Pretty privilege

Of course "pretty privilege" exists. A friend is 60, very tall, slim and extremely attractive with thick, long, blonde hair. I love going anywhere with her although I stand in her shadow, literally. Men rush to help her, she gets served quickly at the bar and in restaurants and we always seem to get to the front of any queue with ease. She's also kind, generous and just a little bit dizzy which makes her fun too. I'm not the slightest bit in envy of her as she's had an "interesting" life but I would like to be a bit taller. Looks don't insulate people from life's disappointments and tragedies but it can smooth over some of the irritations.

My DD has continued to be glamorous. This is fine now but when she was a young girl she used to have the nickname, 'Barbie' or, worse, 'Jailbait'!

NotSpaghetti

No. It's what (many) people do.
There are accademic papers on it.
And the reverse.

You’re right, and I once heard a radio discussion about it.Both men and women, and boys and girls too have a much easier ride if attractive.People being kinder to them, doing things for them unasked, better luck with job interviews and being promoted.

Yes, Oreo the whole thing is unfair but the jobs side seems really terrible - as often the physically more conventionally "attractive" person may well not be the best for the job.

I hate the idea of people losing out like that.

I suppose, Lilyflower, that those with a great wit and personality will only get a chance to shine after getting a job/ having the conversations/ becoming known to someone through a friend or whatever.. The "pretty" ones get those opportunities more regularly.
That's maybe all it is.

It still means you can be pretty and also pretty boring - but of course you can be unattractive and pretty boring too!
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Yes most definitely. I miss the attention of being young and all that goes with that. My DD and DGD are both so gorgeous and I love that.

It's the way of the world really. Once you are older it's a case of looking after whatever you have.

My mother was stunning ( I take after my dad 🫣) she used to get asked if she was Grace Kelly. She said it was a curse sometimes as because you can pick and choose who you want to be with by the time you’ve decided all the good ones are gone ( poor dad 😂).

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Biscuitmuncher

Labradora how on earth was my question ragebait? Have I touched a nerve?

You probably did touch a nerve , Biscuitmuncher , as there are a selection of topics that seriously get my goat.
To be very clear however there is nothing whatsoever intrinsically improper or offensive about your thread title.
Just my reaction to the modern use of the word "privilege".😊😊💐

I discovered this when I was in the sixth form and my best friend Linda was a girl with serious good looks. Blonde, blue eyed, great figure. I was more or less invisible wherever we went (mouse brown hair, grey green eyes and podgy). I was shy and very happy to let her take centre stage, but I was amazed that she was treated so well.

It can work both ways especially if the person in question is slim petite and blonde. My DD has a first class degree and she worked successfully as a freelance for a few years before deciding to do a PGCE course. She also did a bit of modelling including a catwalk fashion show for a well known range of petite clothing.

On the first day of her PGCE course she met her pastoral mentor, a man, for the first time. He took one look at her and asked her if she felt she was "up to it academically and temperamentally." This was before any discussion had taken place.

She even, briefly, had a boyfriend who demanded to see all her certificates before he believed that she had more and better qualifications than he had.