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Valentine’s Day ♥️ How many times have you been truly in love? ♥️

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Kandinsky Fri 14-Feb-25 07:07:02

Me……twice.

mum2three Fri 14-Feb-25 09:44:19

Never. I had very unpleasant parents and married the first man who asked me. I saw marriage as a way to escape. I've never had feelings for anyone, so perhaps I would never had married otherwise.

escaped Fri 14-Feb-25 09:39:31

kittylester

I think it's hard to say really. Love grows, in my view, and evolves from the initial feelings of lust. Luckily, DH and I have grown together.

I have been in lust quite a few times!

This indeed.

Whiff Fri 14-Feb-25 09:35:39

Once .. I was lucky enough to find the love of my life when I was 16 he was 18. We had wonderful life together full of ups and downs . We argued but always told eachother we love eachother. We never argued about important things . He was the other half of me and me his. We had 29 years together married 22 when he died aged 47. He was my one an only . But I was lucky to have been loved and love in return . Never wanted anyone else . Been 21 years since he died but my love and grief for him has never lessoned . But because of him I keep going everyday. My knight in slightly tarnished armoury . Who would have fought dragons for me. And I him .

keepingquiet Fri 14-Feb-25 09:30:15

Probably never- depending on the definition.

Infatuated yes.

Loving someone? Yes

Being 'in love' not so sure.

kittylester Fri 14-Feb-25 09:30:08

I think it's hard to say really. Love grows, in my view, and evolves from the initial feelings of lust. Luckily, DH and I have grown together.

I have been in lust quite a few times!

LINDY3 Fri 14-Feb-25 09:29:29

Been in love once the real thing a long time ago don't think I will ever feel that way again

Shinamae Fri 14-Feb-25 09:23:48

Never…

Cabbie21 Fri 14-Feb-25 09:23:20

Grandma70s

“Whatever love means” as the King once said. I would say twice.

I thought that was a cruel thing to say in front of his new fiancée, but how true. “Being in love” is often used for a short-term emotion, whereas loving someone is a long-term committed relationship.

foxie48 Fri 14-Feb-25 09:21:54

Passionate all consuming lust ( not sure if that counts as love) several times but I knew they were not suitable long term partners. Wanting to share my life with ( is that love?) once. It's not perfect but it ticks enough boxes to be a very happy relationship. I've never found both in one man.

Grandma70s Fri 14-Feb-25 08:58:44

“Whatever love means” as the King once said. I would say twice.

Franbern Fri 14-Feb-25 08:55:09

Once - at 16 years of age and a holiday romance. Finished after three months.
Do not think I was 'in love' when I got married, we were great friends, and if MS had not reared its ugly head would probably have stayed together for life - but my real love of my life came into being as I became a Mother and those children always have been the most important people in my life.

Babs03 Fri 14-Feb-25 08:53:25

Just once, thought I was in love many times but realise now it wasn’t the real thing ❤️

David49 Fri 14-Feb-25 08:44:30

Twice, married both of them, widowed after 47 yrs, found love again 6 yrs and counting, guess I’m easy to live with.

whywhywhy Fri 14-Feb-25 08:41:19

Once. After three marriages that’s not bad. Happy Valentine’s Day! 🤗🤗

CariadAgain Fri 14-Feb-25 08:34:52

Thoro

Twice for me, 30 years for the first and 20 years the second. Widowed with both.

That's 50 years of happiness - congratulations on that. That's a lot of years to have had.

Thoro Fri 14-Feb-25 08:33:21

Twice for me, 30 years for the first and 20 years the second. Widowed with both.

M0nica Fri 14-Feb-25 08:32:53

Twice.

CariadAgain Fri 14-Feb-25 08:32:21

Never I'd say.

I've had crushes on a few men (some of whom I dated for a while) and could have landed up marrying several men. My first boyfriend - boy did I ever have a crush on him and he had one on me.....but thank goodness I had the sense to chuck him (especially as I had no idea whatsoever what the - Arabic! - country he came from was like). I could have been in a LOT of trouble...darn sure I would have been in fact if I'd married him. Very very lucky escape indeed that I chucked him.

I was very fond of the only man that was worth going out with of any of them. Still good friends with his mother all these years later. But I think one of the things that did for him was my fathers comment of "He's not intelligent enough for you". Cue for he did, over the years, listen to my comments of "That job isn't good enough for you" and, by a winding route, did land up doing an Open University course to get a degree and got himself a management type career then that he's had for years. It would have come to grief in the end anyway - as he had That Jab and I wouldnt go within a million miles of it and we would probably have broken up at that point - even though he was one of the ones blackmailed into it by his employer - as it is a high-level care job (so it wouldnt have been possible for me to persuade him not to basically).

Looking back - I think I learnt from the first relationship (ie the Arabic man) that I must "think with head as well as heart" and there is no way that love alone can win out - if logic is saying "Run ......and fast. This is illogical". I knew if I "settled" that I'd be unfaithful - as I'd have kept looking for The One.

It would have been nice - and would have saved one HECK of a lot of financial struggle (eg with two of us the starter house would have turned up when it was due at early 20's - rather than a LOT of struggle and a heck of a fluke of "right place right time" in my mid-30's). I'd have avoided one heck of a lot of sideline work/lodgers and having to move across country at 60 (as I still hadn't got my detached house with garden - despite my best efforts - and the move was necessary in order to get it). You can't grow stuff in your garden if you've not got one. You can't enjoy the "peace and quiet" of a detached house if it's still the mid-terrace starter house.

I did the best I could - and it would have been nice to meet Him....but if you don't you don't....

Grammaretto Fri 14-Feb-25 08:29:28

You are not obliged to read or answer Sago

I miss my truelove today and may fish out a couple of his handmade, funny cards he gave me. 51years together wasn't long enough.

Before we met, I had several boyfriends and he had some quite serious girlfriends but there wasn't that meeting of minds, of ideals, of
SOH, of passionate lust, of knowing we wanted to spend our lives together and never part. 😥❤️

LadyGracie Fri 14-Feb-25 08:12:53

And you don’t have to answer.

Just once.

RosieandherMaw Fri 14-Feb-25 08:10:52

Sago

I don’t understand the need to ask such personal questions.

Perhaps because it gets us reminiscing?😍

Sago Fri 14-Feb-25 08:09:09

I don’t understand the need to ask such personal questions.

JudyBloom Fri 14-Feb-25 08:07:42

Mmm, truly a few times.

RosieandherMaw Fri 14-Feb-25 08:06:47

That would be telling!
DH was the love of my life but before I met him my heart did have a couple of flutters!

fancythat Fri 14-Feb-25 08:04:47

Just once - with DH.