Secrets! Can you keep them!

Yes parsley I have had that said to me too, and I’ve said I don’t want to know as it’s disrespectful if someone tells you something in confidence why on earth would you repeat it, that told me all I needed to know about the person that said it

No, unfortunately I cannot keep a secret. I am an open book. I have no secrets. My friends know this, so they never tell me theirs 😂

I’m the soul of discretion.

Yes, I do keep secrets.

I do tell the person who is sharing something with me and says, "It's just between you and me," that if it comes back to you, it means you have also told others~~~~

A rather odd thread. Surely the OP didn't expect posters to say they didn't keep secrets??

Always keep a secret and have fallen out with someone who was close over not revealing another person’s secret .

winterwhite

A rather odd thread. Surely the OP didn't expect posters to say they didn't keep secrets??

CrazyH has told us exactly that, Winterwhite.!!

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One poster has told us that the secrets they keep best of all are their own......... Amen to that.
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We had a friend who had another life in another country, 2 children and a partner.

We hated knowing, one day he tried to show me photos of them on his phone, I refused to look and he got angry.

Eventually we told him he could no longer stay with us when in UK until he told his wife and children everything.

It took a year but he did, sadly he didn’t stay around to mop up his mess, we did it.

It was a horrible and dirty secret that caused us so much sadness and angst.

Yes I can keep a secret, but hate it when someone tells me their secrets, I’m worried it could change how I feel about them in the future.

I have been told several secrets and never divulged them but have sometimes found that the same 'secret' has been told to many others who then talk about them quite openly which puts me in a difficult position as I then feel I have to walk away or try to change the subject or whatever as I dread being accused of breaking a confidence.

I have never had any difficulty in keeping secrets.

In the case of a child being harmed, I would tell the child that no-one child nor adult is bound by a promise they have been forced to give, and that actually, if we know a crime is being committed we are obliged to report it to the police.

I cannot imagine that I would not report a serious crime that an adult told me about, and I might well in the interests of my own safety not tell them that I would need to report it.

In the case of someone having helped themselves from a cash register, or shop-lifted, I would try to make them see that they needed to stop and replace the money they had taken, or send it anonymously to whereever they had stolen money or goods.

Heavenleigh

Once someone has told you a secret, it's no longer a secret!
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No one will say they can’t keep a secret, the only way to keep one is say nothing,

I know lots of secrets, both big and small. People know they can trust me.

None are law breaking and I'd struggle with, say, an affair but I don't break a confidence.

I expect the same back.

I do keep secrets if I am asked to.

I don’t like secrets….they can cause trouble.

I have never broken a promise to keep a secret but find I never divulge my own secrets to anyone . When I think about that it makes me sad, but because I feel keeping a secret can be a great burden l feel it’s unfair to put that burden on others. I have thought of seeing a councillor about one particular secret I have kept buried for over 50 years but decided I would actually feel more vulnerable if I did. I think it would feel a bit like Pandora’s box.

If I’m asked to keep something secret I do so . I don’t want to lose a friendship by blabbing about someone else’s life . I’ve been told a few things over the years in confidence never been tempted to betray someone

I've never repeated a secret. I never ask anyone to keep secrets because I don't trust anyone.