Pretty privilege

My DS has it but it is not just his looks it is also that he pays attention to all those he is with and those around him.

I think there is more to it than just looks, although, I have yet to put my finger on it.

My late sister was pleasant looking but nothing special, but she had a certain charm that meant people fell over themselves to help her. In the days before suitcases with wheels, there was always someone around prepared to help her with her suitcase, while I stood by her carrying my own suitcase without any offers of help at all.

She had the kind of job, where a death in service meant a public memorial service in a City church organised by her employer, and so many people told me how surprised they were by how devastated they had been by her death - but there was just a certain something about her.

I have met other people with this same indescribable uality.
Yes, prettiness does get an instant response. A bit like seeing a lovely dress in a shop window, seen, admired and walk on and forgotten. Others have that charm that lingers and stays with one.

I'm sticking with the belief that even when young the people I met were all poor sighted! ( If only)

knspol 😂

‘Handsome is as handsome does’. Something my Grandmother used to say.
I agree that good looks will get you noticed but what matters is your attitude to others. Once you get to know someone their looks are not important.

It is particular in the very pretty girl Trump puts out front to speak for him. Would we listen to a plain girl? It is a deliberate tactic to woo us to his way of operating.
I am also mildly intrigued by a very pretty blonde who is a GB News presenter in the mornings. Seems vacant to me but she is there for the same reason as Trump's girl. Anything that a pretty girl spouts is attractive!

When our granddaughter was around three, people were always remarking on how beautiful she was, and one day she replied “everyone says that!” Obviously I cringed, but with the innocence of a toddler it was true. She’s nearly 20 now and still a stunner.

I have a niece and another young woman in my family who are very striking girls with good manners and nice smiles.

When they were in their early twenties both men and women dropped whatever they were doing and practically fell over their own feet to help these two, both in shops and in public offices.

My younger niece was a nice looking girl, but in no way out of the ordinary, and time and again she would be ignored by the very same people who had rushed to help her elder sister.

So this is decidedly one advantage of being striking, beautiful or handsome and it applies equally to young men.

The down-side is, as already mentioned, that they tend to attract members of the opposite sex who are only interested in their looks.

This is also one reason why the elderly and old tend to be overlooked in shops and offices, unless we compensate by looking assured.

I remember shopping in a DIY shop with a very pretty friend, I had never known such service before or after. People kept coming up to her and asking if she needed any help. She wasn’t aware of what ordinary mortals put up with.

Reminds me of the time I was 8 months pregnant and on a very crowded tube with my stunningly pretty sister-in-law who was about 17 at the time. A seat was offered - to her, not me!

I remember once struggling to put my overnight bag in the rack on a train when visiting my daughter a few years ago, I didn’t expect anyone to help me, have always managed such things myself, but lo and behold the number of young men who jumped up to help a leggy blonde of much younger years put a smaller bag in the overhead rack. Was not at all bothered though, the poor girl had to listen to a young man who plonked himself down next to her tell her all about himself and how successful he was without once asking about her.
Am more than happy to swerve such unwanted attention.

Of course it exists. Always has.

I’m sure she’s stunning like many other girls. How she comes across may help, maybe she smiles a lot and is friendly.

Norah - ‘Yes. Beauty whispers power’.

If that’s true, how on God’s earth did Trump get to be where he is?
(Waste of space).

NotSpaghetti

No. It's what (many) people do.
There are accademic papers on it.
And the reverse.

I'm sure that NotSpaghetti is right in saying this.
But do we have to describe this as "privilege" FGDS.
Some people of either sex can't help their looks and/or charm but particularly their looks and will inevitably derive some benefit from it.
Describing it as "privilege" seems ready to consign to " victimhood" anyone who is not handsome/pretty etc.
The world is not fair. Life is not fair. Gifts of all kind are randomly distributed. Accepting this is one of the first steps in being an adult.
Everyone has to make a fist of whatever they're given and a fist of their life as best they can.
I presume that the thread title is "ragebait" and I elephant like fell into the trap but this victimhood stuff really gets my goat.

even though she now carries extra weight it still applies

Blimey!

It's not just your face, it's the hair colour too.
Had my hair dyed at around age 30, from dark to red.
Went out, with the same face obviously, and was astonished at the increased amount of attention.

For those of you who think you are less than beautiful, you can’t beat a beautiful smile. Even if we are older we still count. To all you people who are beautiful, long may it last.

Everyone is different. Some have looks. Some have brains. Some have bodies. Some are athletes. Some are affectionate. Some are psychos. Some are ….. what’s your point?

It's a question being asked. Is there such a thing as 'pretty privilege'?

Maremia

It's a question being asked. Is there such a thing as 'pretty privilege'?

Exactly - and I don't see how it pushes those of us who are not pretty into 'victimhood'. I certainly don't see it that way. What you've never had, you never miss.

TiggyW

Norah - ‘Yes. Beauty whispers power’.

If that’s true, how on God’s earth did Trump get to be where he is?
(Waste of space).

Does he whisper?

He judges everyone by their looks.
Listen out, if you can bear it, for his phrase 'Central casting'.

When my son was young, people,mainly women, used to stop us in the street and give him money. Bizarre.

I’m short, curvy, pretty when younger with big natural bouncers. Men fell off the curb looking. Men would swarm, but women never liked me.