Wedding woe ( chickenpox ! )

I had invited some friends to a pre-Christmas lunch on the 21st December. The husband turned up with an horrendous virus, coughing and spluttering everywhere.

He said "Well, I knew you would have bought in the food ......"

I became ill on Christmas morning and - because I have a number of other health conditions - it took me six weeks to get better. I would much rather have wasted the food I'd bought.

are there male familythat can attend her it doesnot say it has to be a female

Ask a doctor, or pharmacist

Farmor15

Too late now, but chickenpox vaccine would have protected the child!
Most adults have had chickenpox, and will be immune, so someone can mind the child during the wedding. Adults can NOT catch shingles from someone with chickenpox, but anyone who hasn't had it could be vulnerable.

Unfortunately, adults can catch chicken pox, even if they have had it as children.

I had had chicken pox when I was three, and contracted it again 25 years later when my 2 year old niece who was staying with us came down with it. I was dreadfully ill, which was unpleasant but bearable, but I passed it on to a dear lady, I had known since childhood, who was dying of cancer at the time, and really did not need chicken pox as well.

I had visited her for the last time before I knew I had chicken pox.

So keep that child at home.

There is a fallacy that once you have had chickenpox you are immune, not true I’ve had it four times and shingles twice, as you can imagine when I was offered the shingles vaccine I accepted with alacrity, number three son caught chickenpox at one month old even though he was breastfed only, he has since had it once more as an adult. It’s unfortunate but no wedding for the sufferer, you have to also take into account any older folk who may not have yet had the shingles vaccine.

My sister's first boyfriend caught chicken pox from their daughter as he hadn't had it as a child. He ended up in hospital for a couple of weeks and was very ill. Apparently, it can be quite serious in adults.
Keep the child away from the wedding at all costs incase any adults haven't had it or any poorly children catch it.

If your daughter has been vaccinated or has had chicken pox, it's unlikely that she would be carrying any contagion to the wedding. But she has to decide is staying at home and nursing her poorly son or disappointing her sister and leaving her without a bridesmaid.

NangelaMary

Do you think Lathyrus 3 my daughter my Grandsons mother should still be bridesmaid ?

She will be fine if she has had chickenpox already, but may need to stay home with her child

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Surely this is a question that shouldn't need to be asked?
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Unless the spots have blistered over, I think a doctor would say for him to stay away (and possibly the parents). If they decide to do differently, they should know they risk others at the wedding contracting it. (This is potentially serious if anyone there is pregnant). No one is to blame for this and I don’t hold that vaccination would necessarily prevent it. A case in point was my son at uni who got mumps alongside all his flatmates. He was the only one vaccinated and contracted it last out of them all and suffered for less days and less severely than any of the others, so you can’t always know completely… My gc have also had a range of ‘childhood’ illnesses despite being fully vaccinated. I hope it doesn’t spoil the day too much and hold onto the fact that the main thing is that your daughter gets married whatever!

only one *not vaccinated

What a shame!
Unfortunately Sod’s Law says that if your kids are going to get chicken pox, the odds are that it’ll be just before you’re due to go on holiday, or some major family occasion.

Best reason to get them vaccinated asap!

Child should not attend. How would they feel if there was anyone attending who may be pregnant, especially unknowingly and
caught chickenpox.

Disappointing yes but the responsible action to take is to keep the little boy away from wedding guests

What a dissapointment for all. Maybe someone could film wedding live for them on whats app. It's too risky.
If you have guests with rhumatoid arthritis they have to avoid chicken pox.

How different to the 1970’s when we were encouraged to mix with other children so you pass the disease on and we would have herd immunity !

If the child is in the infectious stage then parents should isolate, too, until that stage has passed, usually about six days after the rash appears and when spots have crusted over. Don't forget that as well as the wedding party itself there may be vulnerable people providing services in church or wedding venue or the reception venue.

I've not had chicken pox, I wouldn't be very happy if I found myself in contact with someone who was deliberately brought to the wedding suffering from it. And as others have said it's very dangerous if you're pregnant or vulnerable

My son had chickenpox when I got married. He was going to be a page boy. I told him not to worry but just give a big smile so no-one would notice his spots. In every wedding photo, there is my son with the biggest, cheesiest grin imaginable! His spots had crusted over but I didn't have anyone who could look after him so he had to be there. We just notified the guests.

I don’t understand why people think the parents should isolate too, or not attend the wedding. Unless of course they have not had chickenpox. In which case they could themselves be affected, and infect others. If you get a very mild dose of chickenpox, you can get it again, but I think this is pretty unusual.

There is a common fallacy that people can get shingles from being exposed to chickenpox, but this is no longer thought to be the case. Anyone who has ever had chickenpox carries the virus in their body and it can reactivate as shingles. And this can happen more than once. That’s a separate issue.

The child clearly should be at the wedding if he is still infectious. If they is someone who has had chickenpox, and is willing and able to look after him, I don’t see why the parents shouldn’t go to the wedding?

This is an absolute no brainer. Of course he should not go to the wedding. He has a contagious disease.
I am gob smacked you even posted this.,?????????

I cannot believe this is a dilemma

Anybody who may be contagious should not go to the wedding.

Doctor said for me to send husband away when my son had chicken pox (MIL said husband had not had it). I was happy to do that because I had chicken pox at 18 and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Luckily I knew when my son had been exposed!

Oh what a shame. I’m sorry to read this. However, I totally agree that the child needs keeping away from others “till the scabs fall off”. When I was a childminder one of the babies caught it, then my son, daughter, other child I was minding and his grandmother! got it. It’s highly infectious.
On another occasion my boss caught it (sales office not childcare) He was in his 50’s and extremely poorly.
PS. He was not amused when I sent him a copy of the Beano, Dandy and a box of lollipops 😉

My friend, who was having treatment for breast cancer, died when she caught chicken pox. She was 63.