My heart is breaking…

I am so sorry to hear this. My big brother died at Christmas. I saw him a week before and although he was really poorly and couldn’t speak much I chatted to him. Do try speaking on the phone if you are unable to get to see him. I’m sure it would help you and in some way be a comfort to him.

Oil feel your pain. My youngest brother died suddenly at 52years old. It sent shockwaves through the family as he hadn't been ill and had been to work the night before. I will be thinking of you. 😔

I'm sorry, such sad news.

Your brother is always with you. He is in your head ,and in your heart.

Thank you so much for all of your kind words and suggestions. I partially took the advice you offered and my younger brother has relayed messages from me to my older brother several times over the last two days.

Whilst I was with both of my late parents when they passed, I knew that whilst I could compose myself in person, I did not think I could do it over the phone.

Although I don’t think that my brother could hear me (following a catastrophic stroke) my greatest fear has been that in the unlikely case that he could hear me, I would hate for him to experience fear by hearing me becoming upset. I feel that I have made the right decision and messages have been passed on from me by my younger brother and sister-in-law.

I also pass on my sincere condolences for those of you who have already experienced this loss.

I am so proud of my brother and our whole family and appreciate the support that has been given here. Thank you.

My heart goes out to you too …. you are not alone💐

We marked the first birthday of my brother since his passing recently. We went to his favourite cafe and had a lovely lunch. He was there in spirit. He rests in peace now, I really feel that so I can now remember him as he was, without any pain on my part.

We also shared our photos and little videos and brought him back to us briefly through technology.

I am so grateful and privileged to have called him my brother. We really should treasure each other while we can.

Mamma66, I very much respect your heartbreak. This is a big loss . You will need to let your mourning run its course in your personal feelings. Feelings of sadness are necessary at this time.

Mamma I don't think your brother would feel fear if he heard you cry I think he would want to comfort you but can't . My best friends mom had a massive stroke she sat with her for days holding her hand and talking all the time . She was telling her mom how much she loves her and her mom squeezed her hand and died a few minutes later. It wasn't a muscle spasm as her moms hand hadn't moved in all the time she had been holding it .

I know you are happy with your decision and just had messages past on but this is what happened with my friend and her mom .

Mamma, my thoughts are with you today.
In such devastating situations we behave in a way that is right for us. Whatever you do or don't do is your decision and only you know the way to go. You love your brother and he knows that, be at peace with your actions - whatever they may be.
You are in turmoil now and I sincerely hope that the support on GN is of some small comfort.
I won't stop thinking about you .
(((( HUGS )))). 💐💐💐

Thank you, in the end I spoke to him on FaceTime. I decided that I didn’t want to regret not speaking to him. It was the right decision and I just about managed to hold it together

Mamma66, my thoughts are with you, well done for face-timing.

Sending u massive hugs xxxx