Not a flounce.

empathised even

BlueBelle

Mt61 no one knows what has happened to BigLouis
She did talk about having a serious illness ( did she use the words terminal? ) and then it was realised she hadn’t posted in a long time so no one is sure, fingers crossed she just isn’t posting but it’s not looking too positive.

Oh no Bluebell 😔 You never know the minute! Could be posting one minute then suddenly gone, no one would be any the wiser. Hopefully not.

Yes clique's petra, Smileless2012 because you all follow each other with virtually the same answers, 14 years eh!! The Old boys and or Girls Club then?

You need to look up the definition of a clique MickyT.

Well the clique of 14 years was quite happy to let this newcomer into their circle 5 or 6 years ago when i joined. They're not that close knit that they won't allow others to chat with them. They live and let live from what I've seen, its got nothing to do with following them around on the forum and mirroring their answers.

Message deleted by Gransnet. Here's a link to our Talk guidelines.

Anyone see what was posted and deleted immediately after my comment?
I missed it. I was out on the beach with the dog, (because they're not allowed from June 15th, but in that usual French way no-one takes any notice at this time of night! GMT + one hour).

I'm off here too now, seems I can't post answers, I haven't been on here for 14 years

MickyT

Yes clique's petra, Smileless2012 because you all follow each other with virtually the same answers, 14 years eh!! The Old boys and or Girls Club then?

🤣🤣🤣

So by your reckoning if we post on more than one thread you’re on MT or if we ever give the same answer as you, you think we’re in a clique with you?
No thanks.

Sorry, but I really can't see how I've upset you MickyT.
This is the trouble on GN at times. No one is clear about what is going on.

Cliques?
Sometimes people have the same thoughts, ideas, views.
It happens. It doesn't mean they're in a clique.

No idea, one eye on the football, one on my wine and another on GN.

MickyT

I'm off here too now, seems I can't post answers, I haven't been on here for 14 years

Do you mean you were on here 14 years ago and have just come back or that you haven't been on here since GN began?

Nor have I been on here since it began.
I wonder if any have?

I joined within aa couple of months of GN starting and there are others, but a number of us have for various reasons changed our names.

I don’t think there are ‘cliques’ so much as a lot of echoes which sometimes (perhaps more often recently) make you feel you are in the minority. The vast majority here seem to be lovely and reasonable people even if you hold diametrically opposing views. As always, there are one or two I wouldn’t want to meet in real life who seem to be very aggressive but, hey,I suppose that’s the way of the world.

Echos and cliques are two entirely different things.

Being in France, I researched the etymology of the French word clique yesterday.
How about the alternative, coterie , on here? That sounds rather posh.

fancythat

Echos and cliques are two entirely different things.

That’s my point.

Coterie sounds like posh nosh to me 😁

Oh yes I want to be part of a 'coterie'!

Even better, the cognoscenti?

fancythat

Echos and cliques are two entirely different things.

I agree, but is that what MT was saying?

Echo- a repetition or imitation of sound or saying the same thing.

Clique - a small close-knit group of people who do not readily allow others to join them.

You might feel like that on some GN threads, if you don’t echo what the particular cognoscenti are saying.

I like Cognoscenti
People who are especially well informed about a particular subject.
It doesn’t specify that it’s only one subject that you can be well informed about, so we can all belong to that group . . . though I’m not sure some will echo my feelings on that.

I like Coterie - a small group of people with shared interests.
And don’t we all have a shared interest in posting on GN, so that’s OK.

I guess I’ll be among the cognoscenti in the GN posters’ coterie occasionally echoing but hopefully not being cliquey
Where do you see yourself in the lowerarchy?

Oreo

Coterie sounds like posh nosh to me 😁

Coterie sounds like somewhere you hang up your outdoor wear.

Mollygo 😁

*Cognoscenti*
People who are especially well informed about a particular subject.
Or think they are!

Claremont

Allira

Maybe take your own advice.

Isn't that the kind of remark which puts people off Gransnet?

Indeed, truly nasty.

Please quote in context.My remark was relevant to what was said which was unhelpful and dismissive given the OP's mention of low mood and isolation.
The response l received was a total fabrication that l was responsible for OP leaving, noone seems to have objected to that.

crazyH

Tbh I don’t remember ever seeing a post by lafergar but then, my memory is shocking !

Contributed many times and was quite heavily attacked/dismissed on some occasions, entirely unwarranted.
Some people don't read the thread, some quote out of context or misquote and others just follow on. Chinese whispers at their worst.
I hope lafergar returns, GN needs to keep contributors like her or it will become a stale clique.