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TheMostSuprisingGran Sat 07-Sept-24 21:19:38

My 10 year old granddaughter is living with me. She gets on well enough at school, enjoys it, but is shy and lacks self confidence.

She came home on Friday saying she would like to try to become a school prefect. She has been given a form to complete with a few questions, which needs to be in on Monday.

The thing is, I don't know what to put. I want to help her but struggle myself.

Can anybody suggest what we should put for the following questions?

A Why have you chosen to be a prefect?
B What qualities do you have that will support your role as a prefect?
C What responsibilities do you think you will have as a prefect?
D How would you contribute to the school community?

She is 10 years old, it's a small primary school. I am glad she seems enthusiastic about this. I know it might not happen. I just want to support her as best I can. I'm at a loss to know what to write.

I would appreciate any pointers. Thank you. sunshine

escaped Sat 07-Sept-24 21:46:57

You've already used one of the key words - enthusiastic.
Add to that - approachable, friendly, kind, polite, responsible, reliable, trustworthy.
With a sense of fairness, an aptitude for strong, but quiet leadership, a desire to encourage others, and a good sense of humour.
Just tell her to dot some of these around when answering A to D, and give examples illustrating how this might be achieved.
As she is shy, don't forget to get her to mention that this would be a great opportunity for her to improve her confidence.
Good luck, and I hope she is successful.

Everdene Sat 07-Sept-24 21:57:09

Perhaps you could sit down with her and get her to talk through her ideas for each question to build her confidence - while she’s talking, you could jot down a few of the key points she makes so that she can use those to structure her written answers. You might need to prompt her a little if she tends to lack confidence and doesn’t like talking about all her good qualities

I don’t suppose the school is looking for a polished application from a 10 year old, they’ll just be wanting to see that she’s thought about the role, knows her own strengths and what she can contribute to the community ( involvement in extra activities, being helpful to new pupils…etc etc)

Her teachers will know her well so whatever she writes should be in her “ voice” and style.

Oh, and check what information she’s been given ( if any) so that her answers fit the “ role description” if there is one.

I think you will enjoy talking this through with her!

MissAdventure Sat 07-Sept-24 22:08:59

You need to encourage her to fill in the form herself, and consider her own personal strengths and talents.

You could have some practice runs with her, and hot down the things which are relevant. .

Then she cab out them into her own words on the form.

Good luck to both of you. smile

Doodledog Sat 07-Sept-24 22:41:25

How lovely! You must be so proud of her.

I agree with the others that talking it through with her is a good idea, and so is gentle prompting in case she forgets (or is oblivious to) any of her strengths.

I think a key role of any sort of representative is the ability to separate their own wishes from those of the people they represent. If she can show that she is a good listener and can be unbiased in her thinking it might stand her in good stead. It big ask for a ten year old though😀.

Do let us know how she gets on?

Mollygo Sat 07-Sept-24 22:55:53

That’s lovely that she feels she would like to do that.
Suggestions have already been made which will help, but when she’s talking it through with you, what about question C l?
What responsibilities do you think you will have as a prefect?
What has she noticed that prefects have done whilst she’s been at the school
e.g.
one thing our prefects do is to join other classes during wet playtimes - playing or reading with the younger children and encouraging them to tidy things away.

D How would you contribute to the school community?
If she’s seen what existing prefects do, she might have additional ideas that she thinks would be useful or that she wishes they did.

The point made about trying to develop her own self confidence is a good one.
Good luck to both of you.

biglouis Sat 07-Sept-24 23:23:00

Schools look to prefects to be rule followers and to set and example to other children as to why they also should uphold the rules. Things like pushing and shoving, running in the corridor, arriving on time, wearing the correct uniform and so on. She should be capable of explaining to others the purpose of the rules and why they should be obeyed.

I was never chosen as a prefect for this very reason. I am not, and never have been, a rule follower. On the contrary I gain immense pleasure from gaming the system.

Fidelity2 Sat 07-Sept-24 23:23:48

Encourage her.She is confident.It will undermine that confidence if you suggest otherwise.

TheMostSuprisingGran Sat 07-Sept-24 23:39:44

Thank you thanks

Cabbie21 Sun 08-Sept-24 07:34:33

Let’s face it. Most parents will have a huge input into their child’s answers. That will be obvious if they write it for them. So I agree with the idea of encouraging your granddaughter to talk about it, jotting down some bullet points and letting her write it up in her own words.

