Valentine’s Day ♥️ How many times have you been truly in love? ♥️

I have been married for 60 years and love my husband. Whether I was ever ‘in love’ with him I don’t know. But I was in love with someone long ago, and even though I know he is dead, I still think of him . Is that wrong of me?

Once-still am.

Something that my Nan said many many years ago was right for me! She said you can love several times for different reasons but only be truly in love just once!

when I was young I confused love with lust, now I am older I realise what love actually is, just wish there could be love and lust together, now that would be perfect!

David49

I’m very disappointed in many of the responses

To me the excitement of lust is sex and any advantage you can gain from that.

Love is putting your partners wants and needs above your own, sex is included in that but not dominant.

Any disagreement on those definitions

Agree with all that David but my love for my husband started with lust.
And grew from there. 54 years and counting.

Only once ....
And it brought me nothing else, but disappointment and headache.

Three times. Married once.

MrsMatt that is sad. 💐

I have allways been able to tell very clearly the difference between love and lust.

I fell deeply in love once, things didn't work out and it clouded my life for several years afterwards. Then someone I had known for years came to the fore and we have been happily married for 57 years.

Of course I played the field and had various boyfriends, but, I have only loved 2 - and loving is a step beyond 'being in love' which is a concept I have never really understood.

Once. Started going out with him the week after my 16th birthday, got engaged on my 18th, married him when I was 21 and we celebrated out 40th wedding anniversary last year. Yes, there have been ups and downs over those years, but we've come through them together.

I loved many, but was in love once. My late DH, gone for 11 years on 14.02.2025. Had a love/hate relationship with valentine's day ever since

I’ve had three types of love I think. My first husband was my childhood sweetheart. I was with him for about 20 years, married for 13 and had three children. I loved him with all my heart - but he didn’t feel the same way and fell out of love with me. It broke my heart.
My second was proper attraction and lust. Every time he touched me it was like an electric shock - and although I felt love for him I knew deep down that it wasn’t right and wouldn’t last.
My third is my present lovely husband. Definitely true ‘proper’ love. Best friends and confidants weathering the ups and downs of our families’ lives, with shared values, hopes and dreams.

That’s lovely Norah 🥰

Once. We married when I was 16 and he was 18.

Shania Twain -- Still the One

Looks like we made it
Look how far we've come, my baby
We mighta took the long way
We knew we'd get there someday
They said, "I bet they'll never make it"
But just look at us holding on
We're still together, still going strong
Mm (you're still the one)
You're still the one I run to
The one that I belong to
You're still the one I want for life
(You're still the one)
You're still the one that I love
The only one I dream of
You're still the one I kiss goodnight
Ain't nothin' better
We beat the odds together
I'm glad we didn't listen
Look at what we would be missin'
They said, "I bet they'll never make it"
But just look at us holding on
We're still together, still going strong

I wish there was a like button on here.

Agree -TerriBull

I'm sure I've been in love twice. But possibly three times.

Lust is one of life's great experiences it produces a heightened drug like euphoria. At times quite irrational and inexplicable, the chemistry that melds a couple together and if you're really lucky it lasts. Inevitably it morphs into something much deeper, it has to, to sustain a good relationship. Life presents many challenges one way and another, marriage/partnership need more than lust to underpin it love, mutual support and caring about your other half's welfare are paramount in the long run and you really need to like the person and enjoy the simple pleasures of conversation and as Esther Rantzen wisely put it "I've people around to do something with, but I miss the person I want to have around to do nothing in particular with"

I’m very disappointed in many of the responses

To me the excitement of lust is sex and any advantage you can gain from that.

Love is putting your partners wants and needs above your own, sex is included in that but not dominant.

Any disagreement on those definitions

Grandma70s

“Whatever love means” as the King once said. I would say twice.

He didn’t say that
His words were “ Whatever in love means”
I think this thread has more than proved the difference.

I was disappointed not to read someone say their pick up line was ‘get your coat, you’ve pulled’. 😊

Oh yes. Been ‘in lust’ quite a few times.
I miss those days - felt so alive.

Lost count of how many times I've been in lust and infatuated but real love? Only twice. The first lasted 47 years. The second is ongoing.

Married and divorced twice. I loved both husbands more than they loved me. After that l met and loved another for 10 years I'm still in love with him he never loved me the way l loved him. He was in lust not love. He ended it last year .

I think possibly 3, but I'm not sure in retrospect whether I was in love with my first boyfriend or as he was the first person I'd had sex with, I thought it was love, but well sex can blur the lines. a bit of indiscretion that's enough about that! We were together for nearly 3 years, did a bit of travelling around Europe, so obviously I felt something. I loved my first husband although that relationship foundered. Undoubtedly the love of my life is definitely my husband and they say that 2nd marriages are more likely to not work out. Well "They" whoever they are, are wrong!!! Well in my case at least. Hackneyed I know, but he is my soulmate, my best friend, my confidante, and a thoroughly good person, we never run out of things to talk about, the person I feel most comfortable around and far better than me in many respects twin souls, we celebrated 40 years together just gone, thank goodness our paths collided, my life would have been poorer (not in wealth terms) without him. My partners have been sparse, just the 3, although I would add , in their own way they were all decent enough, maybe not "the one" though. I've never been involved with a horrible person, in that I think I'm also lucky, or maybe my judgement is better than I sometimes think it is.

Thought I was in love many times proved by time that it wasn’t real true love at all so maybe I ve never been in love at all who knows !
It’s a word, a definition that’s different for everyone I was madly in love with my first husband and he with me, but after a while his style of life became the better of him and I had to accept that he would never change to what I needed for a proper relationship and over the years I v often questioned what the heck was that ……love, need, care I ve no idea I started out with deep love and ended up with none

I now believe I ve only felt real proper love for my family, my children and my grandchildren