The Dumped, the Divorced and the Disheartened

I get that, but you could say the same about Mother's Day, Father's Day and so on.

Yes it must be Indigo and there are so many 'days' where the usual hype can be a reminder that one's life hasn't turned out as expected. Christmas day, when there's no family to celebrate and Mothers and Fathers day when you wont be acknowledged by your own child or were unable to have any

Yes, let's spread the love out to everyone. Let's build friendships and caring.

We’ll all be holding hands and sing Kumbaya round the campfire in a minute.
There are loads of days that are non applicable to people as already said like Mothers Day and Christmas and so on.
That’s life.

I think I outgrew that feeling some time in my teens!
However the first March after my Mother died, I found particularly hard as everywhere proclaimed “Mothers Day” - that hit hard.

Oreo

We’ll all be holding hands and sing Kumbaya round the campfire in a minute.
There are loads of days that are non applicable to people as already said like Mothers Day and Christmas and so on.
That’s life.

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So be happy and celebrate what you can and when you can.

I put a positive spin on Valentine's Day and thank my lucky stars I got rid of who I thought was my Valentine

I chose to have never married/no partner/no kids and I have absolutely no family of any sort so VD makes no difference to me at all, I just totally ignore it as I do with Mother/Father day, Christmas, Halloween, Easter , Birthdays... whatever!

Nobody in my family ever took any notice of Valentine’s Day, anyway, so I don’t really register it.

DP , not known for romantic impulses asked me yesterday if I wanted some red roses, we were in M&S food hall getting something only they sell ( luxury fruited hot cross buns, unlike anything other food shops sell) and were surrounded by buckets of red roses.I said no thanks, as shop roses just look artificial and stiff and have no scent, unlike the real thing.
He nodded then added a box of choc truffles to my basket for me, so I came away with something for Valentine’s Day for the first time ever, and likely the last as well.😄It doesn’t bother me either way.

Yes I agree RosieandMaw the first Mothers Day after my mother died was hard. Sadly I never made enough fuss of her on that day when she was alive. My daughters are very good to me. I should have been kinder to her. I regret that so much.

Valentines Day means very little to me so I can easily ignore it despite the shops overflowing with flowers etc. I am sure it can catch people on a bad day.

Most of these ‘days’ are ignored by us apart from Christmas and birthdays.
Easter eggs for young children and grandchildren, not fussed about Mothers Day (Mothering Sunday).
Most of it is overpriced rubbish.

Indigo8

Perhaps I should add The Resolutely Single.

There has been a great deal of hype, as usual, around Valentine's Day.

It must be quite hurtful for many people to be constantly reminded that they have no 'significant other'.

Someone whose partner has died will feel that loss on such days....and needs support from loved ones and friends if they can give it

We’ve never celebrated Valentine’s Day, we know we love each other and don’t need a commercialised day of the year to prompt us.

RosieandherMaw

Oreo

We’ll all be holding hands and sing Kumbaya round the campfire in a minute.
There are loads of days that are non applicable to people as already said like Mothers Day and Christmas and so on.
That’s life.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Fabulous Oreo

Most of these ' days' are simply to ramp up spending.

The supermarkets I order from all sent me e-mails asking if I would rather not receive messages relating to Mothering Sunday or Fathers' Day. I have never received similar messages relating to Christmas or Valentine's Day.

I for one will not be receiving any cards, flowers or chocolates let alone have a romantic, candle lit dinner.

Indigo8

Perhaps I should add The Resolutely Single.

There has been a great deal of hype, as usual, around Valentine's Day.

It must be quite hurtful for many people to be constantly reminded that they have no 'significant other'.

Why?

The whole premise of this post is based on the very old fashioned idea that people are either failing or lacking something in their life if they do not have a partner of some kind, and however you may describe it and they all wish they had one.

Actually it is perfectly possible for people to be quite happily single and barely notice Valentine's day, and from everything i read in the papers more and more women,especially, are choosing just that option.

My daughter decided around the age of 4 that she did not' want to be a mummy when she grew up' and by 20 she had decided that she preferred staying single to being in any kind of partnership. Farly unusual over 30 years ago when she made the decision, only too common nowadays.

My son and family are about the only conventional family in their friendship group. My DGC have grown up surrounded by a wonderful group of people, who have all been single the 25+ years I have known them.

I doubt any of them will be bothered by Valentines day either

Maybe we should celebrate a singles day too? More money for the card and gift market for sure.

I may well treat myself to some chocolates today and celebrate not having a Valentine. I'm 67, not 17...

“I may well treat myself to some chocolates today and celebrate not having a Valentine. I'm 67, not 17...”

Wait till tomorrow they’ll be cheaper 🙂

I've never thought of St Valentine's Day as being anything other than a money-generating commercial event, so I don't feel left out in the least if I don't get any cards, flowers or gifts - it just means my loved ones have resisted the hype. The same with so-called Mother's Day - I don't have children any more but I don't mind in the least if other people whose children are still alive get made a fuss of for the day. Incidentally, Mother's Day is a blatant commercial spin-off of Mothering Sunday - a religious festival when the congregations of small local churches all walk to the "mother Church" for a big service. Several hundred years ago people's "mother church" was the one where they were christened, so they went back to worship there on Mothering Sunday, regardless of where they usually worshipped. I should imagine it became a bit complicated when whole families were baptised or brought up in different places, so the term "mother church" was then applied to a particular church in the area (whether the largest or oldest or highest in the Church pecking order, I don't know). But now, for most people, it's all about money, getting presents and being generally spoiled. Interesting, innit, human nature?

Yes ,it is very painful when you are on your own .
I did have the chance of a date mooted last week ,but the guy's history is too much .
He doesn't think that abandoning his first partner and their five children a big deal .

I do !

After my first husband died and I was feeling a bit grumpy another widow friend of mine told me she often bought her flowers since her husband died, I thought it was a lovely idea.

My husband bought me beautiful flowers for today but while I was shopping I saw some lovely roses so bought some for myself

I don't know why anyone would find it hurtful that other people are enjoying a special day