Astitchintime Sun 08-Sept-24 07:53:53

I totally agree with Cabbie........it will be so obvious if a parent/grandparent/older sibling has completed any of the application forms, so by discussing the four questions together your GD will be able to make the application her own.
I wish her all the best too flowers

Caleo Sun 08-Sept-24 08:08:50

You need to translate the questions into 10 year old language.

A Why have you chosen to be a prefect?
B What qualities do you have that will support your role as a prefect?
C What responsibilities do you think you will have as a prefect?
D How would you contribute to the school community?

Why do you want to be a prefect?
Why do you think you would be good at being a prefect?
What do prefects do?
Would it help all the other people at school if you were a prefect ?

Chardy Sun 08-Sept-24 08:50:12

Lots of pupils are shy, and having a prefect they feel they can relate to/talk to/ask questions of is a strength

keepingquiet Sun 08-Sept-24 08:59:02

This isn't a job application and I agree with others that encouraging her to find her own answers to these questions with a few prompts from yourself would be the way to go.

You have already said that she is shy and lacks confidence- so turn these aspects into positives.
1 She wants to gain confidence though helping others
2 She is kind, caring and helpful especially with other children who may be shy.
3 What repsonsibilities will she have? Helping others if she is asked, making sure eveyone is safe by going to adults for help.
4 What can she bring to the community? Things she is involved in; dancing, brownies, sports, music etc.

I would also consider how she will deal with not being accepted. Be supportive but let her gain some independence and know how to handle failure too.

petra Sun 08-Sept-24 09:16:43

biglouis

Schools look to prefects to be rule followers and to set and example to other children as to why they also should uphold the rules. Things like pushing and shoving, running in the corridor, arriving on time, wearing the correct uniform and so on. She should be capable of explaining to others the purpose of the rules and why they should be obeyed.

I was never chosen as a prefect for this very reason. I am not, and never have been, a rule follower. On the contrary I gain immense pleasure from gaming the system.

Same here 😂 I was always the one having her name shouted out.

V3ra Sun 08-Sept-24 09:46:24

Why do you want to be a prefect?
Why do you think you would be good at being a prefect?
What do prefects do?
Would it help all the other people at school if you were a prefect ?

Perfect Caleo 👍

Several years ago I was asked to help my minded child to write her application for class rep on the school council.
One idea she liked was to always let everyone have their say and listen to both sides in any dispute.

JamesandJon33 Sun 08-Sept-24 10:35:28

I think all the above suggestions are good. However I was rather thrown by the age of the child. 10?
We didn’t have prefects in junior school. Only the sixth form at grammar school were prefects, the head boy and girl coming from the Upper sixth. …How things change ,

Doodledog Sun 08-Sept-24 10:38:18

I think that's critical, although maybe not so much of a prefect role. What I would say, however, is that my experience with students twice her age suggests that most can't resist pushing their own agenda in rep meetings, so expecting lack of bias in a 10 year old is probably unrealistic. The teachers will be on it though, I'm sure.

TheMostSuprisingGran Sun 08-Sept-24 11:49:15

Thanks everybody.

You've been a great help. Yes, JamesandJon33, she's only 10! We didn't have prefects at any of my schools at all, so I have no direct experience of them.

I think they try to have prefects in Year 6 to make the children feel grown up and they want them to have pride in the school.

Thanks again thanks

escaped Sun 08-Sept-24 11:55:54

This is such a helpful thread where GNs can take from it suggestions to suit the individual child and the school's requirements.
There's ideas to get us all thinking!

eazybee Sun 08-Sept-24 12:04:31

Reliability: if I am asked to do a job I always try to finish it.

I recommended a girl to be a form prefect because although she struggled academically and lacked confidence she always completed any task given to her. She was astonished to be chosen but it did wonders for her confidence.

Ask her what duties prefects have to do (helping dinnerladies, taking messages, preparing things for lessons?)

pascal30 Sun 08-Sept-24 16:24:48

we had class prefects when I was 10 their role was to give out the milk.. little glass bottles..

BlueBelle Sun 08-Sept-24 17:39:05

JamesandJon
Like you we didn’t have prefects in junior school, monitors who helped with packing up at class finish or delivering a note to headmistress or helping in some way like giving out the milk but we only had prefects in 6 th form and I was one
These were picked by the teachers not the friends or classmates

JamesandJon33 Sun 08-Sept-24 18:06:19

But then they have Graduation’ in primary school now. Where as we Graduated only after finishing a degree

TheMostSuprisingGran Sun 08-Sept-24 19:19:51

Thanks thanks