Should I buy a birthday gift for my daughter's boyfriend

A bottle of whatever he likes to drink.

Men are so difficult to buy for so I would second a bottle of whatever he likes to drink. Or a voucher for Amazon. I love those as I read on a Kindle.

Only if you want to. After one meeting seems overly generous. 40? Champagne?

Yes, definitely get him something. You could ask your daughter for advice on what to get.

Yes, I think you should. The men in my life wouldn't like champagne but definitely a bottle of something if he drinks.

Yes, you should. Your daughter will know what to get him. but I wouldn’t go overboard - something under £25.

Depends

How is your relationship with Jim?

How often do you talk? See each other? Communicate in general?

Most importantly- what does your daughter think?
Have you asked her?
This question is a little weird, given they have been dating for only 9 months

Him, not Jim

Ask your DD
I wouldn’t but may give a card.

Ask your daughter- if she says something expensive don't buy him anything!

If you are going to see him on his birthday and celebrate with them both then by all means buy something small and fairly impersonal. I don’t think I would give him anything otherwise, though, as you’ve only met him once in 9 months. As he’s 40 years old I doubt that he expects a present from his girlfriend’s mother. Maybe just send a card to acknowledge his special day?

Yes do seeing as he is 40 but nothing expensive, ask your daughter who may even advise that it isn’t necessary seeing as you don’t know him that well.
I would run to a card and his favourite tipple as others have said.

I would buy a card and a bottle of wine in a nice gift bag after all 40 is a big birthday xx

Rainbow1235

I would buy a card and a bottle of wine in a nice gift bag after all 40 is a big birthday xx

This is what I would do as well.

I’ve given amazon vouchers in the past, unless I know something specific that they want.

Thank you for your replies. I think I'll probably get a card and a bottle of something.
Hithere, hahaha, I thought you knew him/Jim, at first, (Jim/James).
I've only seen and spoken to him once. My daughter and he live quite a long way from me (they don't live together.)
Thanks again all.

It's always books for my son in law and on history as he's always asking my opinion and which history books I favour .
I have bought him Stilton, biscuits and port or chocolates before he became a bookaholic like me .

A card and a bottle. Choose something you like in case he offers to drink some with you!

I would do a card and bottle of wine. However as they live a distance from you if you are not seeing him around the birthday maybe just send a card to him

Given the additional information, I would not buy him a present or card

What additional information?

That they don’t live nearby? It’s her DDs boyfriend and at 40 I think he would appreciate a card and a bottle, even if you have to hang onto the latter, until it can be handed over.

I’ve done similar for friends/colleagues of DD2, most of whom I haven’t met, but appreciate the help they offer her.

My son had been going out with his girlfriend a year only met her once and I bought her some Morlton and brown for her 40 th it was well received.

I think I’d buy a voucher for a restaurant meal for both your daughter & new boyfriend - so they can celebrate his birthday together curtesy of you!

If your daughter likes him and you like him then certainly a nice card, and if you are seeing him on or near his birthday, a modest gift such as a bottle of his favourite booze, would be a nice gesture to mark his fortieth, but check with your daughter first.