Feeling a bit left out!

Do you keep in touch and see photos via WhatsApp?
They have their own routines and family unit to establish.
As long as they know you're there for them if needed, get on with enjoying your own life and friends is my advice.
We had our time, it's theirs now 😊

I don't have grandchildren and I'm more than happy with that. I only had one child myself through choice (whom I love dearly) and I am just not baby or child orientated. If I had grandchildren I really wouldn't want to see them every day. I'm too busy with my own life to be honest.

I have a friend who lives only for her grandchildren. It's all she ever talks and thinks about, endlessly. I wonder if this is something of a modern phenomenon because I don't remember grandparents being so obsessive years ago.

Never make comparisons with other families, not even those of your friends, In fact never compare with friends.

As others have said, every family is different - and we also get threads on GN from grandmothers struggling because they have to do so much childcare and their grandchildren are with them all the time.

As you say, you have a happy relationship with the parents, and that is the most important thing. You are fotunate that your grandchildren live near enough to see them so frequently. For those of us whose grandchildren live further away, we see our grandchildren a lot less than once a fortnight.

No, you're not expecting too much but as you say, it is all new to you and not just you personally. They are new families and there's a lot to navigate.
However, communication is key so why not let the new parents know that you are available to give them a break now and again and would love to see more of them all - they aren't mind readers and might really appreciate some special time knowing that the babies are well looked after.

Go with the flow it’s an emotional time for all concerned especially for nans and grans. Your time will come just enjoy when it does and it will bring great pride every time ou see your beautiful grandchild💐

ClaraDee

BlueBelle, they are 5 and 6 months. I have a great relationship with all the parents, so I know its not personal. Maybe I was expecting too much! We would see them everyday if we could, wouldn't we!

No!

I never understand those grandparents who want to essentially bring up the grandkids.
Perhaps it is because I had several children myself?

Each to their own though.

I think once a month may be quite often for young parents.

Just wait patiently, all will be well.

I have 2 grandchildren born 7 weeks apart. Just don't want to impose or look like I'm not interested either! It's a juggling act!

Claradee - once a fortnight is the norm I would say. Do you mean you have twin grandchildren or you have 2 grandchildren by 2 of your children? Regardless, I am sure you will be seeing more of them as they grow older - you will be enlisted for babysitting duties . So don’t fret - xx

BlueBelle, they are 5 and 6 months. I have a great relationship with all the parents, so I know its not personal. Maybe I was expecting too much! We would see them everyday if we could, wouldn't we!

If they re very young you may find as they get a bit older you get called on for babysitting duties so don’t worry too much
How new is new ?

It is unfortunate for you that you do not see them as much as you would like, however it is how the parents want it so you must accept that. Once a fortnight seems okay to me, dont forget they have other friends and relatives to see as well as work and other commitments.