Skydancer
GrannyGravy13
I always have wondered why these young men do not stay and fight for their country, as opposed to leaving the women and children behind to exist on their own?
Exactly!!
If the UK came under attack, your home was destroyed, nobody could work and the food supply was slashed, people were being bombed and otherwise killed every day, there were no schools open and your family were suffering beyond anything any of us can imagine, what would you do?
There are few options, but most people would probably try to make the best of it for a while, in the hope that things would improve and because they'd be in shock. After a lot of their money had ben spent on staying alive, they might get together as a family to pool resources and look at possibilities. For many, there would be none; but for those with better resources an option might be to try again in another country and seek asylum.
If some could speak English (more likely than being able to speak other languages) it would make sense to decide to go to an English-speaking country. As putting babies and the elderly in boats would be insanely risky and they wouldn't be able to work anyway, who would you send as pioneers? Such a journey would be a huge risk for everyone, but young, fit men would have the best chance - both of survival and of finding work that would allow them to save and send for the rest of the family later.
Where there is civil war it is often not a case of fighting for one's country - it can be about saving your family from persecution or attack, and even without civil war under dictatorships the same can apply.