I told off new mum

Oh dear 😱

I flew to my parents home in mainland Europe when DS4 was 10 days old, and when DD arrived two weeks late I had no choice other than to go to a conference the other end of the country with her at six days old.

(Neither were easy births, just got on and done what had to be done, which included going up to London Passport Office in 23/12 to get passport for DS only a few days old)

Well that went well, didn’t it 😂

Do people have prams nowadays?

Nice story anyway. Back to the custard creams now.

How incredibly rude and disrespectful! I did a supermarket shop the day after I had dc2, it was either that or we didn’t eat (DH was away)
It’s hard enough being a new mum without some interfering busybody butting in 🤬

Not your business and to tell people off who you don’t even know from Adam what a cheek
There’s nothing wrong in being out after 3 days if you’re fit and well just because YOU were unwell 3 days after giving birth doesn’t mean every else one is
Cheeky

Biscuitmuncher

I "told her off" with kindness, I suppose I remember how awful I felt after giving birth and Zaras would be the last place on earth I would have been

You said you told her off.

Calendargirl

I wouldn’t have looked in the pram, not interested in looking at unknown babies, and certainly wouldn’t have commented on her being out and about.

Absolutely nothing to do with you.

You and me both.

I wouldn’t have looked in the pram, not interested in looking at unknown babies, and certainly wouldn’t have commented on her being out and about.

Absolutely nothing to do with you.

Ooh Framilode that reminds me of being properly ticked off by the nurse who ran our ante-natal class when we bumped into her 10 days after my daughter was born who said I shouldn’t be gadding about…😳

I popped across the road to the newsagents the day after giving birth. Someone reported me to the midwife and I was well and truly told off by her when she called the next day.

Surprised she didn't retort with 'what are you doing out of the home at your age?'

I was shocked by DDiL who gave birth at 9am in hospital and when we visited her at home at 4pm she was making us tea!!!
She's a nurse so should know better.
I told my son off.

You can't always stop people being silly.
I am told on good authority (retired midwife at that same hospital) that new mothers are often readmitted with excess bleeding and other emergencies as are babies, so I do not think Biscuitmuncher was out if order to speak her mind, gently.

I would have too.

I’d be worried about germs with a very young baby like that but you can’t judge. We are all different. Kid will probably grow up as tough as old boots !

Biscuitmuncher

I "told her off" with kindness, I suppose I remember how awful I felt after giving birth and Zaras would be the last place on earth I would have been

I suppose I remember how awful I felt after giving birth and Zaras would be the last place on earth I would have been

But that's you!

Maybe she wasn't feeling awful and fancied a trip to Zaras?

VioletSky we definitely have to get on with family life after a baby, but Zaras on a Saturday in brum?

How very rude and invasive, Biscuitmuncher.
This make me feel very angry on behalf of the mum.

Baby was out with mum!
Back off!

cornergran it was said with absolute kindness and concern

Not your business OP.

I have to say, I wouldn't have minded if it were me, I would have appreciated the concern

A lot is expected of mums at times that we just carry on when we probs oy shouldn't

Get up, do the school run, tidy the house, feed everyone with the flu? Of course we did... Wish someone had been there to out me to bed but needs must

Cross posts

It didn’t occur to me to stay in after my two. Once I felt well enough, day four with number one and day three with number two as his brother needed fetching from pre school, out I went. No one commented, I’d probably have laughed if they had. Tone of voice matters a lot with these things though, I hope your comment was made gently and kindly binscuitmuncher.

Callistemon I didn't climb in, I could see the baby. If she was worried about germs she wouldn't have been out

I "told her off" with kindness, I suppose I remember how awful I felt after giving birth and Zaras would be the last place on earth I would have been

When our daughter was about three weeks old, I was going stir crazy. I got the bus ( I don't drive) and took her to my mum's. I got off the bus and was walking up the road with my baby in my arms. I didn't have a pushchair. A lady told me off for the heels on my shoes being too high carrying a baby. I was 20. Even now, 55 years later it makes me feel that I was a bad mum when I think about it.

I am astonished.