Talking energy

I feel exactly the same. I am 78. I have a Spanish friend who is younger than me and I always have to have a pre prepared reason to escape from her as she wears me out so much.

Thx Mirren. I’m approaching 80 but most of my friends of same age seem to have a lot of energy to socialise every day. I feel like a wimp and it’s good to hear same “symptoms “ from a GP.

Delila

I’m always energised after meeting up for coffee & chats with friends. Chit-chat or deep and meaningful, always food for thought or a refreshing exchange of views.

This is me . I love meeting friends or family , it gives me a boost even speaking on the phone. I’m retired but do holiday cover where I used to work . I was there this week and it was lovely to catch up with my colleagues.
Although if I meet up with friends in the evening , I can’t sleep that night due to being energised . Even if it’s just book club .

Yes, I have found myself rather drained after prolonged conversation, even when I enjoy the company. I don't want to feel that way and I was always very sociable. I still work full time but since widowhood I'm out of the habit of actually socialising.

I’m always energised after meeting up for coffee & chats with friends. Chit-chat or deep and meaningful, always food for thought or a refreshing exchange of views.

I feel a bit drained today after coffee as the venue was very warm and had lots of children. I found it hard to hear and I had missed out on 2 conversations as the ladies had been in touch earlier at another event and I didn't follow what they were saying. Actually got in the wrong lane driving home and had to go all round the town. Must be dehydrated.

Gran(dad)s or Gran(ma)s net, surely

For the last 6 mths or so I've been getting increasingly tired whenever I do anything and often find that I've sat down with a cuppa and nodded off. I've been sleeping well but sometimes by mid morning I'm exhausted after doing not very much at all. I just thought it was another sign of 'maturity'.

Since being widowed both a good friend and I find being out and about and expected to talk tiring. Even before widowhood, it was a side effect of lockdown, that made itself felt when the lockdown was lifted.

If you live alone, you do get out of the habit of constantly interacting with someone else, so you are not alone in feeling like this.

Mirren

I'm " only " 67 and still working a,couple of mornings as a GP. So lots of listening and some talking. I enjoy working and I love my times with friends too.
However, I am ,and always have been am introvert.
I can put on a great " face " and no one ever believes me when I say that but , in true introvert style , exchange with other people drains my battery.
This is getting more marked as I age.
I am exhausted and " peopled out " after lovely chats.
I need alone time with my garden, a book or some lovely crafts in order to " recharge ".
This is also taking longer.

I find that I'm exhausted after time with friends too, other than family, and you're right about putting on a "face" - I can still do it but it seems to soak up more energy. Generally I'm less interested in meeting up with people and less keen on going out at night.

Two of my friends leave me exhausted after meeting up (separately, they don't know each other).
They both have 'verbal diarrhoea' as my dear mum used to say about people who had no self awareness and just would not shut up.

I'm " only " 67 and still working a,couple of mornings as a GP. So lots of listening and some talking. I enjoy working and I love my times with friends too.
However, I am ,and always have been am introvert.
I can put on a great " face " and no one ever believes me when I say that but , in true introvert style , exchange with other people drains my battery.
This is getting more marked as I age.
I am exhausted and " peopled out " after lovely chats.
I need alone time with my garden, a book or some lovely crafts in order to " recharge ".
This is also taking longer.

I feel the same way but as I’m only 65!! Still working and after a day dealing with customers I don’t want to talk to anyone these days. My DH will ask if I’ve spoken to my DB or DCs and most days the answer is no too tired of listening

Just got off the phone to my sister, who talks endlessly, answers her questions, before I’ve had a chance to respond and constantly interrupts. It’s exhausting! 🥱 It’s so much better when we meet up.

I enjoy socialising and have always enjoyed joining things, group activities etc. Now I find I’m not so sociable and a couple of group activities a week is enough. I’ve turned into my mother, who loved being amongst people but not ‘with’ them.

I don’t know if I’m the only one, but I’m sick of hearing my own stories. The same anecdotes I’ve told over the years 😁

I find some people enlivening and some draining.. so I choose who I spend time with and usually feel more energetic after a meeting.. but groups can be tiring especially if people don't listen to each other..

I pace myself with whatever I do nowadays. I meet with a lovely group of friends once a month and meet with other friends at other times. I think the concentration of being with a group tyres me out.

Crossed posts, Georgesgran!

You can join Gransnet whether you're a woman or a man, a grandparent or not, BrandyGran. Some members have great-grandchildren and some have never had children. All welcome.

Gransnet is open to all, BrandyGran

Many here have never married, many divorced, some remarried, some don’t have children and others don’t have grandchildren either.

Men have been encouraged to join us - a few have, but generally short lived, on here anyway.

I am worn out after meeting up for coffee with anyone these days. Two hours is enough. The more people talk, the more it exhausts me. I am not 75 yet but I have felt like this for a couple of years. I get annoyed with myself as I wish I could be more sociable but I just can't stand being in a group of people either listening to them or being expected to talk myself. I only like being with one person at a time. It must be an age thing.

Didn’t know Gransnet included men. Surely the clue is in the name? I only see women friends of my own age and hobbies etc.

I enjoy a chat with friends - I’m usually meeting someone most weekday mornings. I much prefer one to one, so we can concentrate on each other.
The only time I feel drained is after spending time with a friend who is high maintenance on all fronts. She’s due back from holiday next week - no doubt with more problems she could and should have avoided!

kittylester

No, I could talk all day too.

Just to point out this site is for men too.

Yes but possibly the OP just wants to compare herself with other women!

I sit and listen with one friend as nine times out of ten I don’t get a choice 😳