesn't stop, even since being diagnosed with heart failure. He would rather be "doing" than sit vegetating in front of a TV with nothing worth watching. He has already exceeded the expected lifespan, given his heart issues, and is fit as a fiddle for someone of his age. I doubt he would still be here if he had listened to the advice of the specialist.