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Dh is driving me mad being always right

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25Avalon Sat 06-Dec-25 22:53:08

Got to get it off my chest. This often happens and ends up like tonight in an awful row. We were both looking at a retail website, him on his computer and me on the IPad. I got the section up with the item he wanted me to see but I could not find it. So he shows me where it is on his computer. It isn’t in that position on my I pad and I only get into the right page by entering the name of the item. Then it appears but in a different row. Dh refuses to accept this, laughs and says I can’t have looked properly. This makes me very angry as he will not accept what I am telling him I am seeing. If I persue it he then says he’s off to bed. Grrr!

welbeck Sat 06-Dec-25 23:11:34

Sounds an utterly childish thing to be arguing about.
If he doesn't understand that it appears differently on different devices
what does that matter ?
Just discuss the prospective purchase rather than looking for an argument on a subsidiary and inconsequential matter.
It's nice to have someone to share daily life with.
Unless it's not.
In which case move leave or isolate in the spare room.

foxie48 Sun 07-Dec-25 08:48:20

I totally get what you're saying and we have similar tiffs. They're never over really important issues, we got those things sorted decades ago. My husband has lost a bit of his confidence as he's got older and I'm definitely seeing signs of "always being right" which really rubs me up as I don't like being told I'm wrong ( sometimes I am!). I try to practice least said soonest mended but occasionally it just feels good to let the frustration out!

Farmor15 Sun 07-Dec-25 08:54:29

Similar problem in my house! I know I should just let it go, but sometimes it's hard, when I know I'm right!!!

AGAA4 Sun 07-Dec-25 08:59:05

You do realise that MEN are always right!

Oreo Sun 07-Dec-25 09:13:29

😁
Men do tend to get like this as they get older, it’s mega annoying isn’t it? Unless you’re a doormat you have to say something now and then to remind them this behaviour is just not on.Pick your battles is my advice.
I wonder if it’s a sort of control thing that they do to make up for lost confidence?

rosie1959 Sun 07-Dec-25 09:24:11

Different devices will not display a website exactly the same due to screen size,browser,and operating systems your DH is not as knowledgeable as he thinks.

luluaugust Sun 07-Dec-25 09:33:32

There’s nothing like a computer to cause a row, could you use one device at a time.

M0nica Sun 07-Dec-25 09:41:13

I really understand. In my case if something doesn't work orhas gone missing. It is always 'Well, what have youd done with it?/Where have you put it.

Fortunately DD recognises it, so now and again I can have a little moan. It is not a separate beds or divorcing matter welbeck, just the comings and goings or everyday life and none of us is perfect. Just now and again one feels the need to have a little rant.

GrannyGravy13 Sun 07-Dec-25 10:22:52

Oh yes, I have a Mr Always Right he wasn’t like it pre-retirement though 🤷‍♀️

beachcomber76 Sun 07-Dec-25 10:23:49

I knew a female know-it-all once, who was never wrong. I don't now, it became intolerable.

GrannyGravy13 Sun 07-Dec-25 10:25:47

Oops sorry premature posting 🤦‍♀️

I wonder if there is any correlation between no longer being in the workplace and having a purpose and lots of responsibility and being at home in what for many years has been primarily the women’s domain in many instances.

Yes I know lots of us have worked, some in responsible/high flying careers, but we do usually manage careers, home and childcare.

CariadAgain Sun 07-Dec-25 10:31:09

I must admit I grinned when I saw a little YouTube video recently on ways to tell if someone isn't very bright......and that seemed to be a prime one (ie in their opinion they are "right...always right" and they try to push their opinions on top of you). Must see if I can find it - and it certainly explained a lot to me about why some people are the way they are - and makes it a sight easier to think "not a potential friend then"/shrug shoulders and forget them.

foxie48 Sun 07-Dec-25 10:33:04

GrannyGravy13

Oh yes, I have a Mr Always Right he wasn’t like it pre-retirement though 🤷‍♀️

Mine wasn't either! He's still the kind, generous and helpful man he's always been but he can also be an interfering know all, whereas I am still perfect! smile

GrannyGravy13 Sun 07-Dec-25 10:37:13

We must be twins foxie48 🥴

loopyloo Sun 07-Dec-25 10:45:14

Totally with you there, Avalon.
DH always thinks the desk top is better whereas I do most things on my phone.
I do think systems are now written for phones, mainly and are more secure.
Also I am regarded as a fount of all knowledge, like this morning... When's the last posting date for Christmas cards? Answer ... Don't know, perhaps look it up?

Magenta8 Sun 07-Dec-25 10:51:25

"A woman's place is in the wrong." I can't remember who said it first.

It must be said though that a significant number of women are always right; I've worked with several and my MIL was never wrong about anything.

VANECAM Sun 07-Dec-25 10:51:34

I don’t really get it. Exactly what has DH done wrong here?

Bukkie Sun 07-Dec-25 10:55:42

Similar tiffs in our house and usually over something quite trivial. As others have said I know I should let it go but sometimes it's difficult. It's usually something like, "you left the back gate unlocked last night." Or "you didn't put the lid on the jam correctly." Even when I tell him I didn't go out the gate yesterday or I don't like that particular jam etc...therefore it must have been him he won't back down.

kittylester Sun 07-Dec-25 11:02:21

GrannyGravy13

Oops sorry premature posting 🤦‍♀️

I wonder if there is any correlation between no longer being in the workplace and having a purpose and lots of responsibility and being at home in what for many years has been primarily the women’s domain in many instances.

Yes I know lots of us have worked, some in responsible/high flying careers, but we do usually manage careers, home and childcare.

Exactly this GG.

DH takes credit for all the good ideas - which were, obviously, mostly mine.

He loves it when he sees an ex patient and, if they recognise him - well!!

But, it is understandable, as you say.

It has helped that DH has a new existence in his volunteering and friends he has made at the gym.

rockgran Sun 07-Dec-25 11:14:41

I thought I was wrong once - but I was mistaken. grin

fancythat Sun 07-Dec-25 11:39:46

I never knew this was such a big problem with people on this site.

I got the impression from the site that most husbands are great, and we shouldnt complain anyway as should be grateful to still have them.

Thankfully, my DH has got quite a bit better since ageing. Unlike lots of others on here, it seems.

Sitting here trying to work out why.
He has more time for one thing. Which may have helped.

I will think further today.

kittylester Sun 07-Dec-25 11:41:48

My husband is great but that doesn't mean he doesn't have the odd foible. I'm sure I do too.

foxie48 Sun 07-Dec-25 12:00:43

I don't think anyone is saying it's a "big problem" but it seems it is a "common" issue and isn't it good to have a bit of a jokey witter about it?

fancythat Sun 07-Dec-25 12:08:58

I certainly considered it a big problem in the past.
Surprised others may not.