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How old were you when you got married( if you are married )?

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nanna8 Fri 14-Jun-24 07:21:52

I was the ripe old age of 19 which was not unusual at the time but now couples seem to wait and wait if they bother at all. A lot of ‘older mums’ around now, too. It was very unusual for someone to become a first time mum in their 40 s in those days. I remember being described as an ‘elderly multipara’ when I had my 4 th at the ancient age of 31. I was quite hurt by the description at the time. What on earth do they call people now ?

Liaise Mon 17-Jun-24 20:33:52

Married in 1965. I was 21. DH 24. Two sons in 67 and 72. Our 60th wedding anniversary next year.

Dogwalkingnana Mon 17-Jun-24 03:05:23

I was 19, DH was 23 in 1966.

nanna8 Mon 17-Jun-24 00:58:25

Oh SillyOma that must have been horrible at the time. What a guilt trip! One of my daughters is in a long term relationship and they have a daughter together but neither are interested in getting married. How times change,eh? Personally I would love them to marry - just want a good party is all . 🎉

Redhead56 Mon 17-Jun-24 00:25:06

Married after a long courtship aged 26 I had my son at 31 and daughter 35 I was separated by then. Divorced at 37 and I started university as a mature student I married when I was 40.

Allsorts Sun 16-Jun-24 15:34:12

SillyOma , what a pity your families didn’t make your wedding joyous. Different times. Its worked out so you did something right. Do hope you’ve made up for it since. 💐

SillyOma Sun 16-Jun-24 15:22:36

I got married at 19, husband was 21 on the actual day. Terrible wedding, I was Catholic 4 months pregnant, marrying non Catholic in Glasgow, met the inlaws day of the wedding ( had previously met his siblings just not the parents). Married in December at 5pm when it was dark so no one would see us, my mother was horrified. 52 years later still married with 2 sons, 51 and 47. Its been a journey but amazing what we were able to achieve over the years. And there are no wedding photos!!!

Germanshepherdsmum Sun 16-Jun-24 12:43:29

How I wish living together first had been acceptable where I lived, and to my father’s very snobbish family, back in the late sixties. But then I wouldn’t have had my lovely son, so I can’t regret it.

Juggernaut Sun 16-Jun-24 11:29:32

I was 27 when we married, as was my husband.
We didn't meet until we were both 25 years old, engaged 14 months later, married a year after that and parents in well under 2 years from our wedding day!
We spent almost six months living together between the engagement and the wedding, just to make sure!

kibera10 Sat 15-Jun-24 14:27:12

We were both nineteen and a half - married in February 1964, first child in September 1965, second in August 1968. Of the eight girls in my year at secondary modern school - four married before I did, one married later that year , one didn't marry until she was in her late 30's. Two have died (one in an accident in her late 20's, after she'd divorced), one died ten years ago (still married to original husband), three of us still married to our 'original' husband.
Daughter married at 21, was 36 when she had her first son and 42 when she had her second son. Son married at age 42.

LOUISA1523 Sat 15-Jun-24 13:56:52

Never married.. still together ...I'm 59 now....been together 38.5 years
...was 21 when we met

Charleygirl5 Sat 15-Jun-24 13:36:16

I was 31my OH was 33 years. It survived 14 years when he met the "love of his life". He regretted it 6 months later.

Tenko Fri 14-Jun-24 21:11:16

I met my DH when I was 29 , he was 33 and we were married a year later . Most of our friends also married around the same time . This was 1989. We had loads of weddings in 1989 and 1990.
I had a brilliant time in my twenty’s, partying, holidays , festivals. Plus I hadn’t met anyone I wanted to spend my life with.

Norah Fri 14-Jun-24 20:47:30

Callistemon21

Norah

16, first child a year later.

My husband was 18.

Did you run away to Gretna Green?
That always sounded so romantic!

No. In my home Catholic parish Church. I finished school.

We've been to GG for some anniversaries (last was our 60th).

grannyqueenie Fri 14-Jun-24 20:31:55

Married just before I was 19, DH was 23. 54 years on there are 5 children and 9 grandchildren. Our children think we were crazy, they could well be right but it’s worked for us! smile

Casdon Fri 14-Jun-24 20:11:28

So many young brides! I was happy single, and got married at 28, my husband was 34. I had my first baby at 32, and my second at 39 - it was so easy with a big gap between them, they never fell out and are the best of friends still.

grandMattie Fri 14-Jun-24 19:04:24

We got married the day I was 29 1/2! DH was 33. My first was born 41 weeks later….

Grams2five Fri 14-Jun-24 19:02:21

19, husband was 21. Had our oldest son about ten months later. Wouldn’t change a thing. We had five of our own and are now going on nine grands , as we’ve had quite the baby boom the last few years. All but one of ours is currently married and all did so between 21-25. We’ve one lone single 24 year old left and my guess is there’s an engagement on the way there too.

EkwaNimitee Fri 14-Jun-24 17:06:24

Just after my 21st birthday, DH was 31. We were married for 50 years.
My neighbours around us in those early years were much the same ages.

Cossy Fri 14-Jun-24 17:05:54

I’m 66 and married at 38. I then had three (more) children at 39, 42 and 44, having had my first child at 27!

paddyann54 Fri 14-Jun-24 16:59:04

Met July 74 married on the same day in 75 he was just 4 weeks after his 20th Birthday I was 21 and 4 months.We started our business in the November of that year ,had. Our first baby 22 months later.Sadly she died after just 4 days ,our second daughter was born 16 months later and her brother 10 years after her.We,ve worked together for over 50 years and Ben married 49 in July .Wouldn,t change a. Thing ,tough times and all.

Callistemon21 Fri 14-Jun-24 16:47:16

Bumface

Callistemon21
We had a hilarious interview (in retrospect) with a fertility counsellor to make sure we were "Doing it properly".

Obviously we found the recipe before we faced that embarrassment 😃

62Granny Fri 14-Jun-24 16:43:22

We married after a courtship of 4 years, I was 20 he was 23 in 1978, we bought our house the year before but we're not allowed to live together , we lived there for nearly 39 years only moving to our new home because of illness. Still together ❤

Baked Fri 14-Jun-24 16:29:48

I married my husband on my 21st birthday, he was 25. We have 4 children, 2 of each with help of fertility drugs. We have been together since I was 17 and I'm 59 in September.

Purplepixie Fri 14-Jun-24 16:12:45

I foolishly married when I was 18 years old much to my parents despair, yet they paid for a white wedding. He turned out to be a pig and a wife beater! I then married the second husband at the age of 53 and remained happy ever since. Three children and now 4 grand children.

grumppa Fri 14-Jun-24 16:09:37

Just 29; DW was 24, but 25 by the end of the honeymoon. Golden wedding last year.