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Are you always late or prefer to be early?

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Babs03 Sun 01-Sept-24 14:59:00

I am always anxious about arriving anywhere late so end up getting there early if under my own steam, however, my DH and one of my daughters are usually always late and it drives me potty. They faff about and procrastinate, finding lots of stuff to do just before leaving - which could have been done before - scooting off to get a different pair of shoes or to do goodness knows what. And they always underestimate how long it takes to get somewhere. So when with them I arrive late and rather annoyed. It is also very stressful when getting to the aiport.
I used to have a good friend like this, sadly no longer with us, indeed we all joked that she would be late for her own funeral. There were always excuses but she could never get anywhere on time.
Any other habitual late to the party types?
Or those who have to put up with them?

MissInterpreted Sun 01-Sept-24 15:03:15

I absolutely hate being late for anything. I'd rather be half an hour early for something than a minute late. Running late for anything completely stresses me out. Fortunately, I don't have too many relatives or friends who are habitually late, although my DiL does have a tendency to forget about the time...

LauraNorderr Sun 01-Sept-24 15:05:42

I too like to be on time Babs. I consider latecomers to be disrespectful of others time.
Sometimes lateness is unavoidable, in which case forgivable but not leaving yourself enough time to find the right pair of shoes not so much.

MissAdventure Sun 01-Sept-24 15:09:46

I'd rather be early now I'm older.
I didn't worry so much when I was younger.

HowVeryDareYou2 Sun 01-Sept-24 15:10:41

I hate being late for anything. I tend to be early for appointments, although only by 10 minutes or so.

Mollygo Sun 01-Sept-24 15:13:14

I like to be early, so I can be on time.
If I’m going with someone else, or meeting someone somewhere I always give the meeting/set off time as at least 15 minutes early. Saves stress.
My sisters are the same, my brothers not so according to my sisters in law.

LadyGracie Sun 01-Sept-24 15:15:05

My DD an old soldier instilled in us that 'a good soldier is always on parade 10 minutes early'. It's stuck all my life.

Astitchintime Sun 01-Sept-24 15:17:33

I like to be early for appointments, meetings etc and I find it really annoying when others are late. Try to make allowance for traffic depending on the time of day - school days always seem to be really busy before school starts and at the end of the school day. Would much sooner sit in the car for 5 minutes than get stressed out on the journey because of running late.

I have always been the same, probably part of my upbringing I guess.

Babs03 Sun 01-Sept-24 15:22:09

I remember a colleague at work saying she was late because the bus was late, to which the office manager said 'get an earlier bus or get your cards.'
My colleague wasn't late again.

Allsorts Sun 01-Sept-24 15:25:50

Always early or on time, its disrespectful to the other person to be kept waiting. There could be times when there is a good reason but if it was a regular occurrence I wouldn't wait as my times as important as theirs and I do not need the stress .

biglouis Sun 01-Sept-24 15:27:40

When you dont drive and are stuck with the public transport it makes you very aware of time. I always like to be a few minutes early. When I travel I am at the airport hours before my flight.

Babs03 Sun 01-Sept-24 15:29:16

biglouis

When you dont drive and are stuck with the public transport it makes you very aware of time. I always like to be a few minutes early. When I travel I am at the airport hours before my flight.

I make sure we arrive hours early too despite my DHs attempts to hold things up. As I like to say, 'better to arrive early and sit in departures like a lemon than to get there late and miss a flight.'

Georgesgran Sun 01-Sept-24 15:31:10

DD2’s dyslexia makes it difficult to manage her time - so she relies on her phone as a calendar and sets her alarm at 5 minute intervals to count down to a meeting, leave for a flight or whatever.
Unfortunately, if it’s just doing something with me - she’s always late!

MissAdventure Sun 01-Sept-24 15:33:18

Where I live, I'd have to allow about two hours extra in case there's a hold up, an accident, a burst water main...

Grandmabatty Sun 01-Sept-24 16:06:48

I am always early or on time. I always have been and would get anxious at the thought of being late. I do have family and friends who are never on time. I don't comment on it but it does annoy me.

Harris27 Sun 01-Sept-24 16:20:00

I’m quite an anxious person especially when going anywhere don’t really know why? However I’m always early hubby total opposite I’m forever waiting at the door or in the car drives me mad!

gulligranny Sun 01-Sept-24 16:22:06

My dad always used to say it's better to be two hours too early than two minutes too late; I've stuck with this all my life, although not usually for the two hours!

Another saying I've often quoted is that lateness, like virginity, is not a matter of degree; you either are or you aren't!

kittylester Sun 01-Sept-24 16:24:12

I like to be early but am often late!

Norah Sun 01-Sept-24 16:25:14

I'm precisely on time. No wasted time on either side.

AreWeThereYet Sun 01-Sept-24 16:25:16

I try to be a few minutes early if meeting someone. I really hate being late for anything. I hate people I am meeting being late too, unless they have a reasonable excuse - traffic jam, etc.

AGAA4 Sun 01-Sept-24 16:30:45

I am always early or on time. I have a friend who gives herself lots of time to get ready but always turns up late and in a stressed state.

MissAdventure Sun 01-Sept-24 16:35:50

I used to be almost in tears at being with my daughter or ex, on our way to something important.

Coolgran65 Sun 01-Sept-24 16:38:06

I am and have always been early. My DH is the same only more so. Our AC who are also good time keepers laugh at our early earlyness.

Grannybags Sun 01-Sept-24 16:40:52

I’m always far too early and would be really stressed if late for anything.

My eldest son on the other hand is always late. He’s so bad we’ve been known to tell him he’s needed half an hour earlier than necessary. Even then he’s not always on time!

BigBopper Sun 01-Sept-24 16:42:01

I am the same as the poster, I am always early but my family are never there when they promise to be.

When we go on holiday, they tell me they will collect me at 8 am as we have a long drive ahead of us, so I get up early, then at 8 am when I am ready and waiting for them I get a text telling me it will be 10 am by the time they get to my house. It drives me bonkers and I think very inconsiderate especially when I am nearly 82 years old and no longer good at getting up early in the morning and they are nearly half my age. They could not organise a booze up in a brewery. If they had small children then I could understand it but they are adults who fancied a sleep in.

They have always done this but because I am grateful for them taking me on holiday once a year I say nothing and get ready as per usual and then sit down with a coffee and watch a film.