How to explain attraction…

Where are they?

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Ha ha!

Maybe it's more obvious in a larger format but I don't see it actually.

Interesting thought though.
I have 5 children - it would be very very hard to find someone as wonderful as my husband - yet two daughters are married. I don't see many similarities- though there are some I suppose.

My husband is a bit like my dad in that they both love(d) children, are generally kind and gentle... the two boys have married women quite different to me I think 🤔.

...it's harder to see yourself in your daughter in law... and my daughters in law are not at all like each other.

My late husband was nothing like my father or like me. We recognised each other the first time we met when I was 14. For me there is no explaining it, nor does there need to be.

Not for me, I remember meeting a girl years ago, who looked like my mother ( when she was young ) with also similar mannerisms, although we liked each other, I could not see her in a sexual way .
My wife could not be any more different in looks and mannerisms
Another girl all the lads fancied ,I didn't because she reminded me of my sister in looks

I am one of those people who has always had ‘attractions’ ’ to men. Usually they are the same physical type and colouring. Not at all like my DH, more like my grandfather who I was close to as a child. Intriguing isn’t it ?

My wife is a redhead, she says she was never attracted to red-headed men ?
She can't really explain it, maybe something build in to mix the gene pool ?
She chose me white but dark and swarthy 😳

My husband looks nothing like my father, although my dad died when he was 12 years younger than my husband is now. They have different personalities too, although they share core values.

I've noticed that my daughter's boyfriends tend to be the same in relation to my husband - no physical similarity but other things in common.

I saw a man I had never seen previously at a meeting and knew that moment that we would become lovers, it took some time but when we met again it was electric for both of us. One simply can not account for attraction.

My husband is very different to my Dad, in colouring and nature. Although, both lovely men.
My eldest daughter married someone totally different to her Dad, they are now divorced. Youngest Dd s husband has many similarities to DH but not in looks.
I am not a bit like my MIL in nature but we do have the same colouring.
Quite a mix.

Sorry, I just can't see the similarities at all in those pictures.
Although I do see similarities in the personalities of my first husband and my father .

Grandadpete

My wife is a redhead, she says she was never attracted to red-headed men ?
She can't really explain it, maybe something build in to mix the gene pool ?
She chose me white but dark and swarthy 😳

Perhaps she didn't want to create a breakaway mini-Scotland population

My husband was poles apart from my dad in looks and character. The same applied to my mother in law and me.

My husband very much like my dad in personality same starsign. So yes it does happen you can marry a partner with similarities very close to your mother or father

Well strangely she did want red -headed children, which with me there was no chance !
They are all somewhere is the middle, not fair not swarthy, we balance it out it seems 😂

I noticed in the local paper with pictures of recently married couples clearly many are attracted to those similar to themselves. I am sure similar eye colour has been a reason for me. Limerance being an extreme best resisted, as a great Sufi mystic put it'this little while ere I go hence love very lightly now in self defence' :-)

AH, that must be where I went wrong.
My father was a Methodist local preacher; so teetotal;
My EX husband was an atheist and turned out to be a heavy drinker, bordering on alcoholic.

I do not look remotely like my MiL. The only thing we share is our love of the same man. DH, like my father, is not that tall (5 foot 8inches), but there the similarity ends.

DDiL couldn't be more different from me. Much taller, highly artistic, with a much gentler nature.

My late husband came straight out with it. He said, "You remind me of my mother!"

When my farther met my daughters future husband, he was shocked as he could see himself as a young man.

When I first met my soon-to-be in-laws.FiL commented that I looked like their eldest daughter (I don’t). After 50+ years of marriage, my DH looks like his mother (who I could not stand). The only difference is that DH has a beard!

Sadly my father was a horrible man. I've chosen partners that I thought were the opposite, only to find that in many ways they resembled him - c'est la vie!

I think what attracts you to a person is so highly individual that it is impossible to generalize.

Some people do seem either deliberately, or subconciously to fall in love with someone who resembles one or other of their parents, others choose as different a partner as possible, and this latter seems to apply whether or not you had a happy childhood or not.

My Sil looks nothing like my husband but personality wise my daughter has often been heard to say that 'I've married dad'