I am feeling so bloody irritable!

I look at my 18 year old grand daughter, A levels and school behind her, just flown in a plane for the first time and holidayed abroad without her parents Her whole hopeful adult life ahead of her, a rose bud just starting to bloom in the sun, and I want to cry.

M0nica

I look at my 18 year old grand daughter, A levels and school behind her, just flown in a plane for the first time and holidayed abroad without her parents Her whole hopeful adult life ahead of her, a rose bud just starting to bloom in the sun, and I want to cry.

Yes, me too.

FriedGreenTomatoes2

Doom scrolling. It doesn’t do any of us any favours. I limit the time I spend reading the news. Yes I’m interested but not ‘obsessed’ by it.

There’s a world outside my door. Full of happy people. The sun shines, the grass still grows and the world turns. Family and friends to engage with.

Everything in moderation is best. Worrying does no-one any good really.

I agree read or listen with interest and don't worry.

People are happy, life is sunny.

Dorrain and Shinamae
Agree completely.👏🏻👏🏻

Doom scrolling 🤭love it.

M0nica

I look at my 18 year old grand daughter, A levels and school behind her, just flown in a plane for the first time and holidayed abroad without her parents Her whole hopeful adult life ahead of her, a rose bud just starting to bloom in the sun, and I want to cry.

Err, why exactly?
Sounds like she has had a nice life so far, and with more to come.Why catastrophise?

I look at my 18 year old grand daughter, A levels and school behind her, just flown in a plane for the first time and holidayed abroad without her parents Her whole hopeful adult life ahead of her, a rose bud just starting to bloom in the sun, and I want to cry

This sounds like depression tbh.
Depressed that you’re not young & carefree with your whole life ahead of you. Because honestly, the vast majority of 18 year olds aren’t crying about the world - they’re having a great time on holiday with their friends.

Whitewavemark2

What bloody irritates me are people who sit in judgement assuming that they know how I spend my time😄😄

Hi, had not seen this thread, And how I feel the same. Stopped watching evening news, and go out most of the time in garden, or walking the dogs in magnificent woods, go swimming in lakes and rivers, spend time with great friends. I am do not suffer from any kind of depression, but I am so depressed about the state of the world as there seems to be no solution.

Not for me, I am soon to be 75- and have had a great life- but I despair for my grand-children who are very intelligent and very aware of the dangers, both from the climate/environment point of view, and the dreadful leadership of the biggest countries in the world, and the fact other countries, like the UK- seem to have to bend the knee for fear of tarifs or commercial demise, in the UK, on top of the Brexit disaster.

So yes, WVM2 - oh, I do feel the same. hugs

The two comments above are beyond patronising 'catastrophise' wow! And 'depression' again. No, neither!

Poor OP, tried to share their feelings and worries, only to be told it's sunny and she is depressed.

A lot has changed in a very short period of time imo and some of us feel worried and overloaded.

For the first time I have warned a couple of my granddaughters about where they travel in Europe and the UK. I never, ever thought things would get that bad.

When people look at the life of a business or the life of a career, they often use three well-known stages to describe where they are.

The stages are generalised as "striving, thriving and surviving". Other words are sometimes used but they basically mean the same thing.

We are here, on this particular forum, because of the stage of life we are at. That stage - old enough to be a grandparent - also means the majority are old enough to be in the "survive" stage of life. At this stage we are much more aware of the attacks on our health, wealth and happiness. For some all those will seem okay at the moment. For some they will seem not too bad. They may feel under a lot of pressure in one area, or under less pressure but on two or three of those areas. And, just for a few, all areas will seem dire. Even if things seem better now than they did in the past we are all aware of possible up and coming problems.

I believe that this thread reflects not how the world is - our ancestors knew far worse - but the older person's perspective that, compared with middle-aged adults, they are seen as having lower social status in the sense of power, wealth, respect, influence, and prestige.

This is, I believe, why so many see the world in such a negative light. The world hasn't changed overall but we have. We could however, choose differently. It's not easy but it can be done.

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So now apparently I’m irritated because of my low social status, and lack of prestige!! 😄😄😄.

Actually this thread is giving me so much merriment at the way people perceive my life, that I’m feeling quite cheerful😄😄😄

PoliticsNerd

When people look at the life of a business or the life of a career, they often use three well-known stages to describe where they are.

The stages are generalised as "striving, thriving and surviving". Other words are sometimes used but they basically mean the same thing.

We are here, on this particular forum, because of the stage of life we are at. That stage - old enough to be a grandparent - also means the majority are old enough to be in the "survive" stage of life. At this stage we are much more aware of the attacks on our health, wealth and happiness. For some all those will seem okay at the moment. For some they will seem not too bad. They may feel under a lot of pressure in one area, or under less pressure but on two or three of those areas. And, just for a few, all areas will seem dire. Even if things seem better now than they did in the past we are all aware of possible up and coming problems.

I believe that this thread reflects not how the world is - our ancestors knew far worse - but the older person's perspective that, compared with middle-aged adults, they are seen as having lower social status in the sense of power, wealth, respect, influence, and prestige.

This is, I believe, why so many see the world in such a negative light. The world hasn't changed overall but we have. We could however, choose differently. It's not easy but it can be done.

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head about this.👏🏻👏🏻

Whitewavemark2

So now apparently I’m irritated because of my low social status, and lack of prestige!! 😄😄😄.

That’s just quoting out of context.

WWM2
I wouldn’t have said low social status, but certainly low status and lack of prestige, (denoting something that arouses widespread respect or admiration) in the eyes of the government.

You do have to laugh to survive on Gransnet sometimes WWM2, it’s a bit of a microcosm!

So many older people, especially women say they feel helpless or frustrated about many aspects of life today.
It’s part of the ageing process as I bet they didn’t feel like that 30 or 40 years ago.

Whitewavemark2 thank you for sharing your irritation. I read your OP with a feeling of “Phew, not just me then….”

I have been feeling similarly tetchy for a while and couldn’t put my finger on just why. Information overload may well be an area for me to address.

I hope you feel more upbeat soon.

Casdon

You do have to laugh to survive on Gransnet sometimes WWM2, it’s a bit of a microcosm!

It’s only a microcosm in that it’s mainly older, and female on here.

Whitewavemark2

So now apparently I’m irritated because of my low social status, and lack of prestige!! 😄😄😄.

Where does any post explicitly and specifically say it is your life being described? Where were you singled out? Seeing it in that way is quite an extreme reaction to generalised comment but I'm sure it isn't only you that does that.

Oreo

Whitewavemark2

So now apparently I’m irritated because of my low social status, and lack of prestige!! 😄😄😄.

That’s just quoting out of context.

Thank you Oreo.