Rage at the train station

She may be going to a school far away because the family have been put into homeless accommodation.

Her daughter is dressed in her school uniform each day. I have no idea why they are travelling so far from school. She could have been distraught by me offering to stand near her kids. However I was in eye view and unfortunately I don't think its that at all. She was angry I didn't offer to carry the pushchair and thought my back issues were an excuse. Anyway I have learnt my lesson and know to ignore her from now on! I would only report her if I notice anything more worrying.

Tracey travel

Claudia1969

Thank you everyone. I too wondered why she hasn't got a maclaren. The younger child is able to walk and I remember my maclaren as being a bit of a lifesaver. I also appreciate the suggestions of contacting social services I will keep an eye on the situation and if need be report her.

Today a young mum was taking her 2 kids on the train to school. The youngest was a toddler in a buggy.

I wonder why a young child was going to a school so far away they had to Tracey by train?
How do you know they were going to school?

Why would you contact Social Services over one incident when a fraught mother was struggling?

Yes, you offered to help but perhaps she didn't know you and a stranger offering to 'look after' her children might have made her feel guilty and quite fearful.

It sounds terrifying, for her.

Esmay

I encounter this kind of aggression occasionally on the bus .
I use buses a great deal and it always makes me feel upset.
I have to consider the many times that I've encountered enormous kindness.

Plesase don't offer again.
Take a different train-for your sanity avoid her .
You could contact social services to intervene for the sake of the elder daughter
I feel so sorry for her.She has to probably endure the yelling on a daily basis and goodness knows how bad it is for her as home.
And when she grows up will she also exhibit the same behaviour.

The first thing we noticed about a new neighbour was her constant tirade of abuse that her husband had to endure when he returned from work.
She used to stand on the pavement complaining to everyone about it . A couple wanted the neighbours to complain about it and they eventually moved.
Then ,when she had children there were huge rows about chores when they became older it was particularly awful for the middle girl .
She has grown up to be incredibly moody and difficult to such an extent that I think that she needs counselling.
Apparently,her aggressive behaviour is due to the poor genes that she inherited from her father not her.

So sad!

Thank you everyone. I too wondered why she hasn't got a maclaren. The younger child is able to walk and I remember my maclaren as being a bit of a lifesaver. I also appreciate the suggestions of contacting social services I will keep an eye on the situation and if need be report her.

I’m sorry she took her anger and frustration out on you, and so publicly !

No good deed goes unpunished 🌺

Glad to read your update.
It is hard work at stations with no lift. Mine is the same. No lift, no staff.
That doesn’t excuse her rudeness, but glad that she is not always mouthing off.

Don't be upset. She was completely out if order- you did your best. My advice, stay clear of her. I fully understand the stress she was under, that does not excuse her foul behaviour and language.

Nanny27

I’ve been in a similar position many a time with three under 4. Carry toddler in one arm.
Carry buggy, folded, in other hand.
Tell older child to hold on to you and….
Off you go!
No shouting necessary.

What happened to the third child?

we used to have the Maclaren baby buggies, they could be folded and umbrella and carried over one arm. Very lightweight. The modern buggies are bulky and much heavier

I feel for Claudia who was being very kind. I also feel for the mother, she may well have severe problems in managing everything in her life. I managed 3 children and a Maclaren on and off buses in the 70s but that was much easier

I encounter this kind of aggression occasionally on the bus .
I use buses a great deal and it always makes me feel upset.
I have to consider the many times that I've encountered enormous kindness.

Plesase don't offer again.
Take a different train-for your sanity avoid her .
You could contact social services to intervene for the sake of the elder daughter
I feel so sorry for her.She has to probably endure the yelling on a daily basis and goodness knows how bad it is for her as home.
And when she grows up will she also exhibit the same behaviour.

The first thing we noticed about a new neighbour was her constant tirade of abuse that her husband had to endure when he returned from work.
She used to stand on the pavement complaining to everyone about it . A couple wanted the neighbours to complain about it and they eventually moved.
Then ,when she had children there were huge rows about chores when they became older it was particularly awful for the middle girl .
She has grown up to be incredibly moody and difficult to such an extent that I think that she needs counselling.
Apparently,her aggressive behaviour is due to the poor genes that she inherited from her father not her.

4allweknow

Seems that the person must be a regular if taling children to school by train. My concern would be the children not just for witnessing the behaviour towatds you but directed towards them. Some contact with social services would be top of my list. If that's what she's like in public what on earth is she like behind closed doors.

Thank you everyone for your helpful feedback. I must update you all. I have just got off the train and this particular mum was walking upstairs behind me again. Of course this time I totally ignored her. However she was pleasantly speaking to her daughter in a happy sing song voice encouraging her nicely to help her with the bags. This is honestly the first time she has not yelled at her. I realise it was for my benefit proving she can be a nice mummy. But it really made my morning even if she can be pleasant to her for a short time thats progress!

Yes that is the problem here she is constantly yelling at her older daughter its not a one off! Unfortunately it is such a small Station that there is not any staff around to help her.

Tanjamaltija

'She is very unpleasant and I tried once before to help her and I was yelled and sworn at...' so why did you offer again? On the lines of fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me... and anyway, since there were bystanders, you will note that not one of them offered to help her... I wonder why...

Yes you are right so foolish to offer help again! I have learnt my lesson now!

Claudia1969

Thank you for your reply. The station is very small and unfortunately there is not a lift. It also makes it more awkward too as its hard to avoid other passengers. You get to see the same passengers daily. But you are right I have to just ignore her.

I thought ALL platforms had to be accessible now?

Yes, she was rude, but possibly stressed and having trouble with the older child not doing what she was told (possibly not really old enough to have that responsibility?)

Try not to give it another thought, unless you want to complain to the station mgt company?

Where my brother lives, there is a big message on one platform telling people to go to the next stop and come back if they want street access without steps

At mine there are now lifts, but before there was signposts to the goods ramp at the far end of the platform.

Nanny27

I’ve been in a similar position many a time with three under 4. Carry toddler in one arm.
Carry buggy, folded, in other hand.
Tell older child to hold on to you and….
Off you go!
No shouting necessary.

Small rucksack on back too, don't carry a bag.

I don't know how heavy or cumbersome 'buggies' are now, perhaps more like pushchairs.

Just stay away from her and sit in another seat. Don't speak or look at her again. She is not your problem.

She obviously can't cope with her own children. And l do feel sorry for the kids but not for her.

There are lots of people like her who thinks everybody else should look after their kids.

Which begs the question. Why do they have kids in that case.

Seems that the person must be a regular if taling children to school by train. My concern would be the children not just for witnessing the behaviour towatds you but directed towards them. Some contact with social services would be top of my list. If that's what she's like in public what on earth is she like behind closed doors.

I’ve been in a similar position many a time with three under 4. Carry toddler in one arm.
Carry buggy, folded, in other hand.
Tell older child to hold on to you and….
Off you go!
No shouting necessary.

How awful and upsetting for you. Just ignore her completely

Ignore her and pretend you are deaf ....

Gummie

None of us know her story or what might have happened to her that morning.

The OP has said that this particular woman is a regular on the platform and has yelled and sworn at others before. Could understand a one off when a mother is just at the end of her tether but this woman sounds like a repeat offender. And as I said before I fear for her children in these circumstances.

You're very patient Claudia, if that had been me, she'd have had a verbal blasting to rival a power sander.

Oh, and if she's like it constantly, I'd find a way to report her to social services.