Nanagem
When I was first married and had young children my mum and dad would give me lovely presents nice bubble bath a beautiful jumper things I couldn’t afford or justify.
The first year without her my dad bought me a set of sauce pans. Yes they were very stylish, very good quality and obviously cost a lot of money. I know I needed them I was still using a cheap set I got when first married. But I was gutted, I wanted my bubble bath something for me not the house. I was suitably grateful and smiled but sad and missed my mum
Move on 20 odd years and these pans used practically every day, are still in excellent condition, just a slight dent on the bottom of one where I dropped it. I use them all the time and now dads gone they make me smile. Poor dad he bought me something really good and I didn’t appreciate it. I would be lost without them now
I did something similar for DD. She had moved into new house with SIL, bought things they needed but she still had her tatty cutlery from uni days so I bought them some nice cutlery as well as some personal bits. They clearly weren't thrilled. A little while later she apologised and said she now realised how much nicer it was to have decent cutlery and loved the present.