I think what worries me about MissAdventure's plight is the fact that she's involved in a husband-and-wife (male / female) relationship, and doesn't appear to know him or have met him (MissAdventure?). Ergo, doesn't really know what type of individual she might be getting 'involved' with.
Decades ago I was in a similar situation - but the woman was my best friend and I knew her husband. As best friends do, we confided in each other and as she was going through a very rocky patch in her marriage, I got 'involved' when she sought my advice.
One day, I went round to her house to see her and was confronted by a very angry husband (she was out) who, basically, blamed me for the continuing derailment of his marriage. He levelled all kinds of accusations against me and the 'advice' he thought I'd given her, quite a bit of which - I hadn't. He was I think blaming me for his own shortcomings (but that's another story).
He wasn't a violent man, but he was ill-tempered, and it was a very unpleasant experience. He did, later, come around to my house to apologise for his outburst, but - here's the thing - he was quite drunk and had reached that point where he had become maudlin, and I had to make him black coffee and sit with him for the next two hours whilst he regaled me with the details of the years of his fraught marriage during which 'my influence' on his wife played a bigger part in his imagination than it did in reality.
I think MissAdventure the moral of this is, don't get involved in husband and wife relationships - or in this case, don't let your friend involve you in whatever mind-games, or any other 'games' she (and he) are playing.
Good Morning Monday 18th May 2026
