Do you ever get a day ?

Yes BlueBelle, I often wake up feeling like that. And I shouldn’t, as I have much to be thankful for.

When I was still at work, I thought that once I retired, I would have little to fret about.

But like many women, I seem to find something,

Family, health, everyday household concerns….

Then I get up and get on with it.

Some days just seem a bit bleak.

I was seriously ill a couple of years ago and sometimes I think I'm still just a bit sorry for myself. I think it also happens when I'm concerned about someone I love too but it's quite "low level" bleak. More like a grey niggle.

Obviously if my loved one is really struggling (or ill) then I know why the day is a bit "off"so I don't mean that.
I'm not aware of having more than a day of it BlueBelle.

I'm lucky to have a great husband. Sometimes I have a weep on his shoulder if I'm feeling "unreasonably" grey. I know that deep down it's when I'm still a bit sorry for myself (I'm actually very lucky) and don't know why. He never says I'm unreasonable by the way. He is my rock.

I hope you have someone like him. X

When I am feeling down I say to myself "This too shall pass" and thankfully it does.

Quite often!, especially when the weather is bleak .
Some days just hit you like that Bluebelle, sod it days I call them. Take care of yourself and stay warm 🏖🔥

Certainly do bluebelle, miserable aren’t they? Sometimes I can work out the trigger, often not. I’m especially prone to them this time of year. Find socialising hard and pull up the drawbridge until the down-time passes. If I can be outside under a bright sky it helps otherwise it’s curl up and wait for it to pass. If it’s one of those times be gentle with yourself, you’re not alone that’s for sure.

I also have days when I don't feel like doing anything .

I wonder if apart from failing health if it isn't a sign of the times :

There's incredible discontent at church .
Some ladies are threatening to walk due to the behaviour of some parishioners
It isn't just in one group , but in two .
I've never experienced such nastiness .
It's so prevalent that I've expressed my disquiet to the Vicar .
She's set up a meeting to try to smooth things over .

I live on my own and going out meeting friends is important to me .
I prefer to shop alone
But what's getting me down recently is the increasing racial tension where I live .
Yesterday , was another occasion (second in three weeks)
when I was accused of standing too close to someone .It didn't happen before BLM .
I have close Africa born friends and I've asked them about it .
They don't exhibit it , but are aware of the growing bad feeling .

I notice that my younger still at work friends aren't that happy in their workplace and terrified of losing their jobs .
One has been told that the computer in her reception area can't be slightly moved so she suffers from severe migraine at the end of the day.
Apparently, it will spoil the look of the newly renovated reception area .
She's had flu for a week and isn't granted sick pay as after seven months plus she's not completed her trial period .
Surely , this isn't allowed ?
And then , there are friends who are really struggling with child care . They do it for fear that they won't be allowed to see their grandkids .
Those in failing marriages and have to stay due to socio -economic reasons .

Our government aren't reassuring -no guarantee of affordable living and there is a threat of World War Three .

It's no wonder .

Yes, I do. However, I know the reason behind it and there’s nothing I can do about it.
It is what it is.

I don't have any of those excuses/reasons Esmay yet can also wake up feeling down.

I usually put it down to the dreich weather or the phases of the moon.
It can happen when the sun is shining too so maybe that doesn't work 🤔
If it's a beautiful day and I'm not doing anything much I begin to feel sorry for myself and remember all the happy times when we were young and the DC were small...
Now DH has died and the AC have their own occasions, I become too conscious of the passing of time.

Every day! But there are lots of reasons why. I try now to start my day in a more positive note- lighting candles if it's still dark and saying my morning prayers.
Listening to chilled out morning music before having my breakfast.
Soon passes.
It helps to be grateful at the end of the day too- and I sleep like a baby.

I can sympathise with all of you who have “down days” - less “black dog” , more “grey puppy”
There’s a big difference though isn’t there between feeling sad or depressed for a reason, (and heaven knows there’s reason enough these days) and just feeling “Eurgh”
If you can identify a reason and can do something about it, that’s fine. But we can’t always change events - only perhaps how we react to them.
Just feeling low could be the result of disturbed or inadequate sleep, harbouring a virus which is yet to appear, lack of sunlight, or of company or stimulus - boredom.
I don’t know the answer, for some people, activity or exercise does it, stimulating the endorphins , while for others just hunkering down with a favourite book or film can do it. Of course a lovely surprise out of the blue usually works - but they are harder to organise!
Treat yourself perhaps, go out for a coffee and slice of cake and if possible try not to overthink it.
Just as we can feel tired physically I’m sure we can also feel mentally tired and need to rest .

A very good post RM2. Yes I do Bluebelle, sometimes I wonder if it has been triggered by a dream. Not that I remember the dream when I wake up but yes, that sense of sadness weighing down heavily. It is not a good start to the day but do you know what? I go onto Gransnet in the hope that I will see your name because you often bring a smile to my face. I hope this message brings one to you ☺️

BlueBelle

Do you ever get a day when for no real reason you feel really sad and down ? I don’t mean depression or anything major just a day maybe two when you feel sad and low but no real idea why.

Back soon, you are top of my list for a proper cheer up, keep smiling lovely lady🙂

Unfortunately yes.

I just wake up feeling out of sorts, sad.

Great post, RosiesMaw2. I often wake up feeling “out of sorts” too, GrannyGravy13…

I keep wondering whether it’s to do with the challenging of getting older…

Yes, I get days like that, particularly at this time of year with the thought of a long dark winter ahead. And I'm increasingly nervous about being here alone and being taken ill maybe.
I'm trying to rise above it though.

Yes I still sometimes wake up feeling out of sorts . There’s no particular reason why . Although for me tiredness leaves me feeling low . Since the menopause started I haven’t slept well and that’s 16 years ago .
I’ve always had dogs and walking my dog in the woodlands near me helps my mood. I suppose it’s being outside in nature and the exercise which helps , plus other dog owners are friendly and stop for a quick chat .
I like the term grey puppy and hugs to those who suffer with the black dog .

I have “what is the point days”, when plans for the day go completely down the drain because I suddenly have neither the desire or the confidence to see them through. The most mundane things become a snakes nest of “what ifs” and problems . Sometimes I give myself a good talking to and that will do it, but increasingly, it doesn’t.

Very rarely, but yes, it does happen. and often for no apparent reason at all. I find the best antidote is to go and walk in the woods, and breathe. Having Yata at my sides makes it even better. Nature and walking always does the trick.

I'm sorry BlueBelle that you feel like this. I am the same but very much affected by the weather, cheered up to an extent by doing something I enjoy - strangely having a good clean up and unfortunately baking and eating something nice. I hope you have something nice to do today so lift your spirits.

I do get odd down days but usually there is a reason. I might have been affected by a thought, a sentence I've just read, a grey sky. Yet I do know I have so very much to be thankful for.

Life is full contrasts of moods, feelings, events and they rise and fall, ebb and flow hopefully in a more gentle fashion so we can navigate them and our responses. Know all will change, nothing ever stays the same.

I try and walk it off, in green, traffic free spaces and go gentle with myself, small indulgences until something inevitably lifts me. So have a quiet day BlueBelle, with some pampering and some distractions. Then a better day tomorrow x

Yes I call them the Glums. Sometimes even on sunny autumn days like today, they can hover on my shoulder.
The passing of time, friends and family lost, the future ... all can summon up The Glums.
It's comforting to know it's common with GNs as I don't like telling family as they then will be sad as well.
Today I must cut the grass. Can't say that will cheer me up, but it will occupy my thoughts and that helps. We are not alone.

Yes I have days like this, no idea why and sometimes the next day I'm fine.

I just seem to wake up instantly thinking of the down side of everything which is ridiculous as I have good things happening too.
I also worry too much about things that are going to happen in the future that I know will be difficult. I can't seem to block them out until the time comes.
Keeping busy helps.

Yes. It might be because I have slept badly, but more likely because I have no specific purpose for the day ahead. Or am cross with myself because I wasted the previous day, either through procrastination, or because I didn’t make the most of a sunny day or a dry day to go out, or a wet day to get some sorting done. Yes, maybe I am too hard on myself. In the summer when my choirs were not running, I had too many sad days. Singing is so good for the mind, the body and the soul.

Never with no idea why. My daughter died and it should have been me.

But there is still a lot to enjoy in my life and a lot to work at so I just plod on and accept – even seek – challenges.

I see it as an aching empty hole in my life that I have to work around. It's tough but what other option is there really? Life is tough. Always has been, always will be.

William Hazlitt: “The art of Life is to know how to Enjoy a little and to Endure very much…”