“Lovely”

Here it is often sarcastic as in ‘ well that’s just lovely, isn’t it ?’ meaning exactly the opposite. I’d rather lovely than nasty or horrid.

Marydoll. I have seen a copy of a consultants letter to my GP. , He said. “. I examined this very pleasant lady today””. I wonder if he says that about every female patient ??

Aveline

Does simp not just mean simpleton? In which case it's definitely not a lovely descriptor.
I was once told I was refreshing. I don't think that was complimentary.

I was once told I was refreshing.

Do you remember the 1987 libel trial (The Archer Affair) where Mary Archer was described as fragrant?

In the judge's summing up he asked, "is she not fragrant?"

Whenever I am asked “Do you know your postcard I say yes and I give it , Fantastic !! Why wouldn’t I know my postcode !!!

Ziplok

I’m sure it’s meant well. What alternative would you suggest?
I think sometimes, offence is looked for where none whatsoever is intended!

What alternative would you suggest?

Well, when medical staff call me "my lovely" I instinctively understand it's well meant, however it is a tad patronising.

I do notice though that doctors and consultants / surgeons don't do it - they tend to use the name you've indicated on your admission form that you'd like to be known by.

Because it's well-meant, I'd never complain, but it is infantilising.

As for looking for offence - this thread gives us the opportunity to say how we feel. But that doesn't mean anyone is permanently offended - or even looking to be so - just sharing their opinion.

sodapop

A step up from the ubiquitous ' nice' though.

We were told not to use nice by our English teacher!!

Aveline

Does simp not just mean simpleton? In which case it's definitely not a lovely descriptor.
I was once told I was refreshing. I don't think that was complimentary.

It might do, but I'm sure it means so one who sulks up to others.

Does simp not just mean simpleton? In which case it's definitely not a lovely descriptor.
I was once told I was refreshing. I don't think that was complimentary.

Thank you 🙂

In the interests of equality, well done, Bridie

Finger slipped... thought it might be a rude word i could use, i learnt how to swear in sign language today, ive practised it all day 🤣😂

Banish the thought, Bridie.

Maybe a simp comes from simpering, come to think of it?

Anything that makes the world seem a "nice"! place is fine with me.

I get the jist Miss A... thought it might be a rude word !!!

Sorry, bit rambly today.
Extra words, missing words, you name it; I'm doing it.

It's an overly complimentary person, from what I can make out.
One of those kinds of people who buy the boss a present for the boss out of their own money, as well as putting into the staff collection.

Marvellous🤭

Miss A, what is a simp please 🤔?

A lot of the alternative words, I just wouldn't say about someone, unless I had a close personal relationship with them, or fancied them.

Wonderful? Great?
I hadn’t noticed the lovely ‘thing’ now I’ll start looking out for it.
I prob over use the word nice.Did you know that nice used to mean exact or so we were told at school.

Dottydots 👍🏼😁

I laughed when my consulatant called a lovely lady in a letter to my GP.

If only he knew....😉

I’m sure it’s meant well. What alternative would you suggest?
I think sometimes, offence is looked for where none whatsoever is intended!

Suggestions for alternatives to "lovely ":
pleasant, charming, delightful, enjoyable , amusing, agreeable
More suggestions please!
By the way, I find that bus drivers, shop assistants and café staff are calling me "my lovely". Has anyone else experienced that? I rather like it!