Dh is driving me mad being always right

CariadAgain

I must admit I grinned when I saw a little YouTube video recently on ways to tell if someone isn't very bright......and that seemed to be a prime one (ie in their opinion they are "right...always right" and they try to push their opinions on top of you). Must see if I can find it - and it certainly explained a lot to me about why some people are the way they are - and makes it a sight easier to think "not a potential friend then"/shrug shoulders and forget them.

I'll see if I can find something on You Tube. Thanks for reminder. I sat next to a woman at our local WI Christmas lunch and she was like this. Short of reeling on the spot, I am still spitting feathers a week later. Couldn't say anything as was in 'polite' company.

Recently with us it was necessary for DH to explain the new TV remote setup. You would have thought I had interrupted something really important if you were a fly on the wall. Not so! He not only had to be right , he also had to guard the knowledge/ control.
I am teaching myself now by trial and error.
This particular manvdies not get easier as he gets older, and I don’t bounce back so quickly as I used to.

OH has become much worse since he retired. He has some kind of persecution complex now and if I do anything cheerfully I must be thinking he's useless? No idea what the logic of that is. It's all in his head. When I'm helpfully dealing with the odd thing (and we do have some challenges these days) on paper or organising and wanting to work as a team, he just gets annoyed and says I'm treating him like a child. I say no I'm just discussing it with you, and suggesting I organise something - what do you think? As a result he's made the odd unilateral decision - why - to show me he's in control?! Which ended up costing us a lot of money and I was furious he committed that money without discussing it with me first. Suddenly mutual discussion has become him having to "report to me". Thankfully it's not as bad as it was at first now! But he has always been the I'm right type - when nobody is even arguing with him. I say it's not about who is right and who is wrong it's about having different ideas and seeing what the other one thinks of your idea. Well obviously my ideas are rubbish - except he knows they're not so he has a hissy fit about nothing.

I so wish that Gransnet had a like button but they totally refuse.

It may depend on the type of phone, but on mine (Samsung) go into Settings, then Sounds and vibration, you can select the notification sound. He may have it set to silent.
My OH is similar- he keeps telling me I can't use all the features of my phone properly, when in fact I just use it in a different way to him!

Now dh says he had an earlier text but his phone didn’t make a noise. I said I thought it should if he went into settings, but oh no his phone doesn’t tell him when he has a text and it can’t be changed. So he has gone to bed in a huff. I’ve tested and it doesn’t make a sound when a text comes in. Surely it should?

Here we go again. Me”CCTV shows no one in the car park”. Dh “ Yes they are. They just rang me.” Me “ No they must have gone.” Dh “ no I told you they rang” Finally Dh “They’ve rang again and now they are gone.” Brick wall and head spring to mind.

DH bought these mugs for our last anniversary.

The latest “phase” for me is being told “I know what I’m doing, just stop taking control” …then well you didn’t offer me any advice -on slow cooker pulled gammon! …it was fine in fact a surprisingly nice change from a pork joint but he likes to “make a meal” of most things and struggled with the two fork shredding by using a too small dish to do it in 🙄
In addition I’m now supposed to be psychic and know what things he needs reminding about before he forgets - Strewth! I can’t win.

RosieandherMaw

When you met Mr Right I bet you never imagined he’d turn out to be Mr ALWAYS Right. did you? ?

So true. I could see those red flashing lights yet I still went ahead and married him.

Do you both have hobbies? It’s essential to have your hobbies, friends etc that are for you.

When you met Mr Right I bet you never imagined he’d turn out to be Mr ALWAYS Right. did you? ?

YES!!! I’m with you on that one. Mr blooming always right! He has got worse since retirement. If we watch a quiz programme he either shouts an answer out whether it’s right or wrong then talks through the next blooming question. I speak up every time. The programme is ruined but I would hate to sit on a night on my own. Just go into a spare room and scream! It helps.

AGAA4

You do realise that MEN are always right!

🤣 nailed it there.

if there is a lot of love around, have it our with him, tell him what you feel, bedtime or not. Bring it up anytime it happens. Why not? Men arrant entitled even cos they are older to hang on to these nasty little but basically a bit of a bully put downs.

(says someone who lives alone now, and did let it happen for years, and it ended up undermining me totally just cos I tried to avoid conflict.)

GrannyGravy13

Oh yes, I have a Mr Always Right he wasn’t like it pre-retirement though 🤷‍♀️

I have one too.

He has become over critical too. I have to remind him some times that I have been doing this for 55 years, and I am NOT going to change now.

The worst bit is when he "corrects" me in public.

Funny you should say that Cath9 -reminds me when we were first married dh couldn’t bear me to contradict anything he said in front of his parents. Seemed daft to me.

Agree with wellbeck

Although I had no problem I do believe men feel they should be trusted.
Soon after my son married his wife made a comment while in my prescience which my son tried to contradict. Thankfully, she is a positive young lady so contradicted what my son brought out on the same matter.
That was the end of it and since then my son has never contradicted her again in my presence.

My husbands like that too- so frustrating! If you don’t already know it, do read Pam Ayres’ They should have asked my husband” - hilarious.

When you married Mr Right, I bet you didn’t know his first name was Always 😆

Lots of sad old men

Why sad?

I used to have a fridge magnet that said, When I married Mr Right, I didn’t know his first name was Always!

Lots of sad old men about who knows it all, because to they are men and are born superior to woman.
Worse if they are thick and not very knowledgeable.

Even some of the best men harbour a deep rooted misogynist streak.

I don't know how some women stay with them for years on end. Must be like bringing up an arrogant child.

'Sad but true' I had a Mr Right for a while (quite nasty with it). Then he slowly realised that his mind was not quite what it had been. Now there is a lot more give and take and considering that from time to time he may be 'mistaken' (nobody likes to be plain wrong).

ruthiek

Love my DH dearly BUT he is in his happy place with me if I play the 50’s housewife ! I now pick my battles !!!

Aren’t they all!

I have a lovely saying for my husband - ‘If I agree with, then we’ll both be wrong’🤣