When do you cease to be 'new around here'

Whay gets up my nose is people who have lived in an area some time and shomehow think they are superior to you because of that fact. Thinking particularly of neighbours. That cuts no ice with me.

The NDN told me she had lived there since the dinosaurs and she paid for the dividing fence. I asked to see the reciept and she got in a huff. She didnt like the fact that I had pinned up a sheet and was using it as a background for a photography session. Eventually two panels of the fence fell apart one windy night. I got my handyman to replace them, being sure to leave the rotting piles of wood by her kitchen door. After all, they were HER property. I am petty like that.

I am the neighbour that you do not cross!

Wow...

That’s a question with many answers, I think. It depends on the circumstances of what you’re doing. We moved three years ago to where we live now. Although we were familiar with the general area as we’d previously lived in it before, almost everything had changed in a quarter of a century and it is a slog to familiarise oneself with the basics of life - bin day, NHS services, libraries, council offices. I think our feet are well under the table now, though, when the staff at the chemist no longer need to ask our names! Our nearby family has friends who know us, which is actually rather nice. One of them said to our dd the other day that she likes ‘talking to your mum and dad.’ ❤️

Where we previously lived, I felt at home from the day we moved in. We loved it but getting older there wasn’t a sustainable prospect so we upped sticks and here we are. We did the right thing, I think.

Each time we moved, I left a list of GPs, plumbers and electricians, schools, etc.
No one ever left anything like that for me - barely left light bulbs, no clean house either!

We always left useful info, about bin collections, nearest doctors, chemist, bus stops, train station etc. But nobody left that for us either. I think is just a common courtesy.

friendlygingercat

Whay gets up my nose is people who have lived in an area some time and shomehow think they are superior to you because of that fact. Thinking particularly of neighbours. That cuts no ice with me.

The NDN told me she had lived there since the dinosaurs and she paid for the dividing fence. I asked to see the reciept and she got in a huff. She didnt like the fact that I had pinned up a sheet and was using it as a background for a photography session. Eventually two panels of the fence fell apart one windy night. I got my handyman to replace them, being sure to leave the rotting piles of wood by her kitchen door. After all, they were HER property. I am petty like that.

I am the neighbour that you do not cross!

Wow
I think you ve got the wrong name friendlygingercat you don’t sound very friendly to me more like nastyneighbour

I'm terrified of having neighbours, especially new ones!

I live between the Town Hall and the Church Manse, which is no longer the manse but converted into small flats for people with additional needs. There are carers who sleep there but they don't live there so there is noone to discuss any issues with.
Apart from occasional loud music , I have nothing to complain about on the other side.
At the end of my garden there are other gardens and sometimes I have had complaints usually about my trees.
If I move house I'll probably need to learn the etiquette for being a NDN .

M0nica You are definitely a new kid on the block.
I hope things get easier. 2 parking tickets in 6 weeks is awful. Not welcoming at all.

Once when we moved into a new house, a company called Welcome Wagons appeared at the door with a load of special offers, coupons etc but best of all a smiley face of someone who knew the area. I believe it was an American idea but not a bad one.

friendlygingercat

Whay gets up my nose is people who have lived in an area some time and shomehow think they are superior to you because of that fact. Thinking particularly of neighbours. That cuts no ice with me.

The NDN told me she had lived there since the dinosaurs and she paid for the dividing fence. I asked to see the reciept and she got in a huff. She didnt like the fact that I had pinned up a sheet and was using it as a background for a photography session. Eventually two panels of the fence fell apart one windy night. I got my handyman to replace them, being sure to leave the rotting piles of wood by her kitchen door. After all, they were HER property. I am petty like that.

I am the neighbour that you do not cross!

You sound nice.

Our first house was a 2-up 2-down terrace in Coventry.
After nine years we were still referred to as "those new people down the road" 😂

I'm my area, I think I will be an 'incomer' until I am an 'outgoer'

When people moved in two doors away a few years ago, I pitched up with a bottle of wine and told them bin days, nearest GP etc. It is a small cul de sac, many of the houses are rented but we have remained firm friends ever since.

Houses here are rarely for sale. I think the last was around 6 years ago.

Posted on the wrong thread but just agreeing, in this town you have to be a dynasty of several generations or you're an incomer or worse, an English incomer. Although I've lived in Scotland for 50yrs I sound English 😂🤣

15:17friendlygingercat
To be fair you sound a PITA and nasty. Why go out of your way to antagonise?
Monica I hope you find your way about soon and enjoy your new home.

Must follow your posts Monica re - moving. We hope to move to a completely different area, we do know the area, have visited a lot due to one of our daughters and GS living nearby so should be less stressful. But having new neighbours and being the newbies in town I imagine can be confusing.
Also just for the record we are not moving just to be nearer to family, that is a consideration, especially since my DH became seriously ill, but we are going to be surrounded by the South Downs which has always been our fav place.

friendlygingercat Perhaps you should consider a name change to ferocioustiger.

Monica I've found it the same we've been here 7wks now had the devils own job getting my meds then figuring out car parking the chemist said they'd send a txt when the meds were ready, they didn't. The buses take some figuring out too (save me paying for parking everytime i go into town. Its not been easy peasy for sure, oh! and on Market days roads close, car parks had certain rules too. Hey! ho! On I go lol.

Even not having moved, our local pharmacy has gone a bit crazy with refusing to dispense a prescription. Fortunately, there are a few pharmacies around here and one was very efficient. It’s just life ….

We moved from the city to the country over 25 years ago, tbh I was almost overwhelmed by the friendliness. Our local farmer came with his wife to say hello, a neighbour invited us to tea and asked other neighbours to join us and another farmer asked us round for supper with other neighbours. We don't live in close proximity to anyone but there is a definite local community and I felt welcomed immediately. What I like is that we're from completely different backgrounds and income levels, absolutely no snobbishness although one of the women who have helped me in the house and who became a good friend said her ex husband used to refer to me as "Mrs Snobby" when I asked why, she said it was because "he's an ignorant prat"! He is!

Hi MOnica, I think you can use that excuse for a very long time… these things always take longer than expected - that’s my experience anyway.
Sympathy about the parking tickets - a lot of the new machines are not at all intuitive. Our local ones do not give you a ticket to put in your car, which I find very discombobulating!
All the very best in your new home.

I’ve lived here 12 years, but the small town has expanded so much in recent years that I feel very well established. I have never encountered any feeling of being new or unwelcome.

Ooooh MOnica, that’s a shame.

When we moved here I got stopped in the town centre for scooting my bike, and had to pay a hefty fine. I hadn’t realised the cycle lane had finished and was scooting to the bike rack. Ho hum, won’t do that again. Family still tease me about my AS BO.
I was also surprised that we had no trick or treaters at Hallowe’een. I was used to many children arriving. What a shame that I just had to eat those chocolate bars myself!

We have been here 4 years and certainly feel at home now, though I do still say that I haven’t lived here very long if I need some local system to be explained.
I did join a few things - fitness class, crafting group, gardening group - and it didn’t take long before I was bumping into familiar faces about town.
I hope you feel settled soon.

I definitely feel like a new person and we'll have been here 5 years early '26, I even find myself saying on the occasional times my mind goes blank when asked for post code, so ingrained was the last one, "Sorry about that I'm new here", but I'm not anymore, still feels like it though. Again we were in our old area getting on for 4 decades. Personally, glad to move out of London, or at least from the edge of it. 30 or so miles away. It's a lot greener, sandwiched as we are here between The Surrey Hills and The South Downs. We do go up to our old area for various things, dentist, lunch with friends and I grudgingly would say larger versions of the John Lewis and M&S than here, but now I see it with fresh eyes and it always seems heaving and so densely populated. On our return back to the sticks, we sigh with a certain amount of relief when we get beyond the M25 and the traffic thins out.

I've appreciated picking up local knowledge from some of the women who've been here much longer than me in a group I've been going to.

All the best Monica and Tanith in your respective new homes and new towns, I think I remember a few teething problems as far as continuation of our prescriptions with the then new GPs Practice which at the time was frustrating.

I had lived in a house for 7 years and my son was 3. Someone knocked on the door opposite asking for a family who had just moved in with a new baby, and they sent him across to me!

But where I live now, sorry, I do not know when that will be, I have only lived here for 38 years, and am still regarded as a newcomer. There is very much a circle of knowledge that it is hard to break. While we have a magazine that has many adverts and our library provides a list, as does our council website, it takes a while to find some useful people. Do search for facebook groups (there are likely to be a number) and join. You can then search for words like gardener/ plumber etc recommendations.
If you are retired, join your local U3A who are a mine of information

When we lived in North West Tasmania you had to have lived there at least 50 years before you were not considered an incomer and an outsider. Mind you, I remember living in Kenilworth uk and I was accepted but this poor American woman was despised. Just because she was American. Horrible.