eazybee
I am not convinced that parents do all they can to get children to school. Since Covid, school refusal has become an accepted thing, and 'she simply won't go' is not a good enough excuse.
I know three sets of grandchildren who refuse to attend school, two following in the wake of an a much older sister who walked out of school aged 11 and never returned. Support was/is offered but the family (mother, an agoraphobic except when a pop concert is in the offing)) simply refused to answer the door when various teams arrived. Then there is the boy who refused school aged 12, is now in his early 40s and rarely leaves the house, again a mother who refused to co operate with medical/school professionals.
Missing these precious school years is so important.
However , I know there will be a raft of parents, grandparents blaming the school, (the school did nothing to help: how could it when they had never even met the child?) and expecting very expensive home schooling which the child controls. Then tales of how brilliantly these children have done, yes, we all would with individually tailored tutoring, but with little awareness of how difficult these adult children find it to adjust to the workplace and how difficult they are to work with.
How does a child control the home schooling?
I worked in out of school tuition for many years. It could not have worked without full cooperation from families. Sometimes they went through hell.
Yes, some schools were excellent and supportive but some were not and liaising with all services (especially CAMHS) was sometimes very difficult.
The students had no control over any of it, and most were very keen to learn and very engaged, often it was a dlow process but most of the students I taught were eventually intergrated back into school and went on to college or started work.
They were all a joy to work with, even the ones who tried their best not to be...!