GN makes me lonelier

Well said JaneJudge

JaneJudge 💐

I don’t think anyone is having a go at anyone else. We can join in threads or decide not to. I imagine lots of us are isolated in other ways. It’s not a competition

I feel isolated though with what is going on in my life and today I wondered whether to start a thread on here about it but I’m not sure I can, which is what loneliness and isolation is.

We need to hold on to female company and perspective on here. Especially as all I can hear is dogs scrapping outside my house

RosieandherMaw

escaped

Why shouldn't people post about what they do, without being criticised or made to feel bad because their lifeappearsto be better than others? I think it is unfair to have a pop at theGMthread.
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I don't think the word better is the problem, but maybe fuller? Simply because there is another person around for them to share it with.

WAS anybody having a pop at the GM thread?
I certainly wasn't but just said I no longer contribute to it.
That did not imply criticism

The GM thread isn't one I know much about. I'm not sure why the bit in italics got highlighted, but one poster or two obviously thought this.
I just want everyone to enjoy posting or reading, or pass by if it is painful.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a poor me day

Maw, I am sorry you feel this way. Ironically, always envied your visits to exhibitions, shows etc and thought you had a busy life. It just shows how perception varies.

Yes, me too.
But coming home to an empty house at the end of the day is difficult.

escaped

^Why shouldn't people post about what they do, without being criticised or made to feel bad because their lifeappearsto be better than others^? I think it is unfair to have a pop at theGMthread.
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I don't think the word better is the problem, but maybe fuller? Simply because there is another person around for them to share it with.

WAS anybody having a pop at the GM thread?
I certainly wasn't but just said I no longer contribute to it.
That did not imply criticism

To me, "we" automatically suggests thete ia someone else with you - partner, significant other, sibling, adult child.

Of course it could refer to the guinea pigs.

But when its"I" its pretty obvious.

Kate54

Please don’t think my ‘boring’ thread idea was intended in any way to underestimate the feelings expressed here about loneliness. There have been some empathetic and hopefully positive responses to the OP.

Sorry, I didn't mean to belittle it in any way either.

I do still have DH (although he was out most of today) but I know what it felt like when he was away for months on end and
sometimes without communication.

Everyone seems so busy with their lives, you feel as if you don't want to intrude.

Why shouldn't people post about what they do, without being criticised or made to feel bad because their lifeappearsto be better than others? I think it is unfair to have a pop at theGMthread.
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I don't think the word better is the problem, but maybe fuller? Simply because there is another person around for them to share it with.

glasshalffullagain

Depends who the " We " is, I think.

I'm not sure what you mean.

Depends who the " We " is, I think.

Maw, I am sorry you feel this way. Ironically, always envied your visits to exhibitions, shows etc and thought you had a busy life. It just shows how perception varies.

I think the main issue understandibly for you, is missing your beloved Paw, as it is for many on GN. I cannot imagine what life would be without my DH.
I always admired how hard you battled for him and your constant devotion.It must have left a huge void.

As for the Good Morning thread, it was lifesaver for me, when ill health resulted in me losing my job. A kind word was all I neede
On top of that, having to sheild for two years, meant a very lonely existence, but the GM thread kept me going. I realised who my true friends were.
I am often lonely, missing friends and the busy life I once had. People become tired of one turning down invitations and eventually disappear, because the cannot understand the implications of chronic ill heath.
I have never been good at making friends and making the first move. Dreadful insecurity and fear of rejection.

As for the GM thread, it is sometimes difficult to read of cruises, holidays abroad, visits to exhibitions and stately homes etc, when I am confined to barracks, but I don't feel envious nor bitter and certainly not a reason to scroll on by, because I am unable to
have those experiences.
Why shouldn't people post about what they do, without being criticised or made to feel bad because their life appears to be better than others? I think it is unfair to have a pop at the GM thread.

Social media posts are not always a true reflection of a person's life. I defy anyone to say the have a perfect DH or family.

Without meaning to sound critical, I take much of what I read on GN with a pinch of salt.

Maw, I hope you feel better soon. 💕

Harris27

Elverhal so sorry to hear your widowed in your 50’s. I do hope your girls bring you some comfort. Sending you hugs.

Thank you Harris.
I feel slightly better than I did earlier when I posted.
Xx

Kate54

Please don’t think my ‘boring’ thread idea was intended in any way to underestimate the feelings expressed here about loneliness. There have been some empathetic and hopefully positive responses to the OP.

I washed every window inside this house this morning.

Not outside. That fun will happen soon.

I'm so boring, I hate dirty windows.

LadyGaGa

Love the idea of an alternative GM thread 😂
Sat in my jamas til 11.00. Sat thinking what to do but did nothing. Ate my body weight in crisps and cleaned out the cat tray. Tomorrow I will tackle the dried cat sick on the spare bed. Exhausted so had a little nap 😴

Thought about dusting and pushing the vacuum around and decided it could wait another month. Noticed another cobweb. Ate bodyweight of large cat in Lindt Milk Chocolate Filled Eggs. Noticed last six entries on banking app are Tesco £3.50, coincidentally the price of Lindt Milk Chocolate Filled Eggs. Typed giving up things for Lent into Google but typed thongs instead of things. AI tells me: Lent is a time for reflection, prayer, and often, some form of self-denial or "giving up" something. The specific item people choose to give up is a personal decision, and it's not traditionally related to clothing items like thongs.

Elverhal so sorry to hear your widowed in your 50’s. I do hope your girls bring you some comfort. Sending you hugs.

Allira

Kate54

Perhaps we need a light-hearted ‘boring morning’ thread to level things out a bit.
My contribution today would have been ‘Took a broken mop, an old picture frame and some worn out windscreen wiper blades to the tip. Considered clearing out the cupboard under the stairs. But didn’t.’

Hobbled round the kitchen with my zimmer frame, balancing a dish of cornflakes and sliced banana then hobbling back to fetch a cup of tea. The phone went, nothing important. By that time my cornflakes had gone soggy.
Did some puzzles, looked on GN, sat outside. Read.
Eat lunch, repeat.

See, I find that interesting to read!

Please don’t think my ‘boring’ thread idea was intended in any way to underestimate the feelings expressed here about loneliness. There have been some empathetic and hopefully positive responses to the OP.

Maw
I understand a little of how you are feeling. Sometimes I wake up and feel low for no reason at all.

I remember you have said before that you find Sundays difficult so a 🤗 from me and at least you have Rosie.

I often think the GM thread is a bit like an episode of Mapp and Lucia.

I hope you are feeling a bit more buoyant OP at this end of the day and after reading the sympathetic replies. I agree sometimes the sunny days can be worse for feeling lonely even though I have longed for them through the grey winter. I hope tomorrow sees you happier/contented. I think your thread has helped a lot of GNs to feel not like the only one feeling lonely.

Maybe volunteering would get you out and meeting some different people Maw?

Love the idea of an alternative GM thread 😂
Sat in my jamas til 11.00. Sat thinking what to do but did nothing. Ate my body weight in crisps and cleaned out the cat tray. Tomorrow I will tackle the dried cat sick on the spare bed. Exhausted so had a little nap 😴

Oh RosieandherMaw. I’m sorry your life is so sad at the moment. I have experienced loneliness in different ways - but you are right to say a ‘we’ does not come close to your situation at the moment. But there does seem to be others on this thread who are genuinely walking in your shoes. I hope you can help each other x

Maw I hope tomorrow will be a better day for you but I do understand how you feel. When I have days when I feel very much on my own I find a good audio book keeps me company.