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Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 09:29:38

Is it me, or is it a bit irritating when OPs post, asking a question, never to return again, not even to answer questions or clarify things? grin

Churchview Sat 22-Mar-25 09:31:33

Is this the last we're ever going to hear from you Cossy?

escaped Sat 22-Mar-25 09:36:47

It's rude.
I particularly dislike people who don't put any effort into thanking posters.

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 09:37:11

Churchview

Is this the last we're ever going to hear from you Cossy?

Very good 😂😂😂😊

Not unless this what you want?? flowers

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 09:38:00

escaped

It's rude.
I particularly dislike people who don't put any effort into thanking posters.

I feel that way, but thought maybe I was being a bit ott! Glad to see I’m not the only one!

Thank you for responding hehe

Churchview Sat 22-Mar-25 09:38:07

NO! Absolutely not. grin

farmgran Sat 22-Mar-25 10:36:01

If they've written something when they're a bit upset maybe writing the post is all they can manage and they just read the answers.

Grandmabatty Sat 22-Mar-25 10:38:35

If they want a rant, then that's fine. However the ones who post asking for advice and never reappear are very annoying. You can usually tell the bots or trolls though.

OldFrill Sat 22-Mar-25 10:39:28

Not in the least irritating. Given some of the cynical, nasty responses to some posts I'm not surprised many OPs don't comment. Criticising people for not feeding others' egos isn't a good look.

Babs03 Sat 22-Mar-25 10:41:29

@Cossy, is a bit off putting when lots of lovely positive messages have been sent in reply. If I post a thread I feel I need to come back a few times in order to thank those who have bothered to reply or to discuss other views aired.
Otherwise is a bit of a hit and run.

Whiff Sat 22-Mar-25 10:53:13

It is very irritating especially if they are asking for help and people post . Some posts can be 8 or more pages long and the OP never comes back.

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 11:37:59

Churchview

NO! Absolutely not. grin

flowers

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 11:41:44

OldFrill

Not in the least irritating. Given some of the cynical, nasty responses to some posts I'm not surprised many OPs don't comment. Criticising people for not feeding others' egos isn't a good look.

Well I’m going to disagree! There are far more agreeable, lovely people on here, imo, I don’t mind blunt replies, and let’s be truly honest those who only post things like “*AIBU I cut my grandsons hair as I didn’t like it long*” or “*I gave away my daughters dog when they were away because it did a poo in my garden*”

I know the above aren’t real but some of the advice we are asked for is sometimes just plain stupid or rude in itself.

OldFrill Sat 22-Mar-25 11:52:19

Cossy

OldFrill

Not in the least irritating. Given some of the cynical, nasty responses to some posts I'm not surprised many OPs don't comment. Criticising people for not feeding others' egos isn't a good look.

Well I’m going to disagree! There are far more agreeable, lovely people on here, imo, I don’t mind blunt replies, and let’s be truly honest those who only post things like “*AIBU I cut my grandsons hair as I didn’t like it long*” or “*I gave away my daughters dog when they were away because it did a poo in my garden*”

I know the above aren’t real but some of the advice we are asked for is sometimes just plain stupid or rude in itself.

Thank you for replying 😗

Greenfinch Sat 22-Mar-25 11:53:42

I think it is strange when the OP is someone who has never posted before. You would think they would ease themselves gently into GN . Or not.(everybody’s different I suppose)

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 12:00:11

I do think some of them are just having a laugh at our expense, some are so unbelievable, but then again there really is nowt as strange as folk grin

Thank you all for responding and doing so in a polite and lovely way flowers

Churchview Sat 22-Mar-25 13:34:38

OldFrill

Not in the least irritating. Given some of the cynical, nasty responses to some posts I'm not surprised many OPs don't comment. Criticising people for not feeding others' egos isn't a good look.

In general I think posters on here are really positive, engaging, helpful and friendly. On occasion I've said something a bit silly/off/wrong and have very gently had my knuckles rapped. I probably deserved it and it's been a good lesson and made me think before I type.

HelterSkelter1 Sat 22-Mar-25 14:49:30

Yes it is annoying. I like to know if any of the advice OP has receivrd has worked or been of help.
The only redeeming feature is that there has often been lots of advice to help others with the same problem.
Of course all the OP needs to say is thank you and goodbye. Doesn't take long.

The other annoyance is when GNs, who dont read the full thread or at least the OPs updates, come back with advice time and again after the OP has updated the thread with
what they have done.

Allira Sat 22-Mar-25 15:17:25

I suppose if someone posted that they felt really ill and everyone urged them to phone the GP that they might have been taken to hospital and we might never know the outcome.

However, the more farfetched the OP, the less likely the poster is to come back.

Boz Sat 22-Mar-25 15:27:15

What makes you think the poster is real?

It could be a Bot, planted to get a conversation so if their 'story' doesn't quite ring true, avoid.

Indigo8 Sat 22-Mar-25 15:45:56

escaped

It's rude.
I particularly dislike people who don't put any effort into thanking posters.

Oh dear! I have launched a couple of threads recently but I haven't thanked people who posted on them. Of course I am grateful and I have read some very interesting and intelligent comments.

The reason I didn't thank each and every one of you was that I feared the thread would get bogged down with gratitude. Sorry!sad

Baggs Sat 22-Mar-25 15:57:59

People who find it irritating will do so. People who think it's not worth getting irritated about won't.

escaped Sat 22-Mar-25 16:24:17

Not sure why you're saying sorry Indigo8, I didnt mean a thank to each and every poster. Just maybe a blanket, thank you all, 2 or 3 pages later. 😊

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 17:03:08

escaped

Not sure why you're saying sorry Indigo8, I didnt mean a thank to each and every poster. Just maybe a blanket, thank you all, 2 or 3 pages later. 😊

Just a response would be nice!!

Cossy Sat 22-Mar-25 17:03:53

Baggs

People who find it irritating will do so. People who think it's not worth getting irritated about won't.

Can one control irritation? I find it hard to and that irritates me too 😂😂😂