Dh is driving me mad being always right

But - very grateful that he is still here

Oh goodness, so much on this thread sounds familiar!

I really understand. In my case if something doesn't work orhas gone missing. It is always 'Well, what have youd done with it?/Where have you put it.
A classic was his keys - "Where have you (or one of the DC when they were living at home) put my keys?" Eventually solved by having a row of hooks in a cupboard, all labelled for everyone's keys.

And then there's the mansplaining, ask a simple question about history, physics, engineering and you get twenty minutes of explanation when all you wanted was a one-sentence answer.

Added to that he is going deaf but wont acknowledge the fact, it’s me mumbling. Oh yes. At last he has a hearing aid but it's useless, apparently.

So glad this thread has appeared as I have been feeling very down about this and as if I must be the most incompetent person in the world! Not only am I always wrong but the explanations of me being wrong need to go back to the very beginning of what I am wrong about. I often feel stupid and like literally banging my head against the wall but it's encouraging to see I'm not alone and should not take it personally. DH was a teacher!!! Says it all really.

AGAA4

You do realise that MEN are always right!

Surely not!

Women are Always Right.

petra

VANECAM

I don’t really get it. Exactly what has DH done wrong here?

If you can’t understand what the link is in all these posts ( except yours) you’ll never understand what
My partner of 45 years is the kindest helpful man you could meet: but he has to be right.
The words i could be wrong, sorry I’m wrong are just not wired into his brain.
Added to that he is going deaf but wont acknowledge the fact, it’s me mumbling.
I find that I’m retraining my brain to accommodate this part of his personality.
Then I have my daughter ( he’s not her birth father but has been since she was 9 keep telling me to argue back.
Hey ho, it is what it is 🤷‍♀️

Thank you, but with all due respect your sentence “just not wired into his brain” makes my point.

How can he do something wrong if he is simply complying with how he is wired.

He may be different - but not wrong.

I think the answer "Whatever" should be used here. And just leave the room and make a nice cup...or glass of something just for you.
DH can be like that , but a friends H is 100 times worse than yours. How he is not under the patio I really don't know.

VANECAM

I don’t really get it. Exactly what has DH done wrong here?

If you can’t understand what the link is in all these posts ( except yours) you’ll never understand what
My partner of 45 years is the kindest helpful man you could meet: but he has to be right.
The words i could be wrong, sorry I’m wrong are just not wired into his brain.
Added to that he is going deaf but wont acknowledge the fact, it’s me mumbling.
I find that I’m retraining my brain to accommodate this part of his personality.
Then I have my daughter ( he’s not her birth father but has been since she was 9 keep telling me to argue back.
Hey ho, it is what it is 🤷‍♀️

I am nowhere near perfect, so no doubt I annoy him 🤷‍♀️

kittylester and foxie48 I agree with you both.

It is not a big problem, in fact I find it comical at times as I can predict when it’s going to happen.

Usually along the lines of me saying lets wait and ask an AC who has such and such and has already downloaded the app and knows how it works DH replies don’t be daft, I can do it
Then it goes wrong, and because the thing is half done it is twice as complicated to rectify. Fortunately our AC know him and his foibles and laugh whilst sorting out the problem 🤦‍♀️

I have one of these to.. i try and not bite back and be tolerant but it is hard at times

I certainly considered it a big problem in the past.
Surprised others may not.

I don't think anyone is saying it's a "big problem" but it seems it is a "common" issue and isn't it good to have a bit of a jokey witter about it?

My husband is great but that doesn't mean he doesn't have the odd foible. I'm sure I do too.

I never knew this was such a big problem with people on this site.

I got the impression from the site that most husbands are great, and we shouldnt complain anyway as should be grateful to still have them.

Thankfully, my DH has got quite a bit better since ageing. Unlike lots of others on here, it seems.

Sitting here trying to work out why.
He has more time for one thing. Which may have helped.

I will think further today.

I thought I was wrong once - but I was mistaken.

GrannyGravy13

Oops sorry premature posting 🤦‍♀️

I wonder if there is any correlation between no longer being in the workplace and having a purpose and lots of responsibility and being at home in what for many years has been primarily the women’s domain in many instances.

Yes I know lots of us have worked, some in responsible/high flying careers, but we do usually manage careers, home and childcare.

Exactly this GG.

DH takes credit for all the good ideas - which were, obviously, mostly mine.

He loves it when he sees an ex patient and, if they recognise him - well!!

But, it is understandable, as you say.

It has helped that DH has a new existence in his volunteering and friends he has made at the gym.

Similar tiffs in our house and usually over something quite trivial. As others have said I know I should let it go but sometimes it's difficult. It's usually something like, "you left the back gate unlocked last night." Or "you didn't put the lid on the jam correctly." Even when I tell him I didn't go out the gate yesterday or I don't like that particular jam etc...therefore it must have been him he won't back down.

I don’t really get it. Exactly what has DH done wrong here?

"A woman's place is in the wrong." I can't remember who said it first.

It must be said though that a significant number of women are always right; I've worked with several and my MIL was never wrong about anything.

Totally with you there, Avalon.
DH always thinks the desk top is better whereas I do most things on my phone.
I do think systems are now written for phones, mainly and are more secure.
Also I am regarded as a fount of all knowledge, like this morning... When's the last posting date for Christmas cards? Answer ... Don't know, perhaps look it up?

We must be twins foxie48 🥴

GrannyGravy13

Oh yes, I have a Mr Always Right he wasn’t like it pre-retirement though 🤷‍♀️

Mine wasn't either! He's still the kind, generous and helpful man he's always been but he can also be an interfering know all, whereas I am still perfect!

I must admit I grinned when I saw a little YouTube video recently on ways to tell if someone isn't very bright......and that seemed to be a prime one (ie in their opinion they are "right...always right" and they try to push their opinions on top of you). Must see if I can find it - and it certainly explained a lot to me about why some people are the way they are - and makes it a sight easier to think "not a potential friend then"/shrug shoulders and forget them.

Oops sorry premature posting 🤦‍♀️

I wonder if there is any correlation between no longer being in the workplace and having a purpose and lots of responsibility and being at home in what for many years has been primarily the women’s domain in many instances.

Yes I know lots of us have worked, some in responsible/high flying careers, but we do usually manage careers, home and childcare.

I knew a female know-it-all once, who was never wrong. I don't now, it became intolerable.