Wedding invitations

I think the wording has probably changed as many couples pay for their own wedding and live together beforehand. I can't remember what the wording on mine said as I've been divorced for a long time and I threw out lots of memorabilia from that time. Mum and dad paid for the wedding and my dress and I was horrified at the cost at the time. £2000.

I remember there being a bit of snobbery going on about embossed or flat printed invitations back in the 60s and 70s.

Recently, my DD has designed several wedding invitations professionally and it seems that anything goes. Mostly the invitations are sent by the couple rather than the bride's parents these days.

Ours were printed - not very fancily IIRC - and sent with trad wording from my parents. ‘Mr and Mrs X request the company of…. RSVP’.

I still remember my father being very tickled by one of them being returned by an old schoolfriend of dh - he had merely written ‘YES PLEASE!’ in big letters on the invitation.

I do remember my wedding invitations, white with silver embellishments on.My parents ordered and paid for them.
I honestly don’t know if today it still happens, but my DD’s had much the same invitations sent out to their weddings.
Couples now live together first, often for a number of years so will do their own invitations and likely not use a printer either but just buy them online.
The next step will just be emailing or texting an invitation!😬

I think it’s now very common for a save the date card. You no longer need to go to a printer as you can just go online and download from loads of designs. With the cost of postage as it is now I would imagine ecards are quite popular. In the past 20 years there are bridal shows where all the suppliers meet under one roof for everything from flowers to dresses. There are also good offers on many items.

I got a wedding invitation only last week, which arrived via Wots app which you tapped into a link.
It was a elaborate production, pictures of the couple (my dear niece) with all the possible information you would need including how to get there, hotels etc you just "ticked" the return link and they got an instant RSVP.
Sure you could print it off it you want.
When my DD got married coming up for 10 years ago she did all the invites on line but as cards to send off.
Think the day of getting invites printed have now gone.

I got a wedding invitation only last week, which arrived via Wots app which you tapped into a link.

At least with a WhatsApp message the sender can see who has received and read their message! Unlike with Royal Mail 😕

Yes things are very different but we should expect that, my own wedding was 68 years ago this August.
My GD’s friend got married 4 weeks ago and there was lots of things ordered all online.
From ,save the date, to the hen night, actual invitations, place settings, sundry other things all matched and the invitations came from the couple with every detail covered , time to be seated at the venue, time to leave, local hotels and a request for cash towards the honeymoon instead of gifts which is a trend now.
Certainly beats the toast racks, hideous vases, wooden implements never used etc which was common all those years ago.

And then there were " the show of presents" where family relatives from both sides and another night for friends and workmates. Long gone days but things are different now and I'm sure couples prefer the way it is nowadays.

polomint

And then there were " the show of presents" where family relatives from both sides and another night for friends and workmates. Long gone days but things are different now and I'm sure couples prefer the way it is nowadays.

A little bit like The Generation Game. "Didn't they do well!"

we were married in the 60's and as polomint said that's exactly how ours were printed, there were also thank you cards to give when we received a gift,Last year a neighbor was getting married ,they invited people by text or whatsapp.

Not only wedding invitations, but Order Of Service sheets for the ceremony, (church), little fancy cardboard boxes to send out a piece of wedding cake (always fruit) to guests unable to attend, and paper napkins with the couple’s names on.

From our wedding, nearly 54 years ago.

I have an album with the wedding photos in, alongside one of each of these mementoes.

As part of my ‘decluttering’, I recently outed all the ‘spares’ of above items from a suitcase in the loft.

The invites were used for shopping lists, and the napkins are in a drawer, to be used on the rare occasions I host a meal for friends, it will be ‘deja vu’.

And you had to have a good memory when going round all the gifts to remember who gave you what. There was always a one aunt who would remind you. Plus the envelopes of money had to be laid out on the bed along with lamps, sheets,kettles, cutlery and dear know what else. As for sending out the invitations, postage was much cheaper then and most, if not all the guests, replied by post

Forty years ago, I went to a local printers who supplied the invitations, order of service, placecards, headed note paper and envelopes for thank yous, all in the same design.

We lived at home with our parents until our wedding night and had nothing for our new home, except furniture. We had 100 guests. I wrote our wedding present list out of the Argos catalogue and were lucky to receive everything we could possibly need, from cutlery, crockery, pots & pans to step ladders, garden tools and wheelbarrow!

Visgir1

I got a wedding invitation only last week, which arrived via Wots app which you tapped into a link.
It was a elaborate production, pictures of the couple (my dear niece) with all the possible information you would need including how to get there, hotels etc you just "ticked" the return link and they got an instant RSVP.
Sure you could print it off it you want.
When my DD got married coming up for 10 years ago she did all the invites on line but as cards to send off.
Think the day of getting invites printed have now gone.

Brilliant idea. Wedding cards can’t be re- cycled 👏👏👏

I am not even sure whether I had any printed invitations for my wedding. It was a church wedding, but I never ever wanted to be a 'bride' so it was an agreement between me and my parents, church because we were catholic, congregation limited to immediate family and god parents, Best man (and fiancee) and Best woman, my closest friend. I think all invites were by word of mouth.

Calendargirl

Not only wedding invitations, but Order Of Service sheets for the ceremony, (church), little fancy cardboard boxes to send out a piece of wedding cake (always fruit) to guests unable to attend, and paper napkins with the couple’s names on.

From our wedding, nearly 54 years ago.

I have an album with the wedding photos in, alongside one of each of these mementoes.

As part of my ‘decluttering’, I recently outed all the ‘spares’ of above items from a suitcase in the loft.

The invites were used for shopping lists, and the napkins are in a drawer, to be used on the rare occasions I host a meal for friends, it will be ‘deja vu’.

Calendargirl, I have saved some of these too..in the drawer under the bed, paper serviettes with silver bells and our names, and little drawstring bags for a peice of cake, also have a list of all the guests , some invitations and acceptance cards...it's lovely to look back on...

We had printed invitations from my parents but not silver edged with squirly writing and they matched the Order of Service. I have both in our wedding album. We honeymooned in the dead of winter in Devon, our Reception was at home all prepared by my Mum and lasted from 1-3pm. I had no Bridesmaids, the Best Woman was my husbands Sister and our wedding list was at Boots in the days when they sold hardwear etc...all very 70s and we are still together ! Happy Days

I remember all the beautiful and elaborate wedding invitation cards from the Sixties and RSVP conventions

As the cost of postage in now really expensive l can see why people are now going online.

Maybe the future maybe a Virtual Reality Avatar invitation designed by AI you can send on Tik Tok?

Our invitations were plain white card embossed with silver print, as my mother thought the ones with pictures were common! She also was a bit disapproving of acceptance cards, and she would always reply to any she received with a handwritten letter, ‘ Mr and Mrs X thank Mr and Mrs Y for their kind invitation etc, etc, and have much pleasure in accepting’.
When I look at the vast array of printed stationery, tableware, favours that are bought nowadays, I remember how tickled we were with books of matches with our names and the date on them!

And highly decorated Wedding Congratulation telegrams to send if you couldn’t attend .
Read out during the speeches by the best man.

i still have the lovely box and spare invitations from my mum and dads wedding. i think it was lovely to have them done by a printer, the way they were presented was really nice

How sad. Conventions disappearing. Who did not love a row of "stiffys" on the mantlepiece? Apart from the black on white printed wedding invitations, there were the ubiquitous "At Home" cards. All with RSVP on the bottom - a handwritten response was expected!

DD's wedding in 1998 similar to ours in 1965, as described above by many of you. But DS rang us in 2002 and told us that he and his girlfriend would be getting married the following Thursday, in the local registry office.