Not a flounce.

As usual I’ve missed whatever has happened but I guess it’s on news and politics which I avoid now as it makes me feel anxious. I was even criticised for saying I avoided the news, so just stepped away. I have so much HUGE stuff going on in my own life that people who know me in real life would know why but people on the internet wouldn’t and I think that’s the difference. However, Gransnet is also so supportive. I’ve had so many messages of support off varying posters who have just picked up on a nuance in a post I’ve made and have offered a listening ear.

All the best lefergar, come back when you are ready x

Hardly anybody listens to anyone else do they? Whether it’s in real life or on a site like this. Most people are just interested in what they want to say😬

You only have to look at the comments on threads to see that means st people just read the original post and then voice their opinion. They don’t read the other comments at all.

People comment and pass on. If you feel insignificant to others, social media will just make you feel worse.

Now and again you get an actual conversation between two or three people, although some posters then object to that as dominating a thread.🙄

I think you have to be feeling quite robust to be on social media.

Kandinsky

Well she was right with the ‘no one is listening’ considering quite a few think a completely different poster has left

This

Some people don’t even read their own posts and have lots of typos. Mea culpa😳

Really made me laugh

OldFrill

Crossstitchfan

In my opinion, leaving is your best choice. You have been unhappy and a little bit touchy for some time.

Maybe take your own advice.

I think you are of the opinion that I was being unkind. I wasn’t! The OP has been very unhappy and I simply thought that being on here with people getting the wrong end of the stick(!) was not helping her. You are obviously one of the people she referred to who aren’t listening!

Just saying hello. I am rejoining after deregistering a couple of years ago for similar reasons. Sometimes it is better to take yourself away from something that is causing you pain. I wish you well.

I too have thought of leaving. I decided to stay as the rewards of Gransnet outweigh the punishments. Gransnet is privately owned and is as it is according to the owner's design. My house my rules is fair enough.

Lathyrus3

Some people don’t even read their own posts and have lots of typos. Mea culpa😳

😂😂😂
Me too.

Lathyrus, I find that a problem with all online discussions that go on for a long time. It's not practicable to read them all.

The way I deal with it is I reply to the original post if it's interesting. I also reply to the latest posts which are often tangential to the OP. Sometimes I try to relate tangents to the original posts.

Gransnet is liberally moderated and the mods tolerate tangents, which IMO is good.

Lathyrus:

"I think you have to be feeling quite robust to be on social media"

I agree. There are some horrid trolls too, not on Gransnet maybe but elsewhere.

Flippinheck

Just saying hello. I am rejoining after deregistering a couple of years ago for similar reasons. Sometimes it is better to take yourself away from something that is causing you pain. I wish you well.

Hello 👋

Some posters can be vitriolic and it's a shock if it's directed at you, particularly if more than one joins in. Best to retreat for a while to lick your wounds - then ask yourself why on earth you should be bothered by an unknown person or persons on social media!

The good on here far outweighs the bad.

I have found lafergar's posts interesting and worth thinking about. I'm sorry that feeling not listened to is causing this.
Hope you come back lafergar you are a valuable asset to Gransnet.

I wish you the best and hope you feel you can return at any time 🙂

Flippinheck

Just saying hello. I am rejoining after deregistering a couple of years ago for similar reasons. Sometimes it is better to take yourself away from something that is causing you pain. I wish you well.

Hello

Crossstitchfan

OldFrill

Crossstitchfan

In my opinion, leaving is your best choice. You have been unhappy and a little bit touchy for some time.

Maybe take your own advice.

I think you are of the opinion that I was being unkind. I wasn’t! The OP has been very unhappy and I simply thought that being on here with people getting the wrong end of the stick(!) was not helping her. You are obviously one of the people she referred to who aren’t listening!

No, l actually wasn't one of those people. Jumping to wrong conclusions and apportioning blame unfairly does you no favours.

Maybe take your own advice.

Isn't that the kind of remark which puts people off Gransnet?

Nothing wrong with a good flounce. It can be very satisfying.

Allira

^Maybe take your own advice.^

Isn't that the kind of remark which puts people off Gransnet?

Probably tit for tat😬

Allira

^Maybe take your own advice.^

Isn't that the kind of remark which puts people off Gransnet?

Or even, as Lathyrus3 says tit for tat.

Maybe either of those could be reasons why lafergar left again.

When I left before, I didn’t announce it, so I didn’t get nice comments or even comments that could be construed as unkind.
There’s a comment from someone who jumped to conclusions about the intended meaning of a post, then criticised jumping to conclusions.
It’s all very confusing, or maybe all done in the best possible taste

Hi Flippingheck - awfully sorry but I will quite often take your name in vain. Please don't be offended.

Allira

^Maybe take your own advice.^

Isn't that the kind of remark which puts people off Gransnet?

I don't think it'll work in this instance 😆

Tbh I don’t remember ever seeing a post by lafergar but then, my memory is shocking !

I m the same CrazyH I don’t recognise the name Lafergar at all but I m notoriously bad at reading the name and date I usually go straight to the problem or the remark

Ahhh here’s what I think it is Bluebelle - going through some of the posts here, I gathered that the OP usually posts on the News and Politics thread. The latter I definitely avoid …..