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LucyAnna2 Fri 11-Oct-24 18:19:16

Our older son has been here today and we have (good naturedly) discussed our (very different) political views. Younger son thinks more along the lines of our views, as does daughter, who is a very active party member.

How is the political climate in your house?

M0nica Fri 11-Oct-24 18:28:12

Ds is to the left of us, DD to the right on some issues, except she does not support any particular party, while we and DS do (but not the same one).

Again, like OP, it causes no problems, we can discuss issues and agree to differ.

valdali Fri 11-Oct-24 19:37:35

I can only discuss politics with OH if I know he thinks broadly the same as me, on that topic but my sons & I love a good argument discussion & I respect their views & sometimes change my mind (not something I'm prone to oing)

Fartooold Fri 11-Oct-24 19:48:53

No one to discuss politics with since DH died but our three with Down Syndrome let me blather on and one like me is quite left of centre.🫢
Birth children live away but they think the same but phone calls have no time for politics

AskAlice Fri 11-Oct-24 19:53:54

Both my DDs are broadly in agreement with DH and I over political matters. I worked in politics for most of my life, and my younger DD also worked for MPs for a few years and is now in Local Government. We can amicably discuss most issues, whilst still having some different ideas about policies, personalities etc.

Our SIL has a very different political outlook! He tends to keep rather quiet when we are all together grin but he knows we still love him, and we have never fallen out over anything political!

lixy Fri 11-Oct-24 20:02:14

We are pretty much in alignment with our AC and their partners, though we rarely have in depth discussions.
GD was most put out when I wouldn’t tell her who I voted for - never have told anyone and neither has my OH.

I do not discuss politics with my parents or the in-laws; far too risky!

Pantglas2 Fri 11-Oct-24 20:02:56

Our children have become less left wing as they’ve gotten older and grown their own businesses and even more so since they realised we had something to leave them in our wills…quelle surpris eh?

paddyann54 Fri 11-Oct-24 20:09:07

Our kids and GC vote for the only Scottish party in EXISTENCE the other are Westminster parties who work for Westminster not for Scotland .Why on earth would any one with even half a brain vote to be overruled on everything…currently by the red tories and their dodgy UK energy scheme that will continue to plunder Scotland ds wealth.Its sheer stupidity to vote for any party that isn,t Scottish even registered down south!!

Jaxjacky Fri 11-Oct-24 20:46:08

I rarely discuss politics with my children, our time is spent on chatting of other things.
paddyann I’d read your posts in a more thorough manner if you didn’t use shouty capitals, they’re a right turn off.

Babs03 Fri 11-Oct-24 21:33:12

We are on the same page as our ACs and SiLs. We are all to the centre left, with occasional forays further left. Lots of robust discussions, can’t get a word in edgeways sometimes but all good natured.

Galaxy Fri 11-Oct-24 21:36:29

It's interesting isnt it. I have absolute stand up arguments with my dad on politics but it never impacts our relationship. I think thats a good thing.

Cabbie21 Sat 12-Oct-24 21:17:01

We don’t really discuss politics. Probably we all think “ None of the above”, though my Son-in-law is threatening to leave the UK since the election. He is a self-made businessman.

aonk Sat 12-Oct-24 21:58:24

We don’t really discuss politics with our family members which comprise 4AC and their spouses. I’m not even sure if they all vote. It’s a subject which no one ever introduces.
My father brought me up to believe that religion, politics and money weren’t subjects for conversation. I think he was right in most circumstances. I have frank discussions with DH and one very good friend but no one else.

Granmarderby10 Sat 12-Oct-24 22:40:10

It is common for young people who are eligible not to vote.
Some adults I know in their 40s have never voted and don’t even watch or read news.
They talk about voting like some people used to talk of attending church of a Sunday, they know they should but aren’t sure why really
So I am assuming that this apathy will spread to their children.

annodomini Sat 12-Oct-24 22:49:24

Both DSs are with me on the centre left, though DS2 is the greenest. ADGs are largely on the left - one of them is studying Politics.

NotSpaghetti Sat 12-Oct-24 22:52:49

Cabbie21

We don’t really discuss politics. Probably we all think “ None of the above”, though my Son-in-law is threatening to leave the UK since the election. He is a self-made businessman.

My daughter, son-in-law and family left (with his "self-made" business) after Brexit.

Anyone who feels like this should go I think.

Fidelity2 Sat 12-Oct-24 23:08:26

As Aneurin Bevan said ...Vote for the poor and needy.The rich and greedy have always been able to look after themselves.

Grams2five Sat 12-Oct-24 23:13:35

All ac think pretty well the same as Dh and I - we’ve always been a pretty “active “ politically family. And I’d be pretty shocked if the ac had drastically different views on certain issues. But we discuss it all rather frequently as we all enjoy it. Back before we were estranged my in-laws had drastically different beliefs and dear husband often said he doesn’t understand how he was raised by people who thought like that 😝

henetha Sat 12-Oct-24 23:17:00

Other people might have different opinions about Scotland, as is their right.
My family are mostly left of centre in varying degrees. We never fall out over politics.

NotSpaghetti Sat 12-Oct-24 23:58:36

We talk politics with our adult children and discuss who we vote for.
I don't think there's a problem with that.

We also talk money and religion if the subjects happen to come up.

DillytheGardener Sun 13-Oct-24 00:27:44

My husband is now far right now thanks to GB News, Farage and the Daily Mail. We were both small c conservative before then (I still am).

Younger son is a bit lazy and I don’t think votes unless whoever is his current girlfriend prods him into it, but think he votes labour.

The other is very left wing.

We used to argue a lot with the older son a lot about politics until he moved to NZ confused

Redhead56 Sun 13-Oct-24 00:52:08

My degree was Political Science I learnt a long time ago it’s not a discussion around the dining table neither is religion.

NotSpaghetti Sun 13-Oct-24 07:47:26

Redhead56 maybe you know more than we do!
We talk politics quite often with family.

We only talk politics at any length with friends and associates who think broadly along the same lines as us though.

When we were young my husband and step father used to both get very angry regarding what could loosely be called "politics" but which was really about "helping others" in my opinion.
As someone recently said if you are going to pull yourself up by your bootstraps you first have to have boots!

Family we can challenge.

NotSpaghetti Sun 13-Oct-24 07:48:07

...and be challenged by!
grin

Aveline Sun 13-Oct-24 07:57:46

Our DD and SiL are completely in agreement re politics and the vital importance of Scotland working together with the other parts of the UK for the benefit of all. The whole family deplores the useless SNP and how it has lost focus on what really matters to the people of Scotland.