where would you scatter ashes?

It might be safe but I wouldn’t fancy swimming among people’s ashes.

nor me

I can see why locals would be appalled by it - cremation isn't really a thing in Turkey. I do know people who have scattered ashes over there, but it's either been done very respectfully at a site with local co-operation or at a boat out at sea. And it certainly doesn't surprise me which bar in Marmaris was involved.

I hate the idea of scattering ashes anywhere, I always wonder when people go up on hills etc and toss them into the wind - who's washing they could end up on or even through someones open window!

I do think that it was totally inappropriate. Maybe if they had chosen to go during the night it would have been more sensible. But the idea of adults and children swimming and paddling in the ashes is really not acceptable.

Yes, the above examples tell the true story of 'scattering' I don't think it is either dignified nor particularly healthy.

I know someone who left instructions for their ashes scattering in a nearby river. One of their children obtained an eco 'boat' on-line where the ashes could be safely transferred to a bio-degradable box which was then floated on the river and was filmed drifting slowly downstream.

I thought it was a fitting way to honour the deceased's wishes whilst not ending up with a faceful of powder.

Internment in the local cemetery or crematorium is the best way I think.

That's what we did with my mum's ashes.
My brother in law took a broom, to make sure her boat thing didn't float back

Nowhere.
I think it is a horrible thing to do.
I saw a family scattering ashes into the wind on a hilltop and we unwittingly walked through them. I thought it was smoke.

You are not allowed to just scatter ashes anywhere.

You have to have the permission of the landowner or check with the environmental rules if it is a National Park or other similar location.

They are not good for the environment.

Scattering into the sea is eco friendly.
You can have a marine coral set up, to become part and parcel of the sea.

Puts me off eating fish (which I like very much).

Apart from the unpleasant practicalities of scattering cremated ashes into the sea next to other holidaymakers it was inappropriate for cultural reasons. Turkey is a Muslim country and cremation is forbidden under Islamic law.

My Muslim neighbour refused to enter my house recently when she realised I had returned from the funeral director’s with the ashes of a family member. She was very uneasy at the prospect of being under the same roof . She politely informed me she’d have to stay away till I’d made the final trip with the ashes 6 weeks later.

Far out to sea is fine but near the shore - no!

There are firms which will take you far enough out so you do not inconvenience others.

Or do as they did on "What We Did on our Holiday"!

Grannynannywanny

Apart from the unpleasant practicalities of scattering cremated ashes into the sea next to other holidaymakers it was inappropriate for cultural reasons. Turkey is a Muslim country and cremation is forbidden under Islamic law.

My Muslim neighbour refused to enter my house recently when she realised I had returned from the funeral director’s with the ashes of a family member. She was very uneasy at the prospect of being under the same roof . She politely informed me she’d have to stay away till I’d made the final trip with the ashes 6 weeks later.

Turkey itself is actually a secular country, although the vast majority of the population are Muslims.

In Leicester the Asian community have been using the River Soar for sending ashes downstream along with floral tributes. This has been going on for decades and they are even provided with platforms going out into the river for mourners.

It must be like people soup...

They should have checked they'd be allowed to do that before they went out there as even in GB you have to get approval to scatter ashes in some areas.
I think it's disrespectful that they just went ahead without asking for permission and I'm even wondering if they knew but decided to pretend otherwise?

Primrose53

In Leicester the Asian community have been using the River Soar for sending ashes downstream along with floral tributes. This has been going on for decades and they are even provided with platforms going out into the river for mourners.

I remember reading about that tradition on the river Soar. The river has been blessed by a Hindu priest with holy water from the river Ganges.

Crematoria provide areas for scattering. We scattered an aunt’s ashes at Chalice Well Garden, Glastonbury (with permission). By the time we had finished the garden had turned white!

I remember watching that film 'What we did on our holiday' it was so good.
Equally good was 'Last Orders'.

My son and daughter walked the 'Lyke Wake Walk' 2 years ago to scatter their father's ashes. They repeated the walk last year.

charley68

I remember watching that film 'What we did on our holiday' it was so good.
Equally good was 'Last Orders'.

My son and daughter walked the 'Lyke Wake Walk' 2 years ago to scatter their father's ashes. They repeated the walk last year.

Forgot to add that my DH wanted to do that walk for a few years - covid got in the way.

here ashes are allowed in ocean but 3miles out
and my husband was a waterman he loved his water and fishing so we did this

youtu.be/N3DELFIcy74

The crematorium will deal with ashes. My brother and I had no desire to take our parents’ ashes. They are not the person, after all. We had a lovely family lunch in memory of our mother and father.

Oh that's really lovely.
Thank you