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Dontcallmelove Tue 31-Mar-26 11:43:35

I have a friend, who at 70 is wearing mini skirts. She is very thin and her legs are slim but not ‘nice’. She looks older than 70 and can really wear some clothes well but she has decided she wants to update her style and some of the clothes she has been buying look awful and inappropriate on her as she can’t carry the style off that well. I think her 32 yo DiL has been advising her. Normally I go with a do what you want to do attitude but people are commenting on how silly she looks. I’m torn between telling her, gently, that maybe the mini skirts are now dated, or ignoring the comments. She would be really upset if she heard any of them.

Aveline Sat 04-Apr-26 06:52:10

Oh yes indeed. Live and let live and be aware that you might be judged. Such is life.

Dickens Sat 04-Apr-26 10:50:43

FriedGreenTomatoes2

I had to look her up Dickens as I’m a curious person.

grin

I think her hair is lovely and it suits her face and is part of her whole persona, but of course my opinion is purely subjective.

Others think she needs a trim. However, I don't see why there has to be a uniform look or fashion in old age, rather what we wear and how we style our hair depends very much on factors like face-shape/bone structure, skin tone, height, etc.

Aveline Sat 04-Apr-26 10:54:11

I've just discovered 'The Ministry of Style' aka Jane and Beryl on Instagram. They're really funny but also good

Aveline Sat 04-Apr-26 11:08:24

Insta 'What Jane and Beryl Wear'.
They are such fun that they absolutely belong on here.

Kate1949 Sat 04-Apr-26 12:03:52

Well I expect those of you who are commenting/criticising the style/hair etc of others are ultra stylish with perfectly coiffured hair.

nanna8 Sat 04-Apr-26 12:04:10

I’d keep out of it and if she is happy wearing miniskirts good for her. At her age she shouldn’t have to conform, she should dress as she thinks fit.

silverlining48 Sat 04-Apr-26 12:15:15

Recommend the poem When I am old by Jenny Joseph.

nanna8 Mon 06-Apr-26 04:14:12

The Red Hat Society has that poem as one of their flagships.

Basgetti Mon 06-Apr-26 10:59:00

Gran22boys

Replying to Basgeti’s comment:
Very, very few older people can carry off the Judi pixie cut and would frankly look a great deal better with long hair!
I didn’t mean older ladies should all have very short hair. There are plenty of flattering short or medium styles. Long hair draws the face down and is unflattering. However long hair pinned up can look very elegant.

Mine doesn’t. It’s very flattering 🤷‍♀️