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Are you too scared to post what you really think?

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ginny Wed 12-Jun-24 15:51:30

Yes, quite often.
Probably right to think that way too. A few days ago a post of mine was reported and deleted. Nothing controversial, contentious or nasty and some other posters seemed to agree with me.

Calendargirl Wed 12-Jun-24 15:49:17

I post quite often, but if my views are obviously not what the majority think, then I tend to keep them to myself. Probably on the political threads or on certain issues where I think my ideas are out of touch.

I don’t believe in sending PM’s. If I see someone posting my thoughts on a contentious subject, I will endorse them with a ‘hear hear’ or 👏

Tenko Wed 12-Jun-24 15:46:19

It’s not just on GN , I’m wary of posting on social media full stop, whether it’s Facebook groups , Twitter , or groups likeNextdoor . People can be downright rude and nasty if you don’t agree with them.

Georgesgran Wed 12-Jun-24 15:38:46

I don’t think anyone can go through life without offending someone, whether deliberately or unintentionally.
On one hand, I think you should feel able to post something you may feel to be contentious, but perhaps be prepared for an onslaught of counter opinions.

There have been spats on GN in the past and no doubt more to come, but as ‘we’ are largely unknown to each other, it doesn’t matter what you want to post.
Try it and see?

Cossy Wed 12-Jun-24 15:27:34

Or, like me, don’t read through what they post and continual typos (me!) grin

Cossy Wed 12-Jun-24 15:25:43

I think most GNs are not scared of posting what they think/feel/belief and most of us do it in a balanced and respectful way and most of us understand that we are different, with differing life experiences which often shape our beliefs and moral compass.

Within most topics there is no right or wrong and everyone has the right to air their views.

I’ve noticed that the only times other OPs get rattled or annoyed or irritated us when, as does sometimes happen, someone else posts something that is frankly ridiculous or blatantly and evidenced untruths.

Primrose53 Wed 12-Jun-24 15:17:15

No. 🤣🤣 I have always been quite direct and I like it in other people too.

I do know there are a lot of ladies on GN who are scared to speak their mind on here because I regularly get private messages saying “ I feel exactly the same as you but dare not post how I feel in case I get targeted or abused or accused of being something I’m not. Please keep posting.”

Even more sad are those who say “I used to post on here a lot but there are some real bullies on here who pick over every word I say and because they disagree with me make really spiteful comments. Now I never post because of them”.

Sago Wed 12-Jun-24 15:14:43

It’s just like real life, we think it but don’t say it.

There are some posters I really do not want to interact with as they are rude and opinionated.

There are also posters who I will not contribute to their threads as I think they are trouble makers.

I have occasionally let rip but only when I’m really cross!

Before I type I just think, would yip say it if you were sitting having a face to face chat, if it’s a no then I don’t type.

Great question by the way!

aggie Wed 12-Jun-24 15:08:40

I’m too polite to tell some idiots where to go , but generally not afraid !

NotSpaghetti Wed 12-Jun-24 15:02:52

Just think about the way you say it.
I try to do that.

I have nevertheless been misinterpreted on here- but I always explain/apologise as I would do in real life. I hope that is enough. I would never deliberately say anything to just be hurtful.

I don't think people are now hostile towards me.
Fingers crossed anyone upset would say so.

Whethertomorrow Wed 12-Jun-24 14:52:30

Just that basically.

There’s been a few times that I’ve wanted to post something that I don’t think is provoking or malicious or offensive, but I’m really too scared to do so, just in case someone takes offence.

I never really thought that I would be too scared to say what I thought but I think it is now the reality of life in these days of everyone taking offence at the slightest thing.