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DotScot Wed 26-Nov-25 14:23:16

Decided to tackle just one of the several boxes that we were sent when my mother-in-law died. Masses of photos of course. But other stuff that's more tricky and I just don't know what to do with it.
A first day cover and other stamps designed by her father, who was an eminent artist in Ireland. We might try to sell them, I suppose, but could they be of interest to future generations of the family? But if kept, how should such things be stored and where?
Quite nice watercolours that she did - the genes were obviously strong - but we've nowhere now to hang them.
A little wooden box that she made herself.
Pristine pillowcases from Irish Linen with embroidered designs that she created and they used commercially.
The list goes on.
We've enough hard decisions with our own stuff. I don't consider myself a hoarder of useless things (although...all my school reports, and all my children's school reports?) My husband's collection of old screws and washers in the shed though - THAT'S hoarding!
But I just can't put these things from my mother-in-law in the bin and I doubt that charity shops would want them.
Help!

Allira Fri 28-Nov-25 11:28:58

Grammaretto

Well done Elegran
But is anyone poised to take on your role when you go?
I have inherited not only the contents of DM house, including her university notes and artwork but my late DH's library, research, objects galore and some of his DP's stuff as well as the paraphernalia from a cousin who left everything to him!

She used to give illustrated talks on Edinburgh's history, as had her father before her but what should I be doing with their old cameras, their handwritten notes and so on?
It's weighing me down.
I've tried asking other cousins but they don't even reply.

I'm desperate to downsize.

A local museum?

Grammaretto Fri 28-Nov-25 12:07:29

I will try a museum Allira but most museums have very little space.
I'll let you know if I have any luck.

DotScot Fri 28-Nov-25 13:31:44

Yes elegran! Exactly! I know in the roofspace there's a box with the very entertaining speeches my late father in law gave to the eminent groups he was part of. And we have 3 bound copies of his PhD thesis. It's such a weighty responsibility isn't it?

Elegran Fri 28-Nov-25 20:19:03

Allira

Grammaretto

Well done Elegran
But is anyone poised to take on your role when you go?
I have inherited not only the contents of DM house, including her university notes and artwork but my late DH's library, research, objects galore and some of his DP's stuff as well as the paraphernalia from a cousin who left everything to him!

She used to give illustrated talks on Edinburgh's history, as had her father before her but what should I be doing with their old cameras, their handwritten notes and so on?
It's weighing me down.
I've tried asking other cousins but they don't even reply.

I'm desperate to downsize.

A local museum?

There is a camera museum in St Monans which would treasure his old cameras - his notes too, and a biography to keep alongside his cameras, and any photos you could spare. If you pm me I will send you a contact link. It is not open all the time to visitors - I can find out more details for anyone who might be in the East Neuk of Fife and would be interested to visit.

Elegran Fri 28-Nov-25 20:20:13

THEIR old cameras etc, not just his!

Sarahr Sat 29-Nov-25 08:19:01

Have a word with an auction house. Unless anyone in the family definitely wants items and is happy to have them now, then you are better off selling to a collector who will ensure the items are treasured for many more years.
When I die, I know that nobody is interested in my Great Aunt's collection which I love, so we are looking into selling so the items don't just end up in a skip.

Shel69 Sat 29-Nov-25 08:59:16

That's difficult, I was so overwhelmed 2 years ago I emptied my junk drawer into the bin outside that was ready for collection, didn't check it, I have only a very vague collection what was in it but havnt missed a thing, sadly I've filled the drawer again

eddiecat78 Sat 29-Nov-25 13:05:34

Sadly most auction houses will only accept things they are confident will sell for a good price and some have a minimum expected sale price. Programmes like Bargain Hunt give the impression they are happy to sell things for just a few pounds - in reality they would not have accepted those low value items. There is also the question of being charged commission on things that do sell - our local auction house takes 30%
Charities are also very choosy about what they will take.
We've found Facebook Marketplace the best place to sell - or to offer for free for less popular items