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What sort of people do you avoid?

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Aveline Sat 30-Aug-25 10:31:09

I saw this thread on Twitter and it got me thinking. I suppose that I tend to avoid loud people. That's just an instinctive reaction. I'm sure there are other more subtle reasons though.

Snowbelle Mon 01-Sept-25 16:54:27

Anyone who thinks they have the right to touch me without my consent (this includes hugging, tapping, nudging, hand grabbing, leaning against me or any other form of physical contact).
People eating a popular brand of cheesy snack on public transport.
People who breathe, cough or sneeze on me,
People who need a tissue but don’t use one.
Anyone who tries to incite an argument with me or anyone else simply for their own entertainment.
People who push in front of other people.
However I don’t feel the same repulsion and need to avoid polite and respectful people.

Berd Mon 01-Sept-25 17:18:50

Judy54

People who are judgemental and feel that they know what is right for you and how you should live your life. My view is get your own life in order first before judging mine.

Oh definitely! I had a long-term friend but got so fed up with her constant judgement & bossiness she is no longer a friend. It wasn’t an easy parting & I thought I’d miss her but what a relief - I realised she was making me quite depressed. Now I’m cautious about repeating that mistake!

Tinlizzy67 Mon 01-Sept-25 17:22:06

When 'Friends' (you thought were loyal), pass on private info to anyone who listens to them. According to Research, it gives their ego a huge boost with breaking news about misfortunate people. Also, they are unaware, that this violates the data protection. 'Personal is personal' what dont they understand!

Lovetopaint037 Mon 01-Sept-25 17:27:35

Gossips.I keep well away. They cause so much trouble.

polly123 Mon 01-Sept-25 17:42:21

Gossipy people.
Loud shouty people.
Limelight seekers.
People looking over your shoulder while you are talking to them.
Interfering busy bodies.......

cangran Mon 01-Sept-25 17:50:28

People who seem to enjoy making hurtful comments; also very negative, moany people who always blame others for their problems.

Grays Mon 01-Sept-25 17:53:15

I avoid the people who always have it better or bigger. Or whatever you've got, they had it first, went there first, did it first.

love0c Mon 01-Sept-25 18:01:58

People who always say 'did you know so and so has died?', 'did you know so and so has cancer?, etc I will take another route if I see them coming. I mix with people who enjoy holidays and having fun. My 99 year old auntie who was blind and deaf was fun.

accountcat5 Mon 01-Sept-25 18:16:19

Just been talking about this today. Usually those who think they are God’s gift to everything and talk in price tags.

undines Mon 01-Sept-25 18:19:56

I find it hard to listen to the self-righteous views of so-called left-wing liberals, whose 'liberalism' does not extend to anyone who disagrees with their woke dogma, dispensing labels like 'racist' and 'right wing'.

love0c Mon 01-Sept-25 18:23:24

undines Your post made me smile. Gosh people like that are so boring aren't they??!!

WithNobsOnIt Mon 01-Sept-25 19:28:51

Agree with lots of pet hates on theid post.

People who smell is my pet hate.
Armpit and other body odour down wind in a confined space.

And people who get on buses and trams who stink to high heaven of Cannabis. YUK.

Shirls52000 Mon 01-Sept-25 20:16:08

Homophobes
Transphobes
Racists
Bigots
Misogynists
Trump supporters
Nigel Farage @co

Think that ll do for now 😂

Nosnibore Mon 01-Sept-25 20:56:24

People who talk over you, butt in
And loudly take over the conversation.

Warbler Mon 01-Sept-25 20:57:16

My next door neighbour, who puts Mrs. Bouquet in the shade!

KraftyKat Mon 01-Sept-25 22:33:18

People who eat smelly food on public transport. It's a confined space, please don't make everyone suffer!

CariadAgain Mon 01-Sept-25 22:57:33

In recent days I've been coming across a comment at intervals about "the English are individualistically minded and some other nations think more as a group". It simply hadn't occurred to me to regard going in for "group think" as anything other than "weak".

I thought everyone who didn't think for themselves was "weak" and not that it's apparently a national characteristic of the English to think individualistically and maybe other peoples national characteristic to think more as a group. So yep....that's probably what I avoid most in the event - ie people who think "as a group" - rather than individualistically for themselves.

I think I've probably done a fair bit over the years of finding umpteen different ways of saying "Yeah - that's what they think (ie a particular group) - but what do YOU think?"

Mum1959 Mon 01-Sept-25 23:13:27

Bossy people and those who make no exception for others.

Lilyflower Tue 02-Sept-25 06:17:43

Paople who talk at you and not to you and who hijack every conversation and won’t ever stop. I am quite introverted and quiet and find the clamour distressing.

People who are closed minded and shout, ‘racist’ or ‘bigot’ whenever they hear something they don’t like.

Ill read and ill informed people who think they know more than anyone else.

Irrational people whose beliefs preclude them from thinking.

But I know enough folk who are not entirely like this to admire, like and whose company I enjoy. I’m not stupid enough to think I am perfect!

Babs03 Tue 02-Sept-25 06:41:26

People who show off.

JamesandJon33 Tue 02-Sept-25 09:21:13

Belligerent and resentful people. Sadly my sister is one of those and has caused my parents untold heartache. Sometimes not speaking for months due to a perceived slight. What she has to be resentful about , no one can fathom, although she has been belligerent from childhood.

Norah Tue 02-Sept-25 14:24:37

Those who are judgemental, bossy, or those who are correct. People who are shouty, attention grabbing, and talk too much. I'm an introvert, talkers wear on me. I prefer to work problems in silence.

Growing0ldDisgracefully Tue 02-Sept-25 15:22:55

Hypocondriacs.
Those who constantly dwell on long past perceived wrongs and grudges.
Those who perceive themselves as superior to everyone else.

Mojack26 Tue 02-Sept-25 17:42:01

Rude,arrogant,entitled,loud.....I could go on.....and on🤣🤣🤣

Eloethan Tue 02-Sept-25 19:09:46

People to whom you listen to attentively when they complain about their husbands, their kids, their neighbours, etc, etc, but who, when you try to introduce a subject not directly connected to them (just general chit chat like a TV programme or a newspaper article), look blank and make no response.

I think I am a good listener and I appreciate that sometimes we need to give vent to our feelings, but I don't want to be treated as just a sounding board for someone else's disgruntlement.

Also anyone who starts a topic of conversation with "I'm not a racist, but ...".