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Mandymoo456 Thu 12-Mar-26 16:11:18

Hi I'm recently trying to cope with adult sons death, he lived abroad, he was 44 and struggled for many years with his mental health,
I have two absolutely brilliant other children who I have to watch struggling with this
I do feel talking to people who have been through the emotions would be so useful

TwiceAsNice Thu 12-Mar-26 16:21:38

I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost a son many years ago as a child so not quite the same. I’m not sure if you are saying your son took his own life because of his mental health issues.

If so there is a charity called SOBS which offers support after losing someone from suicide if you feel that might be helpful. Also CRUSE gives bereavement support and counselling . They both have branches all over the country

If I have made an assumption about his cause of death I am sorry and wish you well

Blossoming Thu 12-Mar-26 16:22:50

I have no ecperience myself but didn’t want to scroll past. So sorry for your loss, I hope you can find some helpful advice.

Norah Thu 12-Mar-26 16:23:23

I'll pray. flowers

Netherbyg84 Thu 12-Mar-26 16:26:17

There's also a charity called Compassionate Friends.

see their website.

Luckygirl3 Thu 12-Mar-26 16:27:15

I am so sorry that you are bearing this awful burden.

Depression is a serious illness which, in spite of help and support from family, friends and professionals, can leave people feeling that there is no escape. There is nothing that others can do nor can this be predicted in any way.

Please accept my condolences.

teabagwoman Thu 12-Mar-26 17:16:39

I’m so sorry you’re having to cope with this. Below is a link to SOBS. It’s a brilliant charity that provides support to people who have been bereaved by suicide.

uksobs.com/

sankev Thu 12-Mar-26 17:17:52

Heart felt condolences Mandymoo. Having lost a son as a child I understand how absolutely heartbreaking it is. In your circumstances I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you all. The only advice I can offer is continue to seek help. As others have already mentioned there is help out there. Perhaps family counselling would help you all to accept what has happened. Either way, continue to talk and remember to look after yourself. It really is a matter of putting your own oxygen mask on first before trying to help others. My very best wishes to you and your family 🌹

Smileless2012 Thu 12-Mar-26 17:25:47

Saying I'm sorry is woefully inadequate I know Mandymoo but I am flowers.

Mandymoo456 Thu 12-Mar-26 17:44:22

Thankyou my daughter helps us so much

Mandymoo456 Thu 12-Mar-26 17:46:37

Thankyou for the advice, yes he suffered for twenty years, from late teens, it's been horrific not being in his life

Mandymoo456 Thu 12-Mar-26 17:47:25

Thankyou

Mandymoo456 Thu 12-Mar-26 17:47:57

That's useful

Bridie22 Thu 12-Mar-26 17:51:14

S.o.b.s. Is a bevereament by suicide charity help line, very helpful.

Kate1949 Thu 12-Mar-26 18:02:51

I'm so sorry. Many years ago my brother did this. He was 24. The shock of a suicide in the family is hard to describe. Especially that of a child.

Bukkie Thu 12-Mar-26 18:07:55

My friend's son took his own life aged 19 in 2020. The family have found MIND really beneficial. My friend now works as a counsellor for them supporting people bereaved by suicide.

Chocolatelovinggran Thu 12-Mar-26 18:38:36

I wanted to add my condolences, too, Mandymoo. My cousin's son did the same a couple of years ago.
Depression is a terrible thing, and is a real danger to young men, especially.
I hope that you can find support and acceptance.

TerriBull Thu 12-Mar-26 18:47:48

I'm so sorry for your loss flowers

murraymints65 Thu 12-Mar-26 19:17:48

My son died almost three years ago next month, he was 48 he never told me how bad his mental health was, he took to alcohol to ease his pain and in the end it killed him. I wish he had talked to me, I maybe could of helped him. To loose a child what ever age they are is a nightmare and nothing prepares you for it

Mandymoo456 Fri 13-Mar-26 03:20:28

Dear dear dear, you must be devastated, I'm so sorry this has happened
I hope you find some comfort on this site and others, I intend to surround myself with like-minded people, I'm getting comfort in that at the moment

barmcake Fri 13-Mar-26 05:53:46

I know from experience there will be you before this terrible tragedy and you after. Life will never be the same.

Things like eating and sleeping improve with time; think about what you're son would want for you. Some people are not for this life and it was his choice to go. I don't think there's anything you could have done.

This is probably going to be the most devastating moment in your life but you will eventually realise that there's nothing you can do to change it, and you will learn to cope given time. My thoughts are with you.

BlueBelle Fri 13-Mar-26 06:36:58

😪 nothing to add I can’t imagine the heartbreak you are suffering 💐

Toetoe Fri 13-Mar-26 07:37:22

My dear friends son took his life last year . She still says she could have helped if he had come to her , but the truth is he would have done it at another time as he had tried before . Such loss and so sad . We chat about him often and I am a good listener and aware I can't fix her or the situation . I often think this world is a harsh place and there are many beautiful sensitive people who find it hard to be here . So deeply sorry to hear of your loss .

Primrose53 Fri 13-Mar-26 08:55:02

I have a friend whose adult son committed suicide 5 years ago. He had graduated from Uni and had a good job, lots of friends and a good social life. There was no indication that he was troubled and it was a tremendous shock when the Police turned up to tell his parents as he lived in another county.

So very sorry for your loss.

Mandymoo456 Mon 16-Mar-26 18:50:12

Thankyou all you have really made me realize that I'm not alone