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Desperately sad story of the assisted suicide of a grieving mother

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JenniferEccles Fri 24-Apr-26 17:09:37

Wendy Duffy’s only son died in tragic circumstances four years ago and his mother said her heart was too broken to carry on, so she travelled to Dignitas yesterday.

There will be differing opinions of course but who can decide how much anguish anyone can endure?

Macaydia Mon 27-Apr-26 07:48:49

Also, i dont think it should be a group class. It should be one-on-one confidential sessions.

Chocolatelovinggran Mon 27-Apr-26 07:54:02

I think, Basgetti, that polls reporting on views regarding assisted dying are more nuanced than you suggest.
I'm not sure that every poll supports your postulation that " a large majority of the uk population agrees with euthanasia", and, of course, when debated in Parliament, MPs are, in fact, elected.
Our Member of Parliament held meetings to seek the views of her constituents on the matter.
I am ambivalent in this, and my heart goes out to anyone suffering so much.

Macaydia Mon 27-Apr-26 08:00:00

The trouble that I see with this is that if its legal, does that mean a person 18 years of age can choose this even though their brain has not fully developed due to their young age?

Galaxy Mon 27-Apr-26 17:01:21

The minimum age in the bill is 18. So the answer is hypothetically yes.

Dickens Tue 28-Apr-26 01:06:09

JenniferEccles

Wendy Duffy’s only son died in tragic circumstances four years ago and his mother said her heart was too broken to carry on, so she travelled to Dignitas yesterday.

There will be differing opinions of course but who can decide how much anguish anyone can endure?

The question in your post - who can decide how much anguish anyone can endure? - is the pertinent one I think. All the other considerations regarding euthanasia, like safeguards, age restriction, etc, are sort of academic, if the principle is accepted; that being IMO, that it is an unacceptable arrogance to assume the right to dictate how much mental anguish or physical pain another individual should tolerate. Even if, as is probably often the case, that assumption comes from a good heart, a well-meaning one.

I think many of us believe that, with the right support, proper counselling, care, time, and medication if the suffering is physical, people can endure. But, if you read about some cases of suicide, it becomes apparent that the sufferer did in fact have the love and support of family and friends, even proper professional counselling but, regardless, their misery, their depression, could not be borne.

I cannot imagine being in that mental state of mind, but clearly people are sometimes, and the very fact that I can't imagine it, is the very reason why I should not be the one to decide how much another person must endure in order to make me feel comfortable.