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Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 09:29:38

Is it me, or is it a bit irritating when OPs post, asking a question, never to return again, not even to answer questions or clarify things? grin

escaped Sun 23-Mar-25 09:31:35

I think there's a misunderstanding going on here, maybe because I left a word or two off my post. You don't thank every poster responding to your post, but you do pop back to comment if you want to show appreciation to those who gave you sound advice. That's how I see it anyway.
I too wish there were a like button.

Cossy Sun 23-Mar-25 07:43:26

infoman

Bit confused here,are you referring to regular posters who make a statement or ask a question,then don't return to their posting?
Or posters who sign up make a statement or ask a question,then don't never come back?

The latter as a general rule, us “regulars” almost always respond grin

Cossy Sun 23-Mar-25 07:42:19

nanna8

Good grief - so it is like Facebook where you thank all the people responding to your posts? I never knew that. I will have to cut back posts, too hard, too time consuming . I wish they had a ‘like’ button ,that would be a lot easier.

Yes a like button, a don’t like button and EDIT!

Nanato3 Sun 23-Mar-25 07:40:21

I haven't been a member for very long but I remember one of my first posts got a very sarcastic reply at the beginning.
I still came back and thanked the other kind posters , though it did almost stop me from posting . A few nasty people can spoil things for all the kind people if you don't ignore them.
If I know I can't get back to reply I put T.I.A now.

nanna8 Sun 23-Mar-25 06:48:55

Good grief - so it is like Facebook where you thank all the people responding to your posts? I never knew that. I will have to cut back posts, too hard, too time consuming . I wish they had a ‘like’ button ,that would be a lot easier.

infoman Sun 23-Mar-25 04:44:56

Bit confused here,are you referring to regular posters who make a statement or ask a question,then don't return to their posting?
Or posters who sign up make a statement or ask a question,then don't never come back?

Indigo8 Sat 22-Mar-25 18:40:33

Cossy

escaped

Not sure why you're saying sorry Indigo8, I didnt mean a thank to each and every poster. Just maybe a blanket, thank you all, 2 or 3 pages later. 😊

Just a response would be nice!!

I don't even do that so that's me told.

Grannylynj Sat 22-Mar-25 17:05:44

Meh

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 17:03:53

Baggs

People who find it irritating will do so. People who think it's not worth getting irritated about won't.

Can one control irritation? I find it hard to and that irritates me too 😂😂😂

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 17:03:08

escaped

Not sure why you're saying sorry Indigo8, I didnt mean a thank to each and every poster. Just maybe a blanket, thank you all, 2 or 3 pages later. 😊

Just a response would be nice!!

escaped Sat 22-Mar-25 16:24:17

Not sure why you're saying sorry Indigo8, I didnt mean a thank to each and every poster. Just maybe a blanket, thank you all, 2 or 3 pages later. 😊

Baggs Sat 22-Mar-25 15:57:59

People who find it irritating will do so. People who think it's not worth getting irritated about won't.

Indigo8 Sat 22-Mar-25 15:45:56

escaped

It's rude.
I particularly dislike people who don't put any effort into thanking posters.

Oh dear! I have launched a couple of threads recently but I haven't thanked people who posted on them. Of course I am grateful and I have read some very interesting and intelligent comments.

The reason I didn't thank each and every one of you was that I feared the thread would get bogged down with gratitude. Sorry!sad

Boz Sat 22-Mar-25 15:27:15

What makes you think the poster is real?

It could be a Bot, planted to get a conversation so if their 'story' doesn't quite ring true, avoid.

Allira Sat 22-Mar-25 15:17:25

I suppose if someone posted that they felt really ill and everyone urged them to phone the GP that they might have been taken to hospital and we might never know the outcome.

However, the more farfetched the OP, the less likely the poster is to come back.

HelterSkelter1 Sat 22-Mar-25 14:49:30

Yes it is annoying. I like to know if any of the advice OP has receivrd has worked or been of help.
The only redeeming feature is that there has often been lots of advice to help others with the same problem.
Of course all the OP needs to say is thank you and goodbye. Doesn't take long.

The other annoyance is when GNs, who dont read the full thread or at least the OPs updates, come back with advice time and again after the OP has updated the thread with
what they have done.

Churchview Sat 22-Mar-25 13:34:38

OldFrill

Not in the least irritating. Given some of the cynical, nasty responses to some posts I'm not surprised many OPs don't comment. Criticising people for not feeding others' egos isn't a good look.

In general I think posters on here are really positive, engaging, helpful and friendly. On occasion I've said something a bit silly/off/wrong and have very gently had my knuckles rapped. I probably deserved it and it's been a good lesson and made me think before I type.

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 12:00:11

I do think some of them are just having a laugh at our expense, some are so unbelievable, but then again there really is nowt as strange as folk grin

Thank you all for responding and doing so in a polite and lovely way flowers

Greenfinch Sat 22-Mar-25 11:53:42

I think it is strange when the OP is someone who has never posted before. You would think they would ease themselves gently into GN . Or not.(everybody’s different I suppose)

OldFrill Sat 22-Mar-25 11:52:19

Cossy

OldFrill

Not in the least irritating. Given some of the cynical, nasty responses to some posts I'm not surprised many OPs don't comment. Criticising people for not feeding others' egos isn't a good look.

Well I’m going to disagree! There are far more agreeable, lovely people on here, imo, I don’t mind blunt replies, and let’s be truly honest those who only post things like “*AIBU I cut my grandsons hair as I didn’t like it long*” or “*I gave away my daughters dog when they were away because it did a poo in my garden*”

I know the above aren’t real but some of the advice we are asked for is sometimes just plain stupid or rude in itself.

Thank you for replying 😗

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 11:41:44

OldFrill

Not in the least irritating. Given some of the cynical, nasty responses to some posts I'm not surprised many OPs don't comment. Criticising people for not feeding others' egos isn't a good look.

Well I’m going to disagree! There are far more agreeable, lovely people on here, imo, I don’t mind blunt replies, and let’s be truly honest those who only post things like “*AIBU I cut my grandsons hair as I didn’t like it long*” or “*I gave away my daughters dog when they were away because it did a poo in my garden*”

I know the above aren’t real but some of the advice we are asked for is sometimes just plain stupid or rude in itself.

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 11:37:59

Churchview

NO! Absolutely not. grin

flowers

Whiff Sat 22-Mar-25 10:53:13

It is very irritating especially if they are asking for help and people post . Some posts can be 8 or more pages long and the OP never comes back.

Babs03 Sat 22-Mar-25 10:41:29

@Cossy, is a bit off putting when lots of lovely positive messages have been sent in reply. If I post a thread I feel I need to come back a few times in order to thank those who have bothered to reply or to discuss other views aired.
Otherwise is a bit of a hit and run.

OldFrill Sat 22-Mar-25 10:39:28

Not in the least irritating. Given some of the cynical, nasty responses to some posts I'm not surprised many OPs don't comment. Criticising people for not feeding others' egos isn't a good look.