Dh is driving me mad being always right

My OH can definitely be like this. I also think that it is related with some diminishing powers. OH is 80 now and doesn't have the stamina and confidence he once had. Also despite good quality hearing aids he struggles with hearing especially in the right ear.
I pretty much do what everyone else does and I don't react to his tweaking the lioness's tail but from time to time I raise my fearsome head and unsheath one claw to remind him that I'm not to be trifled with.
He's kind with a good heart and can be very patient normally.My superpower is I'm a good speller so he needs me for crosswords.😊😉😄

2Understand

Awwwww, I have a sign that is so appropriate:

"Never laugh at your wife's choices, you're one of them"

Love this!

Love my DH dearly BUT he is in his happy place with me if I play the 50’s housewife ! I now pick my battles !!!

I am trying a new strategy. I am training myself to say “ If you say so.”

The problem, is not whether things are on the website or not, but is, of course, DH's respect for your intelligence. You understandably resent his attitude, and that can feel like a Big Problem, but, on a deeper level, those posters who point out that his confidence may have decreased are probably right. I do not think there is anything to be proved by arguing over the specific points, because you are not arguing about the real issue (which, as we all know, is common in marriage!). At some point you might like to introduce this as a general topic with him, asking him why he seems sometimes to have little respect for what you say. Or, better still, not bother - be the wiser person and choose peace! (and a quiet sense of moral superiority! :-)) )

Awwwww, I have a sign that is so appropriate:

"Never laugh at your wife's choices, you're one of them"

If I talk to him from another room he always says I’m talking from 2 doors away, but it doesn’t stop him doing it. I found a gorgeous humorous card that said 95% of married couples spend their time shouting through walls! We both laughed.

That's a no win situation. I think mine might be the same when he finally concedes and gets it sorted.

Understand completely how you feel. It’s bloody annoying!

IOMGran

Allira

Oh goodness, so much on this thread sounds familiar!

I really understand. In my case if something doesn't work orhas gone missing. It is always 'Well, what have youd done with it?/Where have you put it.
A classic was his keys - "Where have you (or one of the DC when they were living at home) put my keys?" Eventually solved by having a row of hooks in a cupboard, all labelled for everyone's keys.

And then there's the mansplaining, ask a simple question about history, physics, engineering and you get twenty minutes of explanation when all you wanted was a one-sentence answer.

Added to that he is going deaf but wont acknowledge the fact, it’s me mumbling. Oh yes. At last he has a hearing aid but it's useless, apparently.

I have to say everything twice to my husband as he doesn't hear the first time, it's like living with an echo because then he parrots what I just said back to me. I got him to a hearing test last year by arranging for us both to have one, and his hearing was worse than mine, since then it has got a lot worse but he just refuses to go for another test. He finally said he didn't want to wear a hearing aid, so now it has become my problem.

The hearing aid can become another problem, though, IOMGran!

Everything's too loud, it makes squeaking noises, the batteries need changing etc. Then it gets taken out and he forgets where he put it. Or, in fact "What did you do with my hearing aid?" is the latest question since the key problem was solved.

Allira

Oh goodness, so much on this thread sounds familiar!

I really understand. In my case if something doesn't work orhas gone missing. It is always 'Well, what have youd done with it?/Where have you put it.
A classic was his keys - "Where have you (or one of the DC when they were living at home) put my keys?" Eventually solved by having a row of hooks in a cupboard, all labelled for everyone's keys.

And then there's the mansplaining, ask a simple question about history, physics, engineering and you get twenty minutes of explanation when all you wanted was a one-sentence answer.

Added to that he is going deaf but wont acknowledge the fact, it’s me mumbling. Oh yes. At last he has a hearing aid but it's useless, apparently.

I have to say everything twice to my husband as he doesn't hear the first time, it's like living with an echo because then he parrots what I just said back to me. I got him to a hearing test last year by arranging for us both to have one, and his hearing was worse than mine, since then it has got a lot worse but he just refuses to go for another test. He finally said he didn't want to wear a hearing aid, so now it has become my problem.

Its a man thing. I usually turn round and say ' let's bet on it'. He will back down as I usually win. The latest thing is that I have become physic. Call from the kitchen ' is this the right thing to use?'. 'Do you know which one this is?' I cannot see round corners and I cannot mind read. If the statement was quoting the item , then I would know, so invariably I have to get up and go and look.

How lovely to have someone to’argue’ with I find the brick wall I talk to doesnt answer back. Happy Christmas

and then I pour myself a nice glass of wine.
😂
Cheers 🍷🍷

After many years of living with someone who is always right and refuses to admit when he is wrong I've concluded that the reaction you get when you point it out goes as follows. Depending on the seriousness of the situation the greater the denial that they are wrong is actually an indicator of the fact that they are and they know it!!
What drives me insane is the comment " well I might have done that if you say so, I can't be sure". There isn't anywhere much you can go with that so I usually say, "we both know who is right on this occasion but I'll let it go" and then I pour myself a nice glass of wine.

I had quite an argument with my partner recently because he has been doing something downright dangerous with our shared dog. When I pointed it out he got so defensive and angry ( I don’t lose my temper very often unless it concerns my kids or my dog). What made me angry was that I’d told him about it before and assumed he’d taken on board what I’d said. He can’t take criticism of any kind.

Extratime

Wonderful thread! Resonates with me too and has cheered me up!

What I’ve often wondered is, when a group of men are together who is right if they are all always right? 😂

😂

Well, another problem used to be that I'd suggest (a few times) that DH or in fact we could do something and it was always vehemently resisted then he'd go to the pub on Friday night and come back with a really good idea that one of our neighbours had suggested.
That would be the same idea that he'd turned down when I suggested it.

I have developed a whole arsenal of phrases since my lovely husband retired, all of which are (mostly!) delivered & received with humour ….”thank you for your opinion but …”, “ thanks, I’m happy with my decision to do X/YZ…” and the most useful one “OK. Luckily I’m a grown-up too, so can decide for myself!!”

fancythat

^What I’ve often wondered is, when a group of men are together who is right if they are all always right? 😂

Ooh. Good one!

The man with the biggest ego is my guess.

That would be my one. Hence the not accepting how deaf he is.

^What I’ve often wondered is, when a group of men are together who is right if they are all always right? 😂

Ooh. Good one!

The man with the biggest ego is my guess.

Wonderful thread! Resonates with me too and has cheered me up!

What I’ve often wondered is, when a group of men are together who is right if they are all always right? 😂

I have really enjoyed reading all of these posts - most of them anyway. It’s seems to resonate with us all. The way I see it I am either stupid or a liar and I know I am neither. So don’t let them convince you of either. Love the back gate one - it’s always me who leaves the light on in the bedroom even if I haven’t been in there!

AGAA4

You do realise that MEN are always right!

To my certain knowledge, men say the same about women!

I suspect the truth is that no-one likes being told they are wrong, and certainly not when they are right!

There is no particularly nice way of tackling the problem. Either you bite your tongue and choke on your rancour, or you make some spiteful remark, such as, "I can't help that you do not know what the difference between a computor search and one on a tablet is." or "Do not tell me I am lying, when I am not." This kind of come-back will leave you feeling rather childish and mean, though.

AGAA4

You do realise that MEN are always right!

Agree. My DH is never wrong! But I forgive him as he’s so good in other ways.

Allira

But - very grateful that he is still here

Absolutely 👍