The Dumped, the Divorced and the Disheartened

The growing number of men and women who are quite happy to be single ie the resolutely single, might find the insistent pedalling of the idea that life in incomplete without 'another half' implicit in the whole Valentine's Day thing wearing to say the least. Especially as the hearts and flowers seem to be on display and in the TV ads earlier each year.

It is not that they want a partner, it's just that they don't want to be constantly told that they should have a partner.

I hadn't even registered that it is Valentine's day till I found a little gift from my DD in my post box. She always sends me something.

I can’t believe (well I can but it’s still a bit !) that some women of our age are making a fuss about Valentine cards.

Indigo8

The growing number of men and women who are quite happy to be single ie the resolutely single, might find the insistent pedalling of the idea that life in incomplete without 'another half' implicit in the whole Valentine's Day thing wearing to say the least. Especially as the hearts and flowers seem to be on display and in the TV ads earlier each year.

It is not that they want a partner, it's just that they don't want to be constantly told that they should have a partner.

I am one of the resolutely single. Widowed a long time ago. It makes no difference to me that people are enjoying Valentine's day. I wish them well.
I'm sorry for those who find it difficult if they have lost someone recently.

Going out with girlfriends this evening..mix of single and married. Hubby doing the same. Together for 40 years and we honestly cannot bear the exclusivity of the hyped up VD. St Valentine was actually single and celibate... so its really not about romance..it's about shared life values and enough love for everyone. If anyone is feeling unloved today, then please treat yourself, do something lovely for another person and know you are worthy xxx

Ps hubby going out with mix of blokes!

Happy Valentine's Day to everyone on GN even if you are just happily ignoring it.or

Thanks Indigo. I am among the Happy Dumped.
However, I did enjoy the special offer meal- for- two offer at the supermarket: a pleasant meal , one part yesterday, and one half this evening, and a bottle of fizz to enjoy with my girlfriends next week .

We have always celebrated Valentine's Day, at the least by exchanging cards. For the last few years we have had something special to eat at home, rather than be ripped off in restaurants, and for the last two DW has been unable to get out by herself to choose a card, so I have designed a joint one celebrating that we are each other's Valentine, even after nearly fifty-two years of marriage.

Indigo8

The growing number of men and women who are quite happy to be single ie the resolutely single, might find the insistent pedalling of the idea that life in incomplete without 'another half' implicit in the whole Valentine's Day thing wearing to say the least. Especially as the hearts and flowers seem to be on display and in the TV ads earlier each year.

It is not that they want a partner, it's just that they don't want to be constantly told that they should have a partner.

The logic of your post Indigo8 is that we should not celebrate anything, ever. Because whatever you celebrate, someone willl feel left out, having a baby, a wedding, a birthday - a _relation's birthday, everyone has dead relations - or none, Valentines day, Mothers, fathers, grandparents days, exam results, getting a job, retiring, of course all festivals like Christmas, Easter and all other religious festivals each and everyone is bound to upset someone.

Come to that never be happy in public don't laugh or greet a friend with delight, that person behind you, might just have suddered a bereavement, or broken a relationship with a friend.

On the other hand the snow flakes of this world could just swop their willow spine for one of steel and accept that as we go through life, every so often when they are unhappy others are happy, just as when they are happy, others are sad.

My sister died on Easter Sunday, the next Easter Sunday we were a bit subdued, but then we got back to normal. Yes, we all remember DS died on Easter Sunday, but then we tuck into the chocolate eggs.

I don’t let it bother me. But I do feel sorry for my young divorced daughter. I wish she had someone to treat her and send her a big bunch of red roses. I feel so sad for her. She works so hard for her children but there you go - life eh? My daughters-in-law will be spoiled today. And so they should …

CrazyH
for you and your daughter.

Iam64

RosieandherMaw

Oreo

We’ll all be holding hands and sing Kumbaya round the campfire in a minute.
There are loads of days that are non applicable to people as already said like Mothers Day and Christmas and so on.
That’s life.

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Fabulous Oreo

True. Just read this Oreo and it made me smile! Nail on head.

J52

“I may well treat myself to some chocolates today and celebrate not having a Valentine. I'm 67, not 17...”

Wait till tomorrow they’ll be cheaper 🙂

lol, and roses, all flowers.

55 years with this great man. He is not a soppy romantic, and I like this. He is hugely intelligent, funny and steady as a rock, and that is worth so much more than a box of chocs or a rose or twenty, on Valentine's day.

For the dumped, there’s always this option.

Sorry M0nica you are reading far more into what I wrote than is actually there. Nowhere do I advocate a ban on VD or any other form of celebration but if if that is the way you wish to interpret it, go ahead.

We never did celebrate valentines day.. just enjoyed each day together..

I saw some footage from Coventry Cathedral today. It is the 75th anniversary of the bombing today and married couples were invited to attend and declare their still-lasting love for each other.

I found it very heart-warming and moving. Although I prefer being single now I have a lot of admiration for people who can 'stick it out' which I couldn't.

I was even a bit teary and quite gald my stony heart had been touched by what seemed a very genuine and appropriate occasion.

Except the dog 'bridesmaid' though- they needn't have shown me that! Spoiled it really.

Someone determind=ed to feel hurt by other people's enjoyment will always find a way. Suggestion for today that could be applied on any day that doesn't "include" one: ignore it.

I'm pretty sure most people do. The razzmatazz and hype is mostly in and by the media.

The last time I had a Valentine card was from my first boyfriend when I was about 16. The whole thing is just silly. But I did make DH one out of scraps in lockdown, another little lockdown project, never to be repeated.

Aldom - thankyou xx

I have been single for well over 30 years now (happily and by choice)let others ignore it if they want or enjoy it,makes no difference to me…💖💖💖💖💖
I will actually have a very nice evening watching question time and shouting at the TV 🤗😁

crazyH

I don’t let it bother me. But I do feel sorry for my young divorced daughter. I wish she had someone to treat her and send her a big bunch of red roses. I feel so sad for her. She works so hard for her children but there you go - life eh? My daughters-in-law will be spoiled today. And so they should …

Snap…😥
Except for the last sentence….

grumppa

We have always celebrated Valentine's Day, at the least by exchanging cards. For the last few years we have had something special to eat at home, rather than be ripped off in restaurants, and for the last two DW has been unable to get out by herself to choose a card, so I have designed a joint one celebrating that we are each other's Valentine, even after nearly fifty-two years of marriage.

Absolutely wonderful. We share Valentine’s Day as well and have been doing so ever since we got together.

I have just remembered this- when my father died, Mum wanted red roses on his coffin. She was advised that because the funeral was on 13Feb, red roses would be very expensive, so, sensibly, she opted for red carnations instead.