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Burlesque? Am I just out of touch?

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Granatlast007 Fri 14-Nov-25 09:37:13

I was a bit surprised recently to find our local WI had invited a young woman called Ivy Malice to do a presentation. I googled her and and struggled to understand what the difference was between burlesque and a nicer version of stripping.

Her performance was all about corsets, 'tasteful' stripping to show stockings, suspenders, high heels, lots of make up and lots of flesh while prancing about. I couldn't be bothered to go to the meeting on the basis of what I googled but after the event, members I have asked seemed to have loved it and want to ask her back.

I suppose it's not for me and as a once ardent feminist, I thought we women had rid ourselves of dressing up in attire which is surely about attracting men in the most basic way possible?

Apparently though burlesque now is about 'body positivity and self-love and about self-expression in the most vulnerable way possible. I am puzzled, perhaps I need to get out more! Anyone else?

Jackiest Fri 14-Nov-25 11:39:07

If the women at the WI loved it then it is not just about attracting men in the most basic way possible. More about some men and women like it and some men and women don't.

Granatlast007 Fri 14-Nov-25 11:45:24

Every WI is different of course and this is in one of those 'best places to live in the UK' (yawn) and is a relatively new WI with a much larger proportion of younger women than I have experienced elsewhere.

eazybee Fri 14-Nov-25 13:47:38

Dear, oh dear, oh dear.
Burlesque is an erotic performance art form, very controlled, quite provocative and very different from stripping.
I watched television clips of Dita von Teese performing, definitely very artistic, and also someone I knew who was persuaded to perform for a hen do among friends. (she also learned line dancing and go-jo, mo-jo (?) or something similar.
We were invited to have a go at learning basic moves and it was good fun; I can understand the WI enjoying it. I think I was mid-fifties at the time and won approval from my much younger colleagues at the time.

It is possible to be a feminist and erotic at the same time, but rather sad that people condemn it without have ever seen it.
Still, each to each her own.

Jaxjacky Fri 14-Nov-25 13:53:56

As you didn’t go to the meeting you’re imagining what happened based on some internet searches, I’d have gone and then formed an opinion. I like experiencing new things and being educated, there’s always an option of walking away if something isn’t to one’s liking.

eazybee Fri 14-Nov-25 14:12:42

Exactly Jaxjacky.
Incidentally, the moves did not involve any removal of clothes, just interesting ways of wearing a feather boa.

Granatlast007 Fri 14-Nov-25 14:17:15

OK ok enough said, we're going down the fuddy duddy route, mea culpa, let it all hang out, there, time for a cup of tea or perhaps that should be, is it prosecco, or is that out of date too. 5smile

Dottydots Fri 14-Nov-25 15:10:37

Several years ago my friend took me to see a burlesque show. He loved it but I felt uncomfortable and hated every minute of it.

Labradora Fri 14-Nov-25 15:34:01

Allira

^My ideal of female empowerment was the work of the Air Auxiliary women in WW2 who flew all types of aircraft with little preparation and just a book of instructions. I would rather have listened to them than watch a burlesque performer.^

HelterSkelter Well said.

Wow! Wish I had done that.......😊😊

eazybee Fri 14-Nov-25 17:28:03

Why does it have to be either or?
Quite possible to do both.

Allira Fri 14-Nov-25 17:34:48

Jackiest

If the women at the WI loved it then it is not just about attracting men in the most basic way possible. More about some men and women like it and some men and women don't.

And if it's of no interest whatsoever then that doesn't make you an old fuddy-duddy in the slightest.

Allira Fri 14-Nov-25 17:35:49

eazybee

Why does it have to be either or?
Quite possible to do both.

What - burlesque dancing whilst flying a plane you've never flown before?

Could be disastrous.

Jackiest Fri 14-Nov-25 18:11:17

Allira

Jackiest

If the women at the WI loved it then it is not just about attracting men in the most basic way possible. More about some men and women like it and some men and women don't.

And if it's of no interest whatsoever then that doesn't make you an old fuddy-duddy in the slightest.

Why would you think it did?

OldFrill Fri 14-Nov-25 19:18:31

Jackiest

Allira

Jackiest

If the women at the WI loved it then it is not just about attracting men in the most basic way possible. More about some men and women like it and some men and women don't.

And if it's of no interest whatsoever then that doesn't make you an old fuddy-duddy in the slightest.

Why would you think it did?

See QuoteGranatlast007 Fri 14-Nov-25 14:17:15 where she mentions fuddy-duddy

Allira Fri 14-Nov-25 19:44:30

Thanks OldFrill

Jackiest Fri 14-Nov-25 20:02:07

Oh nothing to do with my post, That's why I was confused.

AmberGran Fri 14-Nov-25 20:47:39

There was someone on the Sewing Bee who did burlesque dancing - anyone remember her? I think she helped make the costumes and headresses too. She loved the dancing and had a lot of fun with it. I suspect it's much like people learning belly dancing - no one is trying to attract the sultan but they are having fun and a damn good workout.

A friend of mine used to do pole dancing as exercise, also trapeze. She was incredibly fit and ended up very confident. That's why these things are empowering. They give people confidence in themselves and their bodies.

TheWeirdoAgain60 Sat 15-Nov-25 08:42:23

Ugh! I hate that type of stuff and anything similar!

I wouldn't have attended, either!

StripeyGran Sat 15-Nov-25 09:41:17

WI didn't work for me. Nothing to do with sex. More to do with bags on seats and " My sister sits there"

kittylester Sat 15-Nov-25 09:45:25

I think it's a bit rich of all the people saying how dreadful burlesque is when they didn't go to the talk and, therefore, are speaking from a position of prejudice not knowledge.

Usedtobeblonde Sat 15-Nov-25 10:01:38

I wonder if the woman on Sewing Bee was the same one who took part in Come Dine with Me some years ago.
She also designed costumes, can’t remember if she also made them.
She was a very attractive buxom lady.

MartavTaurus Sat 15-Nov-25 12:11:38

Just pointing something out in passing

Pole dance is completely different from pole fitness or exercise which is being considered as an Olympic gymnastics vertical component.

Granatlast007 Sat 15-Nov-25 12:22:32

Interesting set of comments. It's more than possible these days to thoroughly research something online rather than turn up in person, especially if it's something that you realise you might not be keen on.

Maybe it's dressing up, maybe you're not someone whose dearest wish has been to wrap yourself in a feather boa. In the 1960s there was something called Women's Liberation, it was about being able to reject the expectations of men and a repressive, patriarchal society. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, that's not the same as prejudice. As these posts show, at least some are willing to look a little wider and to answer respectfully when someone asks a question.

Allira Sat 15-Nov-25 12:34:57

It just seems like something that belongs in the Victorian and Edwardian eras and should have been left behind when Women's Liberation began.

AmberGran Sat 15-Nov-25 12:59:54

Allira

It just seems like something that belongs in the Victorian and Edwardian eras and should have been left behind when Women's Liberation began.

But women's liberation was all about women getting to choose how they live their lives. And that means other women don't get to choose for them either.

If people were talking about burlesque at the WI then I doubt it was very risque - it will just be a dress up and dance routine. Probably far more 'proper' than most dance routines done by 16 year old girls.

Galaxy Sat 15-Nov-25 13:06:12

We don't get to choose but we do get to analyse whether it is a feminist choice. The same nonsense is said about all sorts of things S & M,
prostitution, etc. The thing about choices is they are rarely done in a vacuum.