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Aveline Sat 30-Aug-25 10:31:09

I saw this thread on Twitter and it got me thinking. I suppose that I tend to avoid loud people. That's just an instinctive reaction. I'm sure there are other more subtle reasons though.

notgran Sun 31-Aug-25 07:00:50

lixy

Anyone who thinks it’s ok to hug me - it really isn’t!

This and social kissing. shock

Robin202 Sun 31-Aug-25 10:20:07

Hyacinth Buckets and the holier than thou types. I can spot them a mile off and their FB profiles are often a giveaway.

Greenfinch Sun 31-Aug-25 11:04:35

Oh yes,I avoid huggers too unless they are close family.

windmill1 Sun 31-Aug-25 12:37:20

People who relate every minute detail about their current health condition, ad nauseam. Then the one before that, and before that etc, etc.

And, of course, the GP, Consultant, therapist has never come across a case like theirs in the whole of their career!

But just you try volunteering your most recent health 'adventure'.......they'll shut you down in nano-seconds.

Mt61 Sun 31-Aug-25 12:42:39

I hate bummers, people who brag.
After I purchased an automatic car, my friend (who keep at arms length), said, “ oh I like to drive a proper car with gears” Or everything has to be the dogsb——is. I just smile & say, oh how nice 😂

Kate1949 Sun 31-Aug-25 12:50:59

Know it alls. We know someone who is extremely anti Tory which is fine. However, he lectures people who disagree with him. Just before the last general election, he told a waitress in a pub that she should be ashamed of herself when they were lightheartedly discussing the outcome and she said she would vote Tory. His wife told him to keep his views to himself. He replied 'Well if I don't educate these people, who will?'

JaneJudge Sun 31-Aug-25 12:53:01

self promoters
corporate robots
racists
fascists
twats
if I am honest though, I am quite anti social

JaneJudge Sun 31-Aug-25 12:53:52

Mt61

I hate bummers, people who brag.
After I purchased an automatic car, my friend (who keep at arms length), said, “ oh I like to drive a proper car with gears” Or everything has to be the dogsb——is. I just smile & say, oh how nice 😂

I used to be like this until I drove a really nice automatic car. If I could afford one I'd go auto straight away

bluebird243 Sun 31-Aug-25 13:00:57

I'm an only child and a very long way from being arrogant.

I certainly wasn't spoilt, far from it and my family were quiet, humble people who brought me up to be polite and considerate of others. So no arrogance for me to witness, copy or in my genes.

I also learnt not to make sweeping, prejudicial generalisations about others without knowing them...and that everyone is an individual with their own backgrounds, personality and vulnerabilities. In other words not to judge others without full knowledge if you have not walked in their shoes.

RosieandherMaw Sun 31-Aug-25 13:02:18

TakeThat7

Arch Bishops what has Nigel Farage got to do with him Personally arch bishops and other clergy are the kind of people I avoid They don't have much real life experience but for some reason think they have more knowledge than other people

I’ve never bumped into an archbishop so perhaps they are avoiding me !
Although my father told how he had a fascinating chat with an elderly and chatty gardener pruning the roses in the grounds of the Archbishop of York ‘s residence ( I think it’s called Bishopthorpe Palace) while on a Camera Club outing to a York.
It was only after he got home and saw the “gardener’s” picture in the paper he realised it had been Archbishop Michael Ramsey who subsequently became Archbishop of Canterbury.

bluebird243 Sun 31-Aug-25 13:02:21

[To ClicketyClick ]

Deedaa Sun 31-Aug-25 22:36:22

I have to admit I limit my conversations with my next door neighbour as much as I can. She always knows the smallest details about everyone in the street and will pick them apart for hours if you let het'. In small doses she's nice enough. There are one or two people in my painting group that I have to be careful with, because I know their views are very different from mine. I don't want to get into arguments with them because it will just spoil the atmosphere for everyone else. I mainly can't get on with people who have no interest in the world around them, I just find them depressing.

Chardy Sun 31-Aug-25 22:42:43

LizzieDrip

Loud mouthed, opinionated racists and bigots.

Me too

Mt61 Sun 31-Aug-25 23:03:54

Greenfinch

Oh yes,I avoid huggers too unless they are close family.

Ah yes huggers & air kissers 🙄

Freshair Mon 01-Sept-25 01:05:37

I avoid loud groups of people, they are usually trying to show off too much or outdo one another. Also people showing off about their perfect families. (Someone said this earlier)

nanna8 Mon 01-Sept-25 01:41:54

Oh dear- I’m a bit of a hugger. Maybe it is different where we live because many of us are. It is a normal way of greeting friends.

Crossstitchfan Mon 01-Sept-25 02:32:58

friendlygingercat

Neighbours
Couriers who want me to accept parcels for neighbours
Sales people
Chuggers
Anyone not expected (unless they have come to tell me I have won Lotto)

I’m rather glad you’re not my neighbour! You don’t like taking parcels in for them? Do they take yours in? It’s nicer to be on good terms with neighbours. You don’t have to visit them, or have them over to yours, but it’s nice to know they’re there. One day, you might need help. So might they. Being good neighbours is reassuring, I find.

Crossstitchfan Mon 01-Sept-25 02:34:38

And you call yourself, ‘friendlygingercat’?? Eh? Bit of a misnomer, methinks!

Crossstitchfan Mon 01-Sept-25 02:36:05

windmill1

People who relate every minute detail about their current health condition, ad nauseam. Then the one before that, and before that etc, etc.

And, of course, the GP, Consultant, therapist has never come across a case like theirs in the whole of their career!

But just you try volunteering your most recent health 'adventure'.......they'll shut you down in nano-seconds.

So true!!

TheWeirdoAgain60 Mon 01-Sept-25 11:50:42

Those who don't like animals. I don't mean people who are allergic.

Who hate animals, women, and the disabled, who think only white, able-bodied heterosexual human males should be around.

Who want to destroy deserts and rainforests just to build more drive-throughs and more MuckDonalds etc.

Loud and/or gobby. I had loads of them as passengers when I was a bus driver and quite a few work colleagues too!

The negative, jealous naysayer types. Such as a building that has been empty for 20 years, quite messy, needs some TLC, someone moves in and starts getting it done up, then all the naysayers start moaning about them trying to do good with it, so why didn't THEY do something about it!?

Those who let their feral, uncontrolled brats roam around freely, getting in everyone's way and constantly shouting and screaming.

Drunkies/druggies of any gender.

Religious nutters. I DON'T mean those who quietly go about their religion, but those who come into shops trying to hand out leaflets and stand outside banging on about sinners, etc. I've no time for them at all.

All the Kardashians, Katie Price and so on, who have so much surgery that they actually look terrifying. All the ''celebrity'' egotists.

crazyH Mon 01-Sept-25 12:03:42

I can’t handle braggers, my neighbour who has so much money, she doesn’t know what to do with it and my other neighbour who brags about all the men who want to sleep with her. She is 85. Good luck to her but please, I don’t want to know the details, the nitty gritty 😂- tbh, I’d rather my neighbour who talks about her money 💰 💰 💰

Aveline Mon 01-Sept-25 12:07:22

I'm not happy in the company of people who don't like animals.

Ilovedogs22 Mon 01-Sept-25 12:12:27

Aveline

I'm not happy in the company of people who don't like animals.

Ditto Aveline, as long as it's not a big scary dog or a snake!

ClicketyClick Mon 01-Sept-25 13:43:53

I am very sorry for offending with my only child comment. In hindsight not a good thing to post but it was made from personal experiences of only child friends and relatives. Maybe I've just been unlucky knowing so many such personalities. Again, my apologies.

nanna8 Mon 01-Sept-25 14:08:23

Crossstitchfan

ClicketyClick

Try to avoid arrogant people. Has anyone else noticed that me me me types are usually only children. Sorry if I've offended any only children GN's

Not a brilliant comment! Yes, you will definitely have offended many only children. I am one of them, and my ‘only child’ friends are not ‘me, me, me’ people either.
What do you have to back up your statement? Not a lot, I don’t expect!

As a child I had a very difficult time. I was an only child, too. Only children were not immune from violence and cruelty, probably often copped it more than most.Clickety Click should think before she or he or whatever speaks